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Focus50 -> RE: Blow job techniques (7/9/2013 6:10:52 AM)
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar
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ORIGINAL: Focus50
The point being that throat-fucking is a dominant act.
This D/s - it gets to be about me, too. [;)]
Focus.
Like I said, it's all about your headspace.
To me, laying back and getting serviced while others do the work feels like a more dominant act than doing all the work of restraining, and doing the hard physical work yourself, especially when it specifically gets the girl off, feel like an act of service.
I can see it being the other way around for a D-male, but from my point of view I feel like I'm the one getting lucky getting restrained and used like that, instead of having to do aaaaaaaaallllllll the work on getting him off while getting nothing in return. Hell, any time a guy takes the time to tie me up, which is my main kink anyways, I feel like he's 'servicing' me and working hard and diligent at getting me off... always having to provide kink-free blow jobs, now that would be me serving him fully and selflessly (and something currently not a single guy on the planet that can convince me to do).
But the again... maybe that's why it's a good thing that there are people with comparable kinks from each side of the spectrum... everybody wins that way. [:D]
You equate expending energy to doing work like it's some chore? I've been half an hour into tying a bondage "masterpiece" only to pick it all apart cos I wasn't getting the desired aesthetic result. Annoying to she who just wants to be restrained but still never work or a chore *to me*.
And yeah, if I were to keep some sort of overall scene tally, I'd say my girl enjoys sexual pleasure maybe 3-4 times to my one. But you're not getting it all if you think all that's happening is me "servicing" her. If the aim is for one to one sexual pleasure, may I suggest vanilla sex...?
I rather enjoy fucking with the girl's carnal needs and desires. Mine are more modest and it's enough that when I am in that mood, she won't be claiming any vanilla "headache".... And I think it rather tacky when those who apparently do keep score feel they owe or are owed in return. Not my ideal of how intimate relationships work.... This is where I join the tangent and come down on the side that thinks contracts are a crock.
Focus.
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