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Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 7:54:59 AM

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Most of the ones I see advertised are 18 and older only. No big deal to me since I rarely go, but at one last year I had seen one 6 to 8 months old. One of my friends messaged me asking me if I was going in April. I laughed and told her I have a two week old baby I am nursing so no. Several have said bring her and show off that baby. I didn't think anything when someone else brought their baby but so far I have continually said no I am not bringing my baby to a munch. It did get me to wondering how many do bring kids/ young babies, have you seen them at a munch?

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 8:29:11 AM

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A lot of socials in our area are held in a bar, and I don't think it's appropriate for children to be in the bar.

Others are held on patios at restaurants and coffee houses. I wouldn't really have a problem with a baby. But, because some people lack a concept of what's appropriate behavior/clothing to wear to a social happening in a vanilla venue, I would not think it appropriate for a child older than an infant.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 8:37:24 AM

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I am aniti 'bring the baby to the munch' stance. If the munch is labeled as adults only, that's the way it should stay and the attendees shouldn't be bringing children, whether that is two weeks old or two weeks shy of their eighteenth birthday. It sends a conflicting message to any first time attendees for them to walk in, see a child, and have them thinking it's cool to bring their three year old next time. And, guess what? They'd be within their right to do so because the "adults only" requirement wasn't adhered to before, was it?

If you want to show off the new baby, you can always hold a "family friendly" get together. Leave the adults only function for adults.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 8:49:47 AM

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Me too. Several in my group have kids and I suggested going to a McDonalds with a play area instead.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 11:47:38 AM

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quote:

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I am aniti 'bring the baby to the munch' stance. If the munch is labeled as adults only, that's the way it should stay and the attendees shouldn't be bringing children, whether that is two weeks old or two weeks shy of their eighteenth birthday. It sends a conflicting message to any first time attendees for them to walk in, see a child, and have them thinking it's cool to bring their three year old next time. And, guess what? They'd be within their right to do so because the "adults only" requirement wasn't adhered to before, was it?

If you want to show off the new baby, you can always hold a "family friendly" get together. Leave the adults only function for adults.

Ditto

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 11:51:33 AM

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Yes, someone brought a baby to our munch also. I was rather shocked. It's inappropriate to bring children to an adult event.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 11:53:05 AM

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quote:

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I am aniti 'bring the baby to the munch' stance. If the munch is labeled as adults only, that's the way it should stay and the attendees shouldn't be bringing children, whether that is two weeks old or two weeks shy of their eighteenth birthday. It sends a conflicting message to any first time attendees for them to walk in, see a child, and have them thinking it's cool to bring their three year old next time. And, guess what? They'd be within their right to do so because the "adults only" requirement wasn't adhered to before, was it?

If you want to show off the new baby, you can always hold a "family friendly" get together. Leave the adults only function for adults.

Absolutely.
Even if it wasn't an issue with it muddling the rules of what it and isn't an okay age to bring kids, there is still the matter that people go to muches specifically to meet other adults to hang out and experience adult themed time with.

I'd be really annoyed at anybody interrupting my "get away from the kids and hang out with adults time" by bringing along a -potentially- crying baby.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 12:00:59 PM

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I too agree. Not everyone is a kid person and I'm of the opinion that munches are a decidedly adult event. For those reasons, I'd be uncomfortable bringing my child to a munch. She has all the opportunity and should have all the freedom in the world to figure out her interests. She doesn't need me to unduly influence her by dragging her to events tailored to my interests.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 4:32:43 PM

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Absolutely not. Adult things are just that... For adults. Only if it is talking, meeting, etc. So ditto on LP's post.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 4:40:15 PM

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Absolutely no children. There is bound to be BDSM-themed conversation, not to mention macking. Kids should not be exposed to either, especially when it's their own parents engaging in it.

Let's say for the sake of argument that the child is too young, deaf, and/or blind to absorb what's going on. I then want to know why this parent is so interested in munching when they can't even find someone to leave their child with for a few hours. Just what do they plan to do when it's a play date?

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 4:46:26 PM

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I don't go to munches, but I do go to an occasional discussion group held at a friends house, with only friends attending (not open to the public).

