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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/24/2013 8:33:13 PM

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So if I wanted to have you strip and finger yourself on cam for me, you wouldn't charge a single dime?

Would it be worth the price though? Smh.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/24/2013 8:42:21 PM

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Why are there so many Financial Doms out there? I only wanna talk/online sex chat with a regular Female Dom, and I am tired of Female Doms requesting guys to pay fees or get gifts to prove themselves. As a Dom myself I'd never make my sub buy me a gift or pay me to be dominated :/

good fin dommes cater specifically to guys whose kink involves giving money and gifts to women who have power over them. getting upset about the dynamic that attains between other people--a dynamic that doesn't involve you at all--is self-defeating and absurd. shorter version with smaller words: lol y u mad bro?

fin dommes who don't understand this dynamic are generally frustrated, embittered, and wildly unsuccessful so don't be mad at them, either, yo.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/24/2013 8:53:51 PM

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Men that want to have sex talk/kinky chat are about a nickel a dozen. With that many men approaching a woman to have that kind of chat, she would do herself well to charge if she is interested. If you want to talk sex, get to know someone, develop a relationship with them, don't be a whiney troll.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/24/2013 9:20:12 PM

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Bottom line is there are not that many fin domes out there - just a bunch of guys with fake pictures of women trying to scam money. There are some legit people on this site. But the majority of the new stuff I've seen over the past years is a complete scam and this site warns against sending money....

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/26/2013 3:52:48 AM

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LadyPact, I hasten to say that you NEVER depress me, the stats you quoted however, were really depressing

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/26/2013 5:15:49 AM

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Why are there so many Financial Doms out there?

Because there are a lot of sub men who like that kind of thing. Supply and demand and all that.

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I only wanna talk/online sex chat with a regular Female Dom, and I am tired of Female Doms requesting guys to pay fees or get gifts to prove themselves.

Then you should probably ignore the financial ones and stick with those who don't charge. Have you been to any local events or munches?

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As a Dom myself I'd never make my sub buy me a gift or pay me to be dominated :/

That's nice dear but everyone is different. That doesn't make them wrong and it doesn't make you wrong. It just means you like different approaches.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/26/2013 5:26:27 AM

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Awww, isn't that cute. What's the matter princess, not getting enough hits on your profile?

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/26/2013 4:53:13 PM

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Why are there so many Financial Doms out there? I only wanna talk/online sex chat with a regular Female Dom, and I am tired of Female Doms requesting guys to pay fees or get gifts to prove themselves. As a Dom myself I'd never make my sub buy me a gift or pay me to be dominated :/

A common question....understandable.

Keep in mind, men are superior drivers. (It's all on www.statefarm.com).

As a sub, I'm all about women who can keep me in the style I've become accustomed to.

I strive for the best.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/27/2013 1:57:41 AM

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I think there is a profound difference between financial domination and selling domination services. Financial domination is about power exchange, the other is just commerce.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/27/2013 2:34:01 PM

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While I don't doubt that there are some women out there who want an online-only relationship, how realistic is it to expect someone to fulfill all of your fantasies with no expectations of meeting?

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/27/2013 5:35:16 PM

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I think there is a profound difference between financial domination and selling domination services. Financial domination is about power exchange, the other is just commerce.

I agree ... Financial Mistresses are either: liars, cheats or Eastern Europeans posing as Dommes.

While many

Pro Dommes are responsible members of the lifestyle.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/27/2013 5:40:16 PM

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/27/2013 9:54:45 PM

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Why are there so many Financial Doms out there?

Because there are so many men willing to pay them. If no one paid them, financial domination would die out. As it is, it's going strong.

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I only wanna talk/online sex chat with a regular Female Dom, and I am tired of Female Doms requesting guys to pay fees or get gifts to prove themselves.

If you only want to talk sex, you'd better get used to paying for it. Most "regular Female Doms" aren't in it just to make your dick happy. That's not our purpose in life.

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As a Dom myself I'd never make my sub buy me a gift or pay me to be dominated :/

Even if you tried, it wouldn't work. It's a numbers game. There are so many male Doms out there that she would just move on to the next one who didn't expect to get paid.

As for female Dommes, financial and otherwise, once again it's a numbers game. There are so many more male subs out there than there are female Dommes that, if they want attention from a Domme, they need to stand out from the crowd head and shoulders above the rest to get noticed. A guy doesn't get noticed by just wanting his dick happy. Not only that, you're a male Dom(a switch really) who wants a Domme to cater to your needs. That sounds like you just want to use her.

What you're expecting is for someone to just tickle your fancy and titillate your dangly bits without being in any variety of a relationship. If you don't want to put the time in to get to know her as a person and just want a fetish-delivery system, even if it is just talk, why shouldn't you pay her?

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/28/2013 4:01:53 AM

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I think there is a profound difference between financial domination and selling domination services. Financial domination is about power exchange, the other is just commerce.

I agree ... Financial Mistresses are either: liars, cheats or Eastern Europeans posing as Dommes.

While many

Pro Dommes are responsible members of the lifestyle.

BET You didn't expect THIS!

So I'm a pro and a financial Domme. Does this make me a responsible member of the liar, cheater, or Eastern European lifestyle?

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/28/2013 6:07:01 AM

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What you're expecting is for someone to just tickle your fancy and titillate your dangly bits without being in any variety of a relationship. If you don't want to put the time in to get to know her as a person and just want a fetish-delivery system, even if it is just talk, why shouldn't you pay her?

NBMG

So basically what your saying is if you want sex without trying, you should just pay for a prostitute? so if you want to just have a fetish filled without effort, you should just pay for it? Hmm, they both seem identical.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/28/2013 6:15:17 AM

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That isn't what NBMG is saying at all.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/28/2013 6:31:02 AM

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That isn't what NBMG is saying at all.

Seems like it to me and maybe she can answer for herself.

Edited because I missed a word. Should stop watching the Da vinci Code and concentrate.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/28/2013 7:02:00 AM

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I'm sure she can, and will.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/28/2013 7:15:31 AM

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What you're expecting is for someone to just tickle your fancy and titillate your dangly bits without being in any variety of a relationship. If you don't want to put the time in to get to know her as a person and just want a fetish-delivery system, even if it is just talk, why shouldn't you pay her?

NBMG

So basically what your saying is if you want sex without trying, you should just pay for a prostitute? so if you want to just have a fetish filled without effort, you should just pay for it? Hmm, they both seem identical.

And if you want a massage without effort, you should just go to a masseur pay for it. And if you want advice without effort, you go to a therapist and pay for it. And if you want a home cooked meal without effort you should pay for it.

All these things you might get from a friend or partner or spouse etc, but if you don't have that person in your life, and no one's pounding down your door to offer these things and you want them, then go pay.

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RE: Why Financial Mistress - 7/28/2013 7:29:19 AM

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What you're expecting is for someone to just tickle your fancy and titillate your dangly bits without being in any variety of a relationship. If you don't want to put the time in to get to know her as a person and just want a fetish-delivery system, even if it is just talk, why shouldn't you pay her?

NBMG

So basically what your saying is if you want sex without trying, you should just pay for a prostitute? so if you want to just have a fetish filled without effort, you should just pay for it? Hmm, they both seem identical.

What she is saying is that everything comes at a cost. Sometimes that cost is time, social skills, and effort in developing the sort of relationship with a person (even friendships are relationships) where they want to give you what you are looking for. At other times, that cost is monetary. If you don't want to pay with time, social skills and effort, then open your wallet. There really is no other way.

I'm submissive, but not to everyone, and I'm a person first. If a Dom wants me to get him off, he has to give me a reason to give enough of a shit about his desires first.

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