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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 2:26:32 PM

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Do many Dommes enjoy cuckolding?

According to the last official domme survey, 12% are very interested and 14% somewhat interested in cuckolding. Interested is somewhat higher in the midwest and Northeast, and among dommes who describe themselves as "spiritual but not religious." Those are the figures for 2012, by the way; the 2013 survey won't come out for a few weeks. They are still crunching the data.

Who the holy living hell did this survey....survey?

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 2:28:25 PM

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You know I love you. While I don't disagree with what you say I will say this. I've been a Cuckholdress from day 1, before I even knew there was a name for it. Back then I was simply just a "slut" evidently. I agree that many cucks attempt to top from the bottom and give a laundry list of what they will and won't do. Fuck that. No going to happen. Its up to Me as the Domme, as the Cuckoldress to explain that giving a list of what they agree to do or not do is not submission. It's trying to control in a situation in which they agreed to give up control.

What they want is what I call "Submission of convenience". They want to submit when and how they want to rather than 24/7. To me the real definition of submission is to do whatever is asked, even the things they least want to do, in order to please their Dominant. Because if all they are doing is what they want to do, what turns them on and gets them off...well that isn't submission in my book.

But what do I know :^)

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 2:47:49 PM

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I never even realized this existed as a fetish until pretty recently, or as part of a D/s relationship. I knew of poly people, people who did threesomes, had open marriages but this is quite different. As a sub I can get my hands around it and there is a certain charge to the thought of that (as a fantasy), but to me a lot of it borders into territory I can't go into, the humiliation, denying the cuckold certain types of sex, 'forcing' them to eat creampies of lovers and so forth, and some of it goes into territory that makes me cringe. It is also hard to tell when I read of supposed real life cuckoldry, if in fact it is as the person posted, since most of the people writing about this tend to be the men. In the case where it isn't strict D/s, is the wife/partner doing it because it turns the other person on, and it gives them pleasure to cuckold them and see them turned on...or do they actually see the spouse/so as some kind of idiot, look down on him, and use it as a way to show him scorn...I have known a couple of real life people, and to me it seemed very loving and playful, they would go through the ritual of the wife getting ready for the date with hubby's help, texting during it, then later on talking about what happened and/or having sex but the rest seemed like a typical couple.....for me the humiliation I hear about and read about would be a major problem if that ever happened in my life....I could see scenarios, like me serving My Lady and her boy toy as a slave that night or something, but the cruelty..would drive me off the deep end. I prob a too much of a monogamous person to actually go through with something like this but I can sort of understand it.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 3:26:17 PM

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cuckolding. Interested is somewhat higher among dommes who describe themselves as "spiritual but not religious." T

That certainly describes me, but I am not the least bit interested in cuckolding.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 3:41:11 PM

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You know I love you. While I don't disagree with what you say I will say this. I've been a Cuckholdress from day 1, before I even knew there was a name for it. Back then I was simply just a "slut" evidently. I agree that many cucks attempt to top from the bottom and give a laundry list of what they will and won't do. Fuck that. No going to happen. Its up to Me as the Domme, as the Cuckoldress to explain that giving a list of what they agree to do or not do is not submission. It's trying to control in a situation in which they agreed to give up control.

What they want is what I call "Submission of convenience". They want to submit when and how they want to rather than 24/7. To me the real definition of submission is to do whatever is asked, even the things they least want to do, in order to please their Dominant. Because if all they are doing is what they want to do, what turns them on and gets them off...well that isn't submission in my book.

But what do I know :^)

The bolded above is exactly why I say I love the kink but am not interested in 99% of the males who want it. For a lot of cucks, it's all about what excites them, what gets them off, what they get to see, and what they want to do. That's not what it is as far as I'm concerned. It's about Me owning My sexuality and theirs, up to and including what activities are engaged in or not.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 3:42:42 PM

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just curious where are these stats posted at?

The humor section. You might want to visit.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 4:22:21 PM

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Isn't a cuckold relationship where there is an emotionally connected couple and she goes and has whoopie(or else says she is so he thinks she is) with(one or more) other people? A relationship where she not only controls her own sexuality but the cuckold's sexuality also? The cuck doesn't necessarily get to see or hear the couple getting it on, doesn't necessarily get to fluff or clean, unless she wants him to. He isn't even in chastity unless she wants him to be, chastity is a separate kink I thought, but sometimes included in cuckoldry. It's about what she wants and what she is or is not allowing him to do. Or am I wrong?

