Phoenixpower
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ORIGINAL: jlf1961 I took enough lives when I was in the army, so now I have a new perspective on life. But what the fuck do I know, I am only a former dumb grunt. I do not think you are "only a former dumb grunt" but I do think you underestimate how much it can affect a womans life when she is pregnant and on top of it if her world falls apart in a way as badly as she never expected it would be possible... I have been heavily against abortion but when I have been pregnant and many things went down the hills I was glad (and still am!) that I had the option to do so...to be able to do so I actually went abroad, as it has been a tad bit too late in my own country...and was at risk of dying during that operation, as I have been told afterwards...which IMO showed me the inner conflict I had with at one side not wanting it to happen but at the other side - at that time - not seeing another option... A friend of mine who wanted kids badly (meanwhile she has twins but she struggled a lot to get pregnant) was shocked that I went down that way as she knew that this is so not me and also due to the fact that she wanted kids badly.... Now, after she spoke to her mum about it, her mum shared her experiences with her and told her, that if she would not have had as supportive parents as she had, when she was pregnant with her (she was 17 or 18 when she got her), she might have committed suicide in that time.... That doesn't mean, that she necessarily would have done that....but remove that right from a woman, when she is not able to go abroad for that option, that's another option that she might go down that route....as quite frankly, many women get more sensitive when they are pregnant (at least I did and I know others who did), so to mess up with the state they are in during that time, is just not a healthy option either... Also during my studies I read articles which claimed that when a mother-to-be is overly stressed during the first 3 months, there would be an increased risk of that unborn baby to develop mental health problems later in life (of course it does not mean it will happen, but according to those articles it seems that the risk increases in regards to that) so IMO letting mothers-to-be bring kids into the world they struggle to cope with, is not necessarily the best option....as it can affect mentally the mother and the baby afterwards, after all, already mothers who want to be mums can suffer from post natal depression... So I am certainly Pro Choice and would not want to bring my kid to the world, just because any insane state things "I have to." I think that would certainly be a situation I would happily avoid men for sure
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