One woman brought her baby one time and I found it to be disruptive. Nothing against the woman or the cute little baby, but conversation was occasionally interrupted by others ooo'ing and ahhh'ing at the baby, or the baby crying, or the baby's diaper needing changing, etc. It just changed the focus a bit, and I wasn't a fan of that.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 4:52:47 PM

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If it is labeled a +18 event, then no. If I can't or don't want to get a sitter, then so be it. I don't attend. We do have family friendly munch-like events around here like trips to the science museum or an amusement park and, provided I know the people attending well enough, I guess I might attend with kids in tow. If I am still feeling anyone out that is going, then the kids are staying home whether I go or not. Not everything and every place is for kids. I wish people would get that through their heads. No more kid's chicken nuggets meals at my favorite romantic couples getaway place already! If I wanted to hear children cry or be loud, I could stay home or go to McDonalds.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 5:09:12 PM

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I think munches should be adults only.
I did know a munch that had a rule that babies up to
a year old could be brought by a parent.

If there are members of a munch group who want to
do family friendly stuff that involves their kids that's fine.
Just don't do it under the umbrella of the munch. This
same group was torn apart and dissolved because of a
disagreement about a cook out where some wanted to
bring their kids.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 6:07:36 PM

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i agree with my Mistress munch is adult only. now don't get me wrong i absolutely love kids and delighted to see infants, so bring them out to family functions and get it out of your system leave the kids out of the adults parties

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 6:19:14 PM

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I'm with everyone else, children don't belong at adult events.

However, in this day and age, people think their kids' presence is "welcome" everywhere. Movie theaters have to specifically tell people not to bring their infant to the movie, restaurants get slapped when they try to exclude small children in the interest of the majority of their customers. Then the parents defend their actions with the idea that they want their children to feel free to express themselves, and not to be scared of whatever, blah blah blah.

Know what? I'm sure your new baby is adorable, and I would likely spend some time making funny faces at her and enjoying that "new baby smell," lol. However, I ain't getting on a plane with you, I don't want your infant in the theater, or in a restaurant that is really more geared towards couples, not families. Your infant may just be acting the way infants do, but I don't want to hear it, and I shouldn't have to.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 6:34:15 PM

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I'm puzzled on why any parent would want to bring their children with them to places like the movies, dinner, to get a cup of coffee and relax, to a munch with other adults, etc....I mean, when my daughter was a child, I looked forward excitedly to be able to get AWAY from her for a couple of minutes, hours, days, weeks........years......

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 7:03:50 PM

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When I was a kid my parents had a social life that
didn't include me. They went to parties, restaurants,
movies etc that I understood were for adults not kids.
My parents didn't devote themselves to entertaining me.
If they went out to lunch with friends on a Saturday I
wouldn't have cared. I had my own stuff to do. A bike to
ride, friends to play with, cartoons to watch.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 7:57:04 PM

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I keep meaning to go to a munch. If I walked into one and there was a kid there I would walk straight out.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 8:15:05 PM

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This is not a very child friendly country. The truth is, no one buys a plane ticket just so their infant can experience a plane ride. They do it because they need to get from A to B, and the child needs to be with them. You take your infant out because you want to have lunch out. If you had a grandma around willing to watch him, you'd have left him. Older kids need to go to resteraunts, not to learn to express themselves, but to learn how to behave. My children went to lots of sit down resteraunts, and they knew how to behave. I didn't appreicaite chicken nuggets on te menu, because the purpose of going to a resteraunt is to experience new foods, not more chicken nuggets that we could have gotten at McDs.

All that said, totally agree that there are adults only places that kids don't belong. I looked forward to my weekly night at the ceramics shop when my kids were little, because no kids were allowed. I feel the same way about munches. And if the kid is old enough to sit, he's too old and young to be in that enviroment.

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RE: Kids at munch?? - 3/22/2013 8:39:58 PM

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I love kids, babies, you name it, but I agree, it seems self defeating to have kids, even babies, at a munch. If a group of people who do munches want to do a family oriented party because they are friends, that is different, that isn't a munch and so forth. It is disruptive, and from what I remember of those days, when I could hold my son in the crook of my arm (don't think I could hold one of his shoes there these days *lol*), having that time was precious for us, where we weren't doing diapers and bottles and so forth...though on a side node, I do agree with tsatske, I think there are a lot of people who forget that kids and babies need to be socialized (again, not at a munch, talking appropriate places). Classical music concerts are a classic example of that, they tend to draw a very old audience in most places, and when people have kids with them, a lot of the old farts sit there looking at the family like hawks, and if the kid makes a sound, they are immediately shooting daggers at the kid....meanwhile, they themselves are rude as hell, wrinkling candy wrappers, talking too loudly, you name it *sigh*..then they wonder why I am a spring chicken comparatively in terms of audiences.

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