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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/24/2013 5:18:53 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		wouldn't you rather pay the $500 plus to live in a safer and nicer neighborhood if you can afford it?

I live in Baltimore. I live in a nice part of it though...those are rare in Baltimore and I pay a whole lot more here than I would if I moved to the shitty neighborhoods. But I'll gladly pay that extra to love my neighborhood and feel safe.

Right now, my commute to work in the mornings is hell because it takes me twice as long to get to work than if I lived closer to the train station and because my lease is up in two months, I've been trying to decide if I want to move closer or find a bigger place in my same neighborhood. Even though it would be half as cheaper than where I live now, it's a shitty neighborhood and not somewhere I would feel safe walking so the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I would give up the easier commute to love where I live.

So obviously your neighborhood isn't as bad as you say if you're willing to stay there instead of moving to somewhere nice that you can still afford.



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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/24/2013 5:53:39 PM   
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I haven't read the whole thread, and there's a lot of drama here that I don't understand or care about. I'd just like to say this.

If I dated a woman who didn't get hit on by other men, I'd think there was something wrong with me. Of course she's attractive. I'm attracted to her, after all. Other guys will be too, of course. And some ladies.

So my attitude toward those third-party flirters is, "Please, continue making me feel great about my taste in women."

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/24/2013 7:09:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		That's a big part of my point, lw. Some people like having the drama in their lives.

Personally, I don't deal with men who "brawl" because any fool can beat the crap out of someone, but it takes brains to properly deal with a situation without having to resort to fists. It also is part of being a grown up. Same with "expecting" someone to come to your rescue all the time.

As to the OP....personally, I don't care if you need your partner to beat up the world to prove his feelings for you, or if you need to tell yourself how much better you are than the crack whore next door. It's your decision to live where gunshots are heard on a regular basis, but like lw, yea, it is worth the extra money to know that you can keep your windows open on a beautiful summer night and not worry some crack head is going to crawl through it.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/25/2013 2:08:05 AM   
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little wonder if we had the extra $500 a month absolutely we would move....but right now it's not in our budget.











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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/25/2013 6:41:40 AM   
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That's a big part of my point, lw. Some people like having the drama in their lives.

Personally, I don't deal with men who "brawl" because any fool can beat the crap out of someone, but it takes brains to properly deal with a situation without having to resort to fists. It also is part of being a grown up. Same with "expecting" someone to come to your rescue all the time.

As to the OP....personally, I don't care if you need your partner to beat up the world to prove his feelings for you, or if you need to tell yourself how much better you are than the crack whore next door. It's your decision to live where gunshots are heard on a regular basis, but like lw, yea, it is worth the extra money to know that you can keep your windows open on a beautiful summer night and not worry some crack head is going to crawl through it.



Saying one likes it when their partner stops advances and takes the rescue position, has nothing to do with maturity. Thats ridiculous. Its pretty much saying my kink is better and more mature then yours. Maybe I think its immature of grown men to act like submissive boys....come on, what does that have to do with maturity?

A man doesn't have to get in a brawl to be a protector. Some women love it when their man takes that role. IT can make a woman feel soft, and feminine, protected, and gives them an overall good feeling. I am one of them. Not one thing wrong with it.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/25/2013 1:10:42 PM   
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That's a big part of my point, lw. Some people like having the drama in their lives.

Personally, I don't deal with men who "brawl" because any fool can beat the crap out of someone, but it takes brains to properly deal with a situation without having to resort to fists. It also is part of being a grown up. Same with "expecting" someone to come to your rescue all the time.

As to the OP....personally, I don't care if you need your partner to beat up the world to prove his feelings for you, or if you need to tell yourself how much better you are than the crack whore next door. It's your decision to live where gunshots are heard on a regular basis, but like lw, yea, it is worth the extra money to know that you can keep your windows open on a beautiful summer night and not worry some crack head is going to crawl through it.



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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/27/2013 7:08:33 PM   
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little wonder if we had the extra $500 a month absolutely we would move....but right now it's not in our budget.

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I thought you earlier said you had the extra income. That's why I responded. If you had not said that then I would have not made the suggestion.


ETA: Ok, so I had to go back and see if I was imagining you saying about having the money, I assumed when you said this:
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I am established, we have fairly good jobs,


It meant that you both had extra money to spend. I guess when someone tells me they have a fairly good job, it means they have their bills paid with money left over to play with, unless they're just talking about how much they like their job, but that's not the context I got from your words.


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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/27/2013 9:58:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have been accused several times of not realizing that I was being flirting with. So aparently I deal with that poorly, or awesomely, depending on where you would rate oblivious.

