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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/10/2013 9:09:15 PM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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Status: offline 		I happen to be ATTRACTED to short guys...or rather MOST of the guys I've ever been attracted to in real life have been short (under 5'8", some under 5'). Perhaps it's because first and foremost I like a guy who is FUN and self confident enough to laugh at himself, and I don't feel the need to have a BIG MAN around Me to "feel safe" (if anything I think some of the big guys are full of themselves while the shorter guys are willing to go the extra mile to get My attention).

Years ago I even had a "thing" for David Rappaport (Time Bandits). R.I.P. David.




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I have gone out on a limb at least 6 times in 2 mounths only to be shot down because my hight. What the hell is that all about?






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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/10/2013 9:21:10 PM   
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There have been a few woman that have said to me that they would prefer a taller man - I understand that but think that they are making a mistake. Ultimately people that dismiss someone based on things that they cannot control are selfish. I would never say no to a Black Slave because she is Black. I would never say no to a tall or short Slave because of their height. I would never say no to a disabled Slave because she is Disabled. You get my point.


Personal preferences are all about being selfish... its why they are called personal preferences. I dont discriminate against anyone as far as friendships go.... I feel perfectly fine saying " I wont date someone because of ____". Fill in the blank as you wish. (Keep in mind, race isnt an issue for me just in case someone wants to og off in that tangent).

Im a voice slut, self admitted... an accent of almost any kind turns me on. I prefer 6 feet and up... its my own idiosyncrasy. I prefer men who are closer to my age.... I prefer a man with strong hands... I prefer men who are dark haired, dark eyes.... I even get twinges from bald men.. I prefer a man who is stronger than I am (I love to be manhandled).. and I prefer a man who is engaged enough into the world around him that he can hold an intelligent conversation on a variety of topics from sports to politics to the silly side of life. I prefer a man who is secure in his place in the world, who doesnt need me to prop him up and make him feel all superior when he gets home because he feels the world is constantly beating him down... I prefer a man who takes the time to get to know my quirks and my needs, and can distinguish between the two.

Those are the basics of my preferences.. and I feel secure in having those because I have taken a long time to understand what it is about me that prefers all those things, which one's I may give up based upon the man himself, and which one's are deal breakers.

I realize you may consider all that discrimination... also know that no one person will be accepted by every female... we all have our preferences. You have your own as evidenced by your laundry list of loves, likes, dislikes... and you disliking country music would be a deal breaker for me.



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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/10/2013 9:26:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tazzy, the difference is that my disliking country music isn't something that I was born with.

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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/10/2013 9:32:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		LOL Tazzy... I can relate to that voice thing. If I don't like his voice or his hands... I can not do it. I just cannot. Don't know if a man in a past life tried to strangle me with gloves while singing the star spangled banner or what.. but I've tried and I know it will never happen.


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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/10/2013 9:47:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Im a voice slut, self admitted... an accent of almost any kind turns me on. I prefer 6 feet and up... its my own idiosyncrasy. I prefer men who are closer to my age.... I prefer a man with strong hands... I prefer men who are dark haired, dark eyes.... I even get twinges from bald men.. I prefer a man who is stronger than I am (I love to be manhandled).. and I prefer a man who is engaged enough into the world around him that he can hold an intelligent conversation on a variety of topics from sports to politics to the silly side of life. I prefer a man who is secure in his place in the world, who doesnt need me to prop him up and make him feel all superior when he gets home because he feels the world is constantly beating him down... I prefer a man who takes the time to get to know my quirks and my needs, and can distinguish between the two.



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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/10/2013 10:04:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ForgetToRemember

Tazzy, the difference is that my disliking country music isn't something that I was born with.


So you are saying I should give up my preferences because someone wants born into those preferences? That if I prefer one thing, but someone else prefers me, I should give in to the preferences of someone else because if I dont, I am discriminating against them?

Exactly how does that work.

Lets take for example height. I prefer 6 feet or taller (yes, I have been with men who have been closer to my own height). But because someone 5 - 4 prefers taller women, I should push aside my own preferences to give in to his?


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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/10/2013 10:10:32 PM   
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Stop lusting after my husband you slut!


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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/10/2013 10:27:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

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There have been a few woman that have said to me that they would prefer a taller man - I understand that but think that they are making a mistake. Ultimately people that dismiss someone based on things that they cannot control are selfish. I would never say no to a Black Slave because she is Black. I would never say no to a tall or short Slave because of their height. I would never say no to a disabled Slave because she is Disabled. You get my point.


Personal preferences are all about being selfish... its why they are called personal preferences. I dont discriminate against anyone as far as friendships go.... I feel perfectly fine saying " I wont date someone because of ____". Fill in the blank as you wish. (Keep in mind, race isnt an issue for me just in case someone wants to og off in that tangent).



