lmpishlilhellcat
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Recently, within the past few months, there has been two occasions when it came time for a first meet the men wanted to arrange the date around their dogs' routines. One guy didn't want to meet in the evening because his dogs would "freak out" if he left them alone in the evening so we would have to meet for lunch. The dogs were fine to be left alone during the day because they were used to him being away when he was working. The other said he couldn't meet later than 7 p.m because he had to take his dog for a walk and couldn't trust his adult son (who is living with him) to walk the dog.
Maybe I'm being over sensitive but, really? Not wanting to disrupt your pets routine so that you could potentially have a relationship with someone? I have a cat so I don't have the worry of walking my pet and the cat certainly doesn't freak out if I leave him alone. I couldn't see how a relationship could ensue with a person who needed to date around the dogs' needs.
I work full time and have a crazy schedule so trying to arrange meeting times is tough enough. Then, to further have to consider Fido's needs is a bit too complicated for me.
So, I told both of these guys, forget it. They both thought I was being unreasonable. Not being a dog owner I'm wondering. Am I being unreasonable?
I wouldn't change my schedule or not meet someone because of my dogs routine. Quite possibly they were being extreme. I can't really judge this situation, because my husband insists that ours go with us every where. Although I will say, my dogs are on a very strict schedule and even on the weekends they adhere to that schedule. I think I'm sleeping in and nope not a chance. However, if my dogs didn't like someone or that person didn't like my dogs, buh bye.
When I'm out with friends I can only stay out a certain amount of time. It's not a ridiculously short amount of time, but it a set amount of time. My dogs get a daily walk, no matter what. I do this for them and me. They don't go past a certain amount of time without going to the bathroom. I own a pet and therefore I make sacrifices because it's what you do. If you can't be responsible, want to be selfish, and you want to leave that dog alone for 12 hours, well you shouldn't have one. (just my opinion and I'm not saying anyone does this). Dogs aren't like cats, they require a lot more attention and time.
Mine are particularly active and require a lot of exercise. I live in an apt where pent up energy leads to a lot of barking and pissed off neighbors. We try to be very considerate of our neighbors. I get pissed when their kids scream, yell, jump, and run across the floor. We try not to let our dogs annoy them. This means 3-6 mile walks/hikes, playing soccer ball, and constant training. I guess if that's spoiling my dogs rotten, then I'm guilty.
I don't just trust anyone with my dogs. We both checked on the petsitter for several weeks, and watched the dogs behavior to make sure they were okay.
I would just chalk it up to the fact that you aren't compatible. If someone thinks I'm being unreasonable or spending to much time with my dogs, then we aren't a good match. I loved my husband because the dogs were as important to him as they were to me. I came into the relationship with dogs and he fully accepted them and our already existing schedule.
< Message edited by lmpishlilhellcat -- 3/11/2013 5:28:49 PM >
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