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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 1:52:43 PM

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I hear ya. And really, $500 difference between living in a bad neighborhood and a good one in the same city seems a bit extreme to me. But then again, I don't live in the city. I've never lived where you could hear gun shots (unless it was someone hunting), either. Actually, I live in one of those crazy places where people don't even need to lock their doors to feel safe.

Actually it's on the lower end. Here in Baltimore, if you live in a bad neighborhood you are probably paying somewhere between $500 to $800 a month. To live in such a neighborhood means that you will most likely have gun shots going off every single night and there's a good chance that gangs and drug dealers are hanging out on your front stoop.

If you want to live in a decent area then the rent runs between $1200 to $2500 a month. I choose not to live in a bad neighborhood even though by doing so I'm really pushing my finances to the edge.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 1:53:33 PM

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It's obvious isn't it?

He's not a real dominant, because he can't dominant the situation with his boss to the extend that they won't care what he does in his private life.

Only independent business owners can be real dominants you know... oh now, wait, they have costumers to consider.

Only independently wealthy guys, who live of their inheritance can be dominant.

I always like clarification on how to be a real true dominate.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 1:59:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

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It's obvious isn't it?

He's not a real dominant, because he can't dominant the situation with his boss to the extend that they won't care what he does in his private life.

Only independent business owners can be real dominants you know... oh now, wait, they have costumers to consider.

Only independently wealthy guys, who live of their inheritance can be dominant.

I always like clarification on how to be a real true dominate.

I have a whole series more if you would like... stick around here for enough time and you can amass an impressive, self-contradictory list of what it takes to be a true dominate.

We really should start a thread about it, to refer all the guys who come and try to be the authority on "trueness" to... that way the only reply needs to be "it's already on the list" and a copy of the url.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 2:02:21 PM

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The fact that you think beating a guy up makes you dominant only goes to prove my point. Perhaps next time you are feeling territorial, you should just piss on your sub's leg in front of everyone to prove your point.

Ok....I'm actually married to someone that could beat the crap out of someone. He has boxed and was a linebacker. He will tell you that his job was to hurt people and when he did it really well, they'd throw a little yellow flag and let him do it again. He's an athlete that participates in Go Ruck Challenges for fun.

In all of our years together, he has laid hands on someone exactly once, when someone grabbed my wrist and would not let go. Even then he didn't beat the crap out the guy, he just stuck his finger into a tendon.

He uses his brain to solve situations and because of his size, most realize that they cannot use force against him and will usually accept reason.

It's always seemed to me that guys that want to fight someone for paying attention to their SO are insecure. If you're secure in your relationship there's no need to fight off other "suitors". (And of there is a line where defending someone may be needed)

That said: Flirting doesn't really bother either one of us, unless it gets into disrespecting our relationship or not stopping when asked. We both know who we're going home with and realize that the flirting is meaningless.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/28/2013 2:24:46 PM

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I'm trying to get rich first.

I just realized my post from last night didn't go through.

I said something like this:

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ORIGINAL: wmlv

Actually not everyone can beat the crap out of people. Most people are terrible fighters and even worse in the pre-fight situations where a dominant must assert himself.

Your average "dominant" would get the piss beat out of him if it really came to it. Spanking a tied up sub does not mean mean you can throw blows with an angry man. Only a real Dominant can dominate all situations.

That should have been, only a real true dominant can dominate all situations. Seriously, having a domineering personality doesn't make you a good dominant. Being physically superior in a confrontation doesn't make you a good dominant, either. You need to grow up and get out of the school ground. It's possible for people to handle confrontation w/o violence.

As for the flirting, Himself and I are both shameless flirts. It means nothing beyond "I'm sexually aware of myself and you." If flirting makes someone uncomfortable, it's not flirting, it's an unwanted advance. Most females beyond the age of thirteen know how to deal with that and don't need 'help' from their husband/partner/boyfriend.

As for the OP, if you and your man can't talk about these things, I'd ask why. And the type of behavior you describe as coming from your neighbor is highly passive/aggressive, most men (and women too), don't like that.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 4/29/2013 1:42:51 PM

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It's obvious isn't it?

He's not a real dominant, because he can't dominant the situation with his boss to the extend that they won't care what he does in his private life.

Only independent business owners can be real dominants you know... oh now, wait, they have costumers to consider.

Only independently wealthy guys, who live of their inheritance can be dominant.

I always like clarification on how to be a real true dominate.

1-Answering the OP, I am absolutely oblivious to being flirted with. As in, a gal would pretty much have to drop trous in front of me for me to get the idea she liked me. And even then I might miss it.

2-One becomes a(correcting your misspelling-you have so much to learn and far to go, lil grasshopper) "'weal twue dominate"' by being unrelentingly dominant, 24/7/365, for an extended period of time, as in 5 years or so, kinda like dominant boot camp Bruce Wayne learning from Ra's Al Ghul style, until one is not only utterly dominant with each thought, but transcends the waking consciousness and even dreams in dominance. At this juncture, they pierce the veil of relativity and actions as bound by the laws of physics that limits mere mortals such as myself, until they do not become dominance, but dominance becomes them-it is in their every move, look, thought, aspect, value, moral and fiber-they quite literally ooze pheremonal dominance from their every pore.
At that juncture, they are no longer engaging in an activity-say, dominance.
Instead, they have actualized the ideal, and in doing so, become it-thus they are "dominates"
It's all very zen. I probably didn't explain it very well.
But I am only an egg, and grok little. I shall have to contemplate on how better to express a concept I understand poorly at best while striving to hear the sound between raindrops whilst sipping cha from an empty cup.

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RE: How other's handle flirts and come on's to their pa... - 5/1/2013 12:48:42 AM

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How sweet! She even needs people to help her out on the boards, and you come running. Thanks for proving my point for me.

Well, your point being that you aren't allowed to bully people without others reacting?

I got your number, honey.

lol....

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