I'm with tazzy on this. If I won't be friends with someone because they are short, or won't employ them because they are skinny, or treat my neighbours badly because they are black, that makes me a total dickhead. But when it comes to my intimate romantic relationship I'm entitled to any and all restrictions I want to put in place. The flip side of that is the more restrictions I make, the more chance that I'll never find someone who meets all my criteria, but that's my risk to take.

For me 'I'm not attracted to you' is enough of a reason for someone to turn me down - doesn't matter if I happen to think I have a lot to offer or their reason is weak. What if I managed to convince them to give me a chance? Now I'm in a relationship with someone who isn't into me - that's not good for happiness or self-esteem.


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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 3:12:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Because of my own height (5'8), I prefer men who are at least 6'.....If I am taller, I feel like the authority figure,hey my 11yr old is already 5'5... That said, the guy I am dating is 5'9. The first time I emailed him, he read my profile and came back with.."I appreciate your interest but I am well below your height requirement". I didn't care because I liked HIM. It is also a "shoe" thing..women worry that men close to our height will not like us to wear really high heels... I have found that that is more of a girl thing though. Seems the men don't care as much. I pretty much have to wear 4" heels all the time...and that makes me close to 6' tall and he does not care. I think a lot has to do with how self-conscious each is with his/her height.



Lot of times we put our "ideals" in the profile, but they are not set in stone.

BTW--HillWilliam--I saw a shirtless photo of you...those abs who CARES how tall you are!!

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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 8:28:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ForgetToRemember
I would say that in general Submissive women are the most callous about Height. I can't say I blame them...It makes sense to want someone physically and noticeably larger than yourself so you feel more submissive naturally.


That's not it. It's that men so far outnumber women, that the women can be very picky about getting their ideal when it comes to finding someone who is physically attractive.

I've never once turned someone down because they were short. I have turned someone down for lying to me about being tall.

Back when I was single, I was 36DD, 27, 38. I was declined at a first meeting by a man who did not like my big boobs and curves. He liked willowy women. I walked away from that meeting with the realization that regardless of what he thought, there was someone out there that would think I was hot. (BTW, I found him)

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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 10:11:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss

Because of my own height (5'8), I prefer men who are at least 6'.....If I am taller, I feel like the authority figure,hey my 11yr old is already 5'5... That said, the guy I am dating is 5'9. The first time I emailed him, he read my profile and came back with.."I appreciate your interest but I am well below your height requirement". I didn't care because I liked HIM. It is also a "shoe" thing..women worry that men close to our height will not like us to wear really high heels... I have found that that is more of a girl thing though. Seems the men don't care as much. I pretty much have to wear 4" heels all the time...and that makes me close to 6' tall and he does not care. I think a lot has to do with how self-conscious each is with his/her height.



Lot of times we put our "ideals" in the profile, but they are not set in stone.

BTW--HillWilliam--I saw a shirtless photo of you...those abs who CARES how tall you are!!

Well crud, I thought it was the biceps.

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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 10:48:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yep. The other side of the coin of men being too short is women being too large. It is as hard for women who are significantly over weight to find a partner. There is a prejudice there that is just as real.

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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 12:54:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		Count Me in as somebody who doesn't hang with the term discrimination when it comes to choosing one person over another due to their preferences. Somebody dating you isn't an entitlement or a right. Frankly, unless a person is willing to date an eighty year old, trying to pass other people's personal preferences as discrimination makes the entire stance hypocritical.


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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 12:59:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Dyfrynt

Yep. The other side of the coin of men being too short is women being too large. It is as hard for women who are significantly over weight to find a partner. There is a prejudice there that is just as real.


At a size 8, I don't think I was too large. I just wasn't his type.


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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 1:15:24 PM   
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It's that men so far outnumber women, that the women can be very picky about getting their ideal when it comes to finding someone who is physically attractive.


It's not getting any better either. The current birth rate (world wide) is 106/7 males (different gov sites actually garnered different numbers but they all fell in the .06 - .07 range) to every 100 females born. By sheer numbers alone, 6 - 7 guys are going to be without female partners until ESS starts to swing the other way.




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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 1:16:31 PM   
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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 1:17:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		It might not be your height. It could be this limb you are talking about. It's a topic that must be raised ...carefully.

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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 1:21:32 PM   
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Even less if you consider the number of poly relationships.

Good point. I'm thinking we can go ahead and just blame this whole mess on KoM.

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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 1:22:32 PM   
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RE: Why are so many girls unwilling to date a shorter guy? - 7/11/2013 1:24:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I KNEW you were going to say something like that! lol. Just knew it!

I wasn't referring to you Oside; as a matter of fact I would have been very pleased with those measurements if we had met way back when. Or now for that matter. I'm a Goldilocks guy myself. Not too big, not too small. Juuuust right.

I was making a general comment about women who are very overweight having just as hard a time as short men do. Promise.

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