When it comes to my subs though I am very aggressively territorial. If someone flirts with my girl I make it very clear she is taken. And if it persists after that I'll tell the guy I need to talk with him outside and thump him. But I"m a big dude and usually once I make a boundary clear its respected. And if not i handle it.


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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/27/2013 10:03:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Actually not everyone can beat the crap out of people. Most people are terrible fighters and even worse in the pre-fight situations where a dominant must assert himself.

Your average "dominant" would get the piss beat out of him if it really came to it. Spanking a tied up sub does not mean mean you can throw blows with an angry man. Only a real Dominant can dominate all situations.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/27/2013 10:57:56 PM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		The fact that you think beating a guy up makes you dominant only goes to prove my point. Perhaps next time you are feeling territorial, you should just piss on your sub's leg in front of everyone to prove your point.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 1:42:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		I understand little wonder and I did explain what I meant about fairly good jobs but it's early and I am too lazy to look back and find it.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 2:14:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: wmlv



When it comes to my subs though I am very aggressively territorial. If someone flirts with my girl I make it very clear she is taken. And if it persists after that I'll tell the guy I need to talk with him outside and thump him. But I"m a big dude and usually once I make a boundary clear its respected. And if not i handle it.



I can understand this to a point, it does sort of sound like you regularly have to 'thump' some guy but in our case and probably yours most guys will back off when it is clearly indicated the female is taken. With us it's a casual arm around me indicating that I am with him and it goes no further.

The other part I don't really agree with. True not everyone no matter their size can handle their own with an angry person; high emotion such as anger can defeat muscle. However, the part about only a 'real' dominant yanks my chain a little. 'Real' is in the eyes of the beholder. There have been way too many piss matches on what is real and what isn't...many years ago I removed my label of 'a' submissive partly because of that. I have a submissive personality and he has a dominant personality but neither of us label as such. If one where to ask me what a real dominant was, I probably would not have an answer.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 10:34:04 AM   
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The fact that you think beating a guy up makes you dominant only goes to prove my point. Perhaps next time you are feeling territorial, you should just piss on your sub's leg in front of everyone to prove your point.


Indeed.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 12:23:44 PM   
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Only a real Dominant can dominate all situations.

Have you ever seen action? I'm guessing the answer is no. Because if you had, you'd know that situations arise that take things from you forever, no matter how much of a badass you are. Perhaps you lose part of your own body, or, worse, the body of someone you love.

Incidentally, I can think of a *lot* of people I wouldn't to fight, and most of them aren't that big. Some of them aren't even male.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 12:43:12 PM   
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Only a real Dominant can dominate all situations.

I'm confused. Are you claiming to be a real dominant or a half-assed-wanna-be one?
I am only asking this because, in your profile, you state the following.

Any "dominant" with his pictures up here is a loser with no career and no hope of getting
something better. Those of us with a real career dont put our pictures online where our upper
chain can find them.

Seems awfully strange to have to insult people you don't even know.
Or was this a way to stroke your own ego?

Please don't confuse my query with being flirtatious with you. I am simply hoping for clarification.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 12:48:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: wmlv
Only a real Dominant can dominate all situations.

I'm confused. Are you claiming to be a real dominant or a half-assed-wanna-be one?
I am only asking this because, in your profile, you state the following.

Any "dominant" with his pictures up here is a loser with no career and no hope of getting
something better. Those of us with a real career dont put our pictures online where our upper
chain can find them.

Seems awfully strange to have to insult people you don't even know.
Or was this a way to stroke your own ego?

Please don't confuse my query with being flirtatious with you. I am simply hoping for clarification.



It's obvious isn't it?

He's not a real dominant, because he can't dominant the situation with his boss to the extend that they won't care what he does in his private life.

Only independent business owners can be real dominants you know... oh now, wait, they have costumers to consider.

Only independently wealthy guys, who live of their inheritance can be dominant.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 12:50:46 PM   
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It meant that you both had extra money to spend. I guess when someone tells me they have a fairly good job, it means they have their bills paid with money left over to play with


Having extra money to play with doesn't mean that you have the extra money for a monthly $500 extra on the bills.

That $500 can easily be the difference between being able to save money, and living paycheck to paycheck.

Making enough to afford the move in a good month, and it being a financially wise decision to live to the edge of your budget are two different things.



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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 1:43:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, if it came to my safety, I'm gonna take that extra $500 to keep from being shot at instead of saving it for the future finances. I have this thing about wanting to not be dead.


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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 1:48:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I hear ya. And really, $500 difference between living in a bad neighborhood and a good one in the same city seems a bit extreme to me. But then again, I don't live in the city. I've never lived where you could hear gun shots (unless it was someone hunting), either. Actually, I live in one of those crazy places where people don't even need to lock their doors to feel safe.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 1:49:03 PM   
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