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ORIGINAL: Caretakr
I may have a different take on this. I am often objective, and compartmentalized to extremes. I can take the totally alien within me, and explore it. I can be the liberal, the Islamic  terrorist, the child.....then I can step back out side,and say, "I know you."

And I no longer have to feel fear. I may not agree with who they are-or support them. But I have expanded my power.

To know a thing is to gain inner control over it- ignorance is not bliss, it is weakness.

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ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

I completely relate to this.  Aside from having a couple of hot buttons (obviously! ;) ), in general, I can see both sides of most issues so clearly that it is hard for me to take a stand on one side or the other.  I'm seem to have "devil's advocate" seared into my character.  It makes it hard for me to take stances on, for instance, abortion, death penalty, politics.  It also makes it very hard for me to view the current situation in the Middle East the way most of the public does, which leads to either 1) inharmonious interpersonal relations when I try to speak out, because no one *wants* to hear it; 2) sleepless nights and anger spells from clenching my teeth and being silent, or 3) isolation, because sometimes I just have to shut myself off in order to cope.  Too many people, too, consider that "understanding" is the same thing as "supporting" or condoning... the "you're either with us or you're against us" mentality.

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr
I may have a different take on this. I am often objective, and compartmentalized to extremes. I can take the totally alien within me, and explore it. I can be the liberal, the Islamic  terrorist, the child.....then I can step back out side,and say, "I know you."

And I no longer have to feel fear. I may not agree with who they are-or support them. But I have expanded my power.

To know a thing is to gain inner control over it- ignorance is not bliss, it is weakness.

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ORIGINAL: scratchingpost

when I use a reference to My past experiences it is because that is what i have to draw from to give advice or opinions. It also states that in a situation similar this is what happened and one possible outcome....though life is limitless and nothing is exactly the same However that said sometimes someone can learn from anothers similar experience so to throw it out there in hopes they can benefit from it is not necesarily selfish or attention grabbing though some do that and are little attention whores.

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

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When one moves beyond the need for external validation in viewing the world,you begin to see the world-not merely your own tiny place within it.

That makes sense! Interesting viewpoints all around. Clarity is refreshing. The actual info, inspiring. Thanks.

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

I would rather accept one valid criticism of myself that sends me on the road to heaven-than ten thousand agreements that lead me to hell.

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

at the core of every human being is an ego, and with out self evaluation and positive reinforcement the damn thing can go hay wire.
 
You see we all have a need to be right, about just about everything because if we are wrong, it is truly tererifying....now being wrong on facts figures and philosophy's is not sooooo bad, but to be wrong in in how you live your life well that is a world of pain, no one likes regrets, no one want to admit they dont know something, no one wants to be marginalized and no one wants to feel stupid.
 
but that is when folks take a 'either or approach', when folks can take an 'either and approach' to life, then there is much more fluidity and movement, i personally dont subscribe to a right and wrong, now like everyone i have programs that do and some times run me, but through conscious awareness and continual investment in personal responsibility i can begin to look at those programs and see that place they are not serving. many folks never look at life this way, they dont desire to know what makes them tick and be cause that they live a life of reaction instead of a life of action.
 
we are such an amazing race, we are filled with infinite possibility, but in order to embrace the legacy of greatness we have to see where we are a puppet on a string of past beliefs, past hurts and the inaccurate conclusions we have drawn from those events.
 
there is no one truth, in this world, we are the truth....and the more truthful we are with our selves the more we are willing to allow every one the the right to be wrong.

(I highlighted in red because I haven't got the quote thing down).

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr
I may have a different take on this. I am often objective, and compartmentalized to extremes. I can take the totally alien within me, and explore it. I can be the liberal, the Islamic  terrorist, the child.....then I can step back out side,and say, "I know you."

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Females especially are taught that we should get along with eachother and in order to do that, we must AGREE. 

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Insecurities.

A lot of subs are actually people pleasing control freak perfectionists- and that's a fairly conceited perspective to take in life- thinking that THEY have to get it right, that if THEY don't do it right then the whole world will go awry, that if what THEY do is not given the right approval then London Bridge all falls down.

Ds is perfectly suited for this type of personality.  And it can be used productively as long as its kept in check and doesn't affect one's overall functioning and happiness in a negative way.

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

Some threads today made me wonder about so much of the discord that goes on here-the lack of objectivity-ego centrism.

I understand personal points of view are all we have to offer.

But questions asked are often about things that have nothing to do with us, personally.

Why do you think that so many of us have to make it all about us? Is that not the way a baby views the world, as entirely revolving around it?

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

But it is very rare to come across someone so adult in themselves, that they realize that they must be honest in moving beyond the need for external validation-and simply accept thier natures as being an end to contentment in themselves.

There is only one way a slave can please me-and that does not come from manipulating my approval through "service".

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ORIGINAL: MizSuz

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

But it is very rare to come across someone so adult in themselves, that they realize that they must be honest in moving beyond the need for external validation-and simply accept thier natures as being an end to contentment in themselves.

There is only one way a slave can please me-and that does not come from manipulating my approval through "service".

Wow.  VERY well put.

What he said.