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cloudboy -> RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? (5/7/2013 5:53:40 PM)
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The question is, who is the perfect submissive. To get this ball rolling, you asked, "Who would be your perfect submissive bitch."
Common replies to this question would be:
I don't want a doormat.
I want an alpha male in the world who is submissive to me.
I want someone who can see past their own fetishes and focus on my needs. (Those needs might be social -- quality interpersonal interaction or service oriented -- cooking, cleaning, and helping a household.)
I want someone so can take pain.
I need someone in: an age range, a size range, a weight range, or an endowment range.
I want someone who is experienced.
I am willing to work with someone new.
I want a "real man" i.e. not a sissy or a CD.
I want a monogamous relationship.
I want a polyamorous relationship (or a variation of one.)
A perfect submissive will have some combination of the traits above and other unlisted ones. What constitutes the perfect combination depends upon the dominant's wants and needs.
If you wanted me to characterize the archetypal, most desired male sub he would be:
(1) Monogamous
(2) An "alpha male" in the real world with and attractive interesting job.
(3) Have some grasp of the domestic arts.
(4) Be literate, cultured, and polite.
(5) Would not be interested in cross dressing.
(6) Would be tough and able to accept "punishment"
(7) Would have skills in bed -- knowing how to touch and respond to a woman
(8) Would be height-weight proportionate
(9) Would know how to turn his dominant on, which is another way of saying being kink-compatible.
(10) Would be honest, trustworthy, and reliable without being a boring automaton.
(11) Would be a balanced person with interests beyond "the lifestyle."
As you can see, the cross over between a "desired malesub" and simply a desirable male is considerable. You might do well to read Women's magazines and simply plug in kinky proclivities to hone in on a more accurate archetype.
It's also noteworthy that most of the enumerated qualities below are not synonymous with being someone's bitch. The qualities lineup more as a capable, attractive partner.
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