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RE: Blow job techniques - 7/9/2013 3:58:53 AM

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Also for me personally, getting throat fucked is far less of a submissive act than giving a man a blow job unrestricted in any way.
That's because I get off on force, and am likely to see a bound throat fuck being as much the guy servicing my kinks as I am his. A 'voluntary' blow job on the other hand... that's all service... and it's all pleasing him. The only thing I may get out of that -and it's not even a given that I will- is the pleasure in pleasing him. It's far more one-sided focussed all on him, than the 'fair exchange' I consider forced throat fucks to be.

The point being that throat-fucking is a dominant act.

This D/s - it gets to be about me, too.

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RE: Blow job techniques - 7/9/2013 4:15:59 AM

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The point being that throat-fucking is a dominant act.

This D/s - it gets to be about me, too.

Focus.

Like I said, it's all about your headspace.

To me, laying back and getting serviced while others do the work feels like a more dominant act than doing all the work of restraining, and doing the hard physical work yourself, especially when it specifically gets the girl off, feel like an act of service.

I can see it being the other way around for a D-male, but from my point of view I feel like I'm the one getting lucky getting restrained and used like that, instead of having to do aaaaaaaaallllllll the work on getting him off while getting nothing in return. Hell, any time a guy takes the time to tie me up, which is my main kink anyways, I feel like he's 'servicing' me and working hard and diligent at getting me off... always having to provide kink-free blow jobs, now that would be me serving him fully and selflessly (and something currently not a single guy on the planet that can convince me to do).

But the again... maybe that's why it's a good thing that there are people with comparable kinks from each side of the spectrum... everybody wins that way.

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RE: Blow job techniques - 7/9/2013 6:10:52 AM

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The point being that throat-fucking is a dominant act.

This D/s - it gets to be about me, too.

Focus.

Like I said, it's all about your headspace.

To me, laying back and getting serviced while others do the work feels like a more dominant act than doing all the work of restraining, and doing the hard physical work yourself, especially when it specifically gets the girl off, feel like an act of service.

I can see it being the other way around for a D-male, but from my point of view I feel like I'm the one getting lucky getting restrained and used like that, instead of having to do aaaaaaaaallllllll the work on getting him off while getting nothing in return. Hell, any time a guy takes the time to tie me up, which is my main kink anyways, I feel like he's 'servicing' me and working hard and diligent at getting me off... always having to provide kink-free blow jobs, now that would be me serving him fully and selflessly (and something currently not a single guy on the planet that can convince me to do).

But the again... maybe that's why it's a good thing that there are people with comparable kinks from each side of the spectrum... everybody wins that way.

You equate expending energy to doing work like it's some chore? I've been half an hour into tying a bondage "masterpiece" only to pick it all apart cos I wasn't getting the desired aesthetic result. Annoying to she who just wants to be restrained but still never work or a chore *to me*.

And yeah, if I were to keep some sort of overall scene tally, I'd say my girl enjoys sexual pleasure maybe 3-4 times to my one. But you're not getting it all if you think all that's happening is me "servicing" her. If the aim is for one to one sexual pleasure, may I suggest vanilla sex...?

I rather enjoy fucking with the girl's carnal needs and desires. Mine are more modest and it's enough that when I am in that mood, she won't be claiming any vanilla "headache".... And I think it rather tacky when those who apparently do keep score feel they owe or are owed in return. Not my ideal of how intimate relationships work.... This is where I join the tangent and come down on the side that thinks contracts are a crock.

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RE: Blow job techniques - 8/4/2013 8:27:44 PM

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I need help, i cant deep throat

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RE: Blow job techniques - 8/5/2013 11:37:24 AM

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I sometimes stop ,slowly put one of his ball in my mouth hold it with my lips and massfe and lick with my tongue then go back sucking then do the same with the other ball. He LOVES it

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RE: Blow job techniques - 8/5/2013 5:40:15 PM

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I am not very experienced with blow jobs and I am hoping to get some advice on how to work through a really strong gag reflex and maybe some tips on how to get better at them. Any advice is welcome. Thanks in advance.

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RE: Blow job techniques - 8/5/2013 8:28:17 PM

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Nevermind all mythnaking....suck firm, keep a steady beat and focus on the head...

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RE: Blow job techniques - 8/5/2013 8:47:02 PM

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I need help, i cant deep throat

Believe it or not..there are You Tube videos that give instructions and are actually quite good.

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RE: Blow job techniques - 8/6/2013 4:05:43 AM

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Learn how to breathe through your nose. Also, when you brush your teeth, let your brush roam past the point of being comfortable. It will help you get your gag reflex under control.

That's exactly what I was going to say! I used to have a ridiculously strong gag-reflex, but now whenever I brush my teeth I make a habit of also brushing my tongue and going rright back. Doing this consistently over a long period of time can really help.

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