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cuckolding - 5/2/2013 4:27:43 AM   
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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 8:03:46 AM   
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Do many Dommes enjoy cuckolding?


I don't mean to insult you, but I have to ask the obvious question; what difference does it make?

People often come on here and ask these types of questions. "How many Dommes like peeing on people?", or "How many Dommes like to force their sub to wear panties?" I've never understood these question. Suppose the answer is 58,243. Okay, now what?

What are you REALLY trying to get at with your question? Are you trying to figure out the best way to meet a Domme who might be interested in a cuckold relationship? Are you trying to see if your kink is popular? Are you fishing for wank fodder? Or are you simply a statistics nut who likes to quantify everything?

As they say in the computer programming world, "garbage in, garbage out." So really think about what it is that you're searching for, then pose a better question. I think you'll find that the answers that you get are only as good as the question that you ask.

I hope this helps. Good luck to you.
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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 8:05:34 AM   
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Suppose the answer is 58,243. Okay, now what?


My next logical step would be to question why it is not an even number, I think.


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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 11:03:11 AM   
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I remember the days when I discovered that femdoms existed and I used to ask such questions - in my head, at least. The answer was always, broadly, 'Yes some do enjoy X, sometimes. But not exclusively X - so get used to surprises and be prepared to go along with (some or even all of) them. You have to do that because you're the sub and she's the domme. That's how it works.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 11:26:04 AM   
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Not nearly as many as most males who wish to be a cuckhold would hope there would be.


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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 11:37:34 AM   
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FWIW,

I remember the days when I discovered that femdoms existed and I used to ask such questions - in my head, at least. The answer was always, broadly, 'Yes some do enjoy X, sometimes. But not exclusively X - so get used to surprises and be prepared to go along with (some or even all of) them. You have to do that because you're the sub and she's the domme. That's how it works.


This is golden advice and should be repeated at every opportunity. 'not exclusively' seems to be the part that a lot of folks overlook and then wonder why they can't get their fetish fulfilled. Oftentimes they could get what they wanted, if they were only realistic that it won't be 100% their favourite kink 100% of the time.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 12:26:14 PM   
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VanessaChaland had a keen interest in it. She was always a good read on the subject. She was a true enthusiast.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 5:54:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: cuckwannabe1220
Do many Dommes enjoy cuckolding?
This is possibly the most deceiving question in the world of kink, IMO. Bear with me, I'm going to explain.
Let us say a Domme finds a wonderful relationship with a wonderful sub; he serves at her pleasure, obeys, and realizes she will do as she pleases always. This Domme goes on vacation, and meets an a hot man, who will do anything, to spend a little time with her. Why not do it? I'm the Domme, and he is okay with cuckoldry, I'll let him know I'm going out to do my thing, and except nothing but the most respectful behavior/attitude when I return. Would you as the sub be satisfied with that?
How about if the Domme lives with you, but finds a boyfriend to spend time with, whenever she feels the desire to, but you aren't involved, except in getting her clothes ready before going out. Would this suffice?

I probably hate even hearing that word mentioned. I am a serial monogamist, but not because I could NEVER wrap my mind around taking on another occasionally, as long as all parties were aware. I hate it, because men who desire this, are usually very specific about how the woman is to behave/interact, and what part he will have in it. It seems to me, many cucks fit more the dominant bottom role, than submissive or slave role. M


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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 6:22:48 PM   
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VanessaChaland had a keen interest in it. She was always a good read on the subject. She was a true enthusiast.


So you have read her book(s) or other writing? Good read... in the sense of, sure do like what she says?

I wanted to see what all she was about, so checked everything I could find. She does have a lot to say on the topic and her life. In fact, I found some direct conflict with some factoids between her material(s), her experience and the good read part. Hey, she's making some dimes... lots of them apparently. She advertised around here enough to have made a few. I still wouldn't take it as much more than some life experience and a bit of elaboration.

The OP is better off to find his way through, he most likely, already has enough fantasy going on.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 7:33:34 PM   
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Do many Dommes enjoy cuckolding?


Some do...some don't.

(Clue: Find the ones that do).

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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 7:42:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

I probably hate even hearing that word mentioned. I am a serial monogamist, but not because I could NEVER wrap my mind around taking on another occasionally, as long as all parties were aware. I hate it, because men who desire this, are usually very specific about how the woman is to behave/interact, and what part he will have in it. It seems to me, many cucks fit more the dominant bottom role, than submissive or slave role. M




This.

