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MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 1:03:21 PM)
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Several people have posted good points. There is something else it seems EVERYONE has forgotten about, and that is the fact that up until only a generation or two ago, before women became regular members of the full-time career population, that HUSBANDS financially dominated their wives. It was a simple "accepted fact" traditionally that when "the little wife" made any money as a seamstress, or baby sitter, hair dresser, or whatever, that she would give a sum or even all of it to the husband, who would then regulate where and on what she was allowed to spend it. Often wives received an "allowance" from the husband. He would often be the one to Manage the household money, usually pooling her money with his own to buy something (sometimes go out drinking, golfing, or other entertainment with his friends, with HER money---sound familiar?).
Even just recently when I owned a retail store and would be waiting on married women, I'd often hear the comment, "I need to ask my husband's permission before I can buy this," even though she had a higher paying job, the money was HERS, and it was a relatively low-priced item (say, $20-$40). The wife would then either call hubby to ask permission or return with him in a few days and he would hand Me the cash himself for the item. (In an aside here: watching this happen BLEW MY MIND. I can't IMAGINE having to ask permission to spend My own money...W.T.F.???)
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Their situation in essence is exactly the same thing as many fin-Dommes (IN ESTABLISHED D/s RELATIONSHIPS) do with their subs. They Manage and Control the sub(s) money and spending habits, give them an allowance and/or financial schedule to follow.
I'd classify it more as "Role-Reversal" if anything. I think the younger generation doesn't realize what traditional male and female roles really used to be like...the way they don't know what living with rotary phones, vinyl records, rabbit ear TV's, etc. was like. Not that they are stupid, just that they weren't around when it was considered "normal". They freak out about someone controlling/demanding someone else's money, but if put in a role-reversal context it does make sense.
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I don't really know about that.
There really are folks on the planet who do just want someone to pay attention to them, whether sexual arousal is a part of it or not. Haven't you ever known anyone, even in vanilla land, who tried to buy your friendship or loyalty with little gifts or material things? That female co-worker who bakes those special treats for the office on a regular basis, but you never hear her talk about any friends she has or social events she attends. Maybe the guy who is always willing to do handyman type chores but there's nobody connected to his life that he doesn't *do* things for?
While I'm not trying to suggest that this is the entire base of this type of behavior, every female has run across that guy in her life who tried to buy her.
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