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I haven't finished reading all the other posts, but RS says it best. "Love is unconditional, relationships are conditional."

So while you would love your son, but hate his actions, would you help pay for his defense?

Yes, I would. Everyone is entitled to a defense.

Sure they are. But I'm not going to finance it.

I would finance it to make sure his rights were protected... not to help him get out of the charge. I grew up with the belief that if you cant do the time, dont do the crime. I raised my son the same way.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

I fell in love with someone that had a personality issue. I still love them to this day but I will never go back and have another relationship with them. My love is unconditional, but my relationship is conditional.

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I can make sure his rights are protected even if he has a public defender.

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ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess

Your statement best reflects my own understanding and experience of the term. And in that sense, I do believe true love is unconditional. When my love is not true, my love for someone fades when they are no longer part of my life anymore. But if my love for someone was true, then whatever the circumstances, I still love them - even if the relationship is no longer there. This is true regardless of why the relationship ended. In other words, whether it was a deal breaking act on the part of either me or the other person or whether it was simply that the relationship didn't work out (which sadly, just happens sometimes) - I say this because the notion of "fault" and "time" does not exist for me when it comes to unconditional love. There is only the question of how long a relationship lasts.

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I can make sure his rights are protected even if he has a public defender.

Yes, ms lawyer , you can. Me, ms nurse , wouldnt have the first clue.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

It took a long time for me to get over the shock of all that was done, but eventually indifference set in. I really honestly don't care about him either way. It was weird for me to understand how someone I once loved with every ounce of me, and for so long, could come to mean nothing. But I changed, and my life moved forward and away from him, and he doesn't occupy any of my feelings anymore - good, bad, or otherwise.

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I am waiting for this to happen.

But they say a watched pot never boils.....

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Your statement best reflects my own understanding and experience of the term. And in that sense, I do believe true love is unconditional. When my love is not true, my love for someone fades when they are no longer part of my life anymore. But if my love for someone was true, then whatever the circumstances, I still love them - even if the relationship is no longer there. This is true regardless of why the relationship ended. In other words, whether it was a deal breaking act on the part of either me or the other person or whether it was simply that the relationship didn't work out (which sadly, just happens sometimes) - I say this because the notion of "fault" and "time" does not exist for me when it comes to unconditional love. There is only the question of how long a relationship lasts.

I used to believe this until the ex exploited my mother while capitalizing on my father's death, to get back at me.

There are certain things that can erase love. Even "true" love. Doesn't mean hate replaces it, it just means the love goes away.

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Saw this in the Ask a Master section and its always struck me as odd...

"True love is unconditional"

Do you agree or disagree and why?

I dont agree. My love is conditional... with the exception of my child, who didnt ask me to love him. I just cant wrap my head around the belief that, no matter what, i will love someone irregardless of what they say or do... and that if my love is "true" I will accept anything. Within a BDSM relationship, this is more true than the vanilla world. I may accept things that a typical so called "normal" relationship may not. However, there are things I wont tolerate, no matter how much I may love a person.

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ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess

I'm sorry for your experience. I'm curious if you still feel what you had was "true love" at the start? My sense of "true love" does presume mutual emotion - i.e. not one person loving someone more than the other. Personally, I wouldn't call that "true love" if someone I was with could behave in that kind of way towards me. Regardless, obviously your feelings towards this person have changed. That is only natural given what happened.