I am poly, but I am also completely uninterested in following an often elaborate and unrealistic script that so many cucks have.


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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 7:52:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've never quite understood what cuckolding actually is, so I'm not sure if I'd like it or not. There are probably multiple variations within the kink and I'm sure I don't know about all of them.

I know it's having a "bull" or other guy or boyfriend and having sex with him and, to some degree or another, not with the cuck. But if I would be having sex with this other guy and never with the cuck, and not caring how the cuck feels when I have sex with some other guy, I don't think I could do that.

I like to have a relationship of sorts with my sub and, as such, I would care about his feelings. I couldn't just....not care. If it was a case of having to not care how he(the cuck) felt about it, I couldn't do that. Also, if I had to include the cuck in my sex with the other guy, via fluffing and cleaning, I'm not sure if I could do that or not. Most likely not.

Now if I did it, I'd want to do it my way. If I knew the cuck really got off on my cucking him and it was a case of him just getting my clothes ready and helping me get myself ready to go out, that would be okay if he was not involved with my sex with someone else. I might not mind that....as long as I knew he was getting off on it. Of course, I'd have a relationship with this other person I'm being physical with, it wouldn't just be someone to fuck to keep the cuck happy. Also, if I did decide to have a cuck, I'd probably want to mix cucking up with another fetish and keep him in chastity too.

That's probably waaaaaay more of an answer than the OP wants.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/2/2013 9:31:46 PM   
Rochsub2009


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This thread may prove to be useful.

Cuckold thread

I hope that helps.
-Roch

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RE: cuckolding - 5/3/2013 4:02:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: cuckwannabe1220

Do many Dommes enjoy cuckolding?


Bud...you're salting the deck....ask a serious question.

I'm as interested in finding a chic into this as you are but....I'm not gonna jack off on the screen to make it happen.

Chill.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/3/2013 6:35:03 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

OP,
This thread may prove to be useful.

Cuckold thread

I hope that helps.
-Roch

Thanks for posting that. I had a lot of questions about cuckolding too and your thread is a good one.

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I'm as interested in finding a chic into this as you are but....I'm not gonna jack off on the screen to make it happen.

lol lol

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RE: cuckolding - 5/3/2013 9:13:02 PM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

OP,
This thread may prove to be useful.

Cuckold thread

I hope that helps.
-Roch

Thanks for posting that. I had a lot of questions about cuckolding too and your thread is a good one.



Glad you found it to be helpful. I don't start many threads, but when I do, I try to make them interesting.


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RE: cuckolding - 5/3/2013 10:01:28 PM   
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Do many Dommes enjoy cuckolding?



According to the last official domme survey, 12% are very interested and 14% somewhat interested in cuckolding. Interested is somewhat higher in the midwest and Northeast, and among dommes who describe themselves as "spiritual but not religious." Those are the figures for 2012, by the way; the 2013 survey won't come out for a few weeks. They are still crunching the data.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/3/2013 10:47:52 PM   
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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 12:14:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		You know I love you. While I don't disagree with what you say I will say this. I've been a Cuckholdress from day 1, before I even knew there was a name for it. Back then I was simply just a "slut" evidently. I agree that many cucks attempt to top from the bottom and give a laundry list of what they will and won't do. Fuck that. No going to happen. Its up to Me as the Domme, as the Cuckoldress to explain that giving a list of what they agree to do or not do is not submission. It's trying to control in a situation in which they agreed to give up control.

What they want is what I call "Submission of convenience". They want to submit when and how they want to rather than 24/7. To me the real definition of submission is to do whatever is asked, even the things they least want to do, in order to please their Dominant. Because if all they are doing is what they want to do, what turns them on and gets them off...well that isn't submission in my book.

But what do I know :^)

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 2:13:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ms Jo, I'm so happy to see you on here.
I do defer to your authority on the subject, having had experience. As I've said, cuckoldry has thus far been something I've imgined, not practiced mostly because in the past, I've thought of it as thin ice to thread on psychologically for the submissive.

I've learned over the years, that many men desire this, and aren't in the least bit hurt/disturbed by submitting in that way. As another thing he would submit to, I think cuckoldry is awesome. As a desire without which he would feel unispired, I'm less interested.
My experience/encounter with men who desire this thus far, has been that what matters to them, is their involvement in the process, their involvement with the man, or my doing it exactly as they envision.
I understand I'm speaking of "cuck my way" types, which is much like any kink, and the McDomme he/she seeks. M

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