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 5:34:47 PM

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No, you're not wrong. That's pretty much the case from the way I've conducted it in the past.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 5:52:31 PM

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In theory, yes, it is what the domme wants and the sub just goes along with it. Keep in mind that cuckolding can happen outside D/s, where the hubby has a tremendous fetish about his wife sleeping with other people and in the process, perhaps denying him certain things. It can be in the context of D/s where she as domme tells him "I am doing this because I enjoy it, and then enjoy telling you about it and watching you squirm with jealousy, etc", but there are couples where the hub is not sub, where it is a fetish of his, and often he gets the wife to do it, and it is why I questioned in those cases whether the wife gets off on it or is doing it because she gets turned on he gets turned on....

But I think what the other poster was talking about were subs who tell the mistress "you should put me in chastity, that what cucks do" or 'you should sleep with my best friend, that would be so humiliating", in effect telling the dominant how he wants it to play out..which is topping from the bottom, since how it happens should be up to her. In a non D/s the wife may take the husbands suggestions since she knows it turns him on, it is very different than a D/s relationship. It is funny, at first glance I always thought of this being something between a married couple, but shows how long I have been married, I forget that *duh* a D/s relationship can be emotional but not in a marriage, or boyfriend/girlfriend, SO's, or even in a poly (though that would be interesting, if let's say the woman in a triangular poly where she is the apex does the cuck thing, would it apply to the other two people assuming they are guys? Also, would it work in a poly, though I suppose the other two legs of the poly could get jealous of the outside guy, since he isn't part of the poly..oh, well, just my musing:).

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 6:13:20 PM

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This is just opinion but I tend to separate cuckholding with hot wife scenarios.

Actually, the experience that I was referencing was with a sub that I had several years ago. I was married to MP at the time, so the cuck that I had was *not* the primary partner. There was still an emotional attachment between My pet and I, so it still worked.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 6:28:43 PM

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No, you're not wrong. That's pretty much the case from the way I've conducted it in the past.

Actually, that doesn't sound half bad. lol

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 7:11:22 PM

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 7:18:58 PM

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 7:21:44 PM

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You know I love you. While I don't disagree with what you say I will say this. I've been a Cuckholdress from day 1, before I even knew there was a name for it. Back then I was simply just a "slut" evidently. I agree that many cucks attempt to top from the bottom and give a laundry list of what they will and won't do. Fuck that. No going to happen. Its up to Me as the Domme, as the Cuckoldress to explain that giving a list of what they agree to do or not do is not submission. It's trying to control in a situation in which they agreed to give up control.

What they want is what I call "Submission of convenience". They want to submit when and how they want to rather than 24/7. To me the real definition of submission is to do whatever is asked, even the things they least want to do, in order to please their Dominant. Because if all they are doing is what they want to do, what turns them on and gets them off...well that isn't submission in my book.

But what do I know :^)

The bolded above is exactly why I say I love the kink but am not interested in 99% of the males who want it. For a lot of cucks, it's all about what excites them, what gets them off, what they get to see, and what they want to do. That's not what it is as far as I'm concerned. It's about Me owning My sexuality and theirs, up to and including what activities are engaged in or not.

Agree. Frankly I don't give a shit about what they want or what gets them off. Its about Me and controlling My sexuality and theirs.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 7:24:27 PM

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Gawdamm it I love it when she does that shit.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 7:25:09 PM

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This is just opinion but I tend to separate cuckholding with hot wife scenarios.

Actually, the experience that I was referencing was with a sub that I had several years ago. I was married to MP at the time, so the cuck that I had was *not* the primary partner. There was still an emotional attachment between My pet and I, so it still worked.

I've always seen Cuckolding and Hot Wife as opposite ends of the Dichotomy. Cuckolding is the Woman in charge. Hot Wife always seems to be Male Dominant/fem sub. I could be wrong but this is the way I've usually seen it.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 7:28:59 PM

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Zip it pee wee

Gawdamm it I love it when she does that shit.

Yeah Yeah....bla bla bla yadda yadda yadda you missed me.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 7:31:38 PM

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FR....

So many presume a cuckold is all about his own kink....so many also presume any woman who would coddle that....is gonna have to be "on stage", and of course, there are all various derivations in between....

I think there is a balance for those who choose this lifestyle (I'm hopeful anyway)....that those who want this, on both sides...want something delicious, spectacular, fulfilling and (yeah, decadent)....but as well...loving.

I think it can be achieved.

And in a relationship where love is the precursor.

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 7:33:02 PM

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Zip it pee wee

Gawdamm it I love it when she does that shit.

Yeah Yeah....bla bla bla yadda yadda yadda you missed me.

Yeah well...I didn't win the lottery last week either....fuck if I can make the right decisions without help....ya know?

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RE: cuckolding - 5/4/2013 7:35:41 PM

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I've always seen Cuckolding and Hot Wife as opposite ends of the Dichotomy. Cuckolding is the Woman in charge. Hot Wife always seems to be Male Dominant/fem sub. I could be wrong but this is the way I've usually seen it.

Not especially disagreeing with you, but I've seen it from the non dynamic types as well. Like the kinks but not the power structure.

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