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kalikshama -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 2:09:44 PM)
quote: There is something else it seems EVERYONE has forgotten about, and that is the fact that up until only a generation or two ago, before women became regular members of the full-time career population, that HUSBANDS financially dominated their wives. It was a simple "accepted fact" traditionally that when "the little wife" made any money as a seamstress, or baby sitter, hair dresser, or whatever, that she would give a sum or even all of it to the husband, who would then regulate where and on what she was allowed to spend it. Often wives received an "allowance" from the husband. He would often be the one to Manage the household money, usually pooling her money with his own to buy something (sometimes go out drinking, golfing, or other entertainment with his friends, with HER money---sound familiar?). Even just recently when I owned a retail store and would be waiting on married women, I'd often hear the comment, "I need to ask my husband's permission before I can buy this," even though she had a higher paying job, the money was HERS, and it was a relatively low-priced item (say, $20-$40). The wife would then either call hubby to ask permission or return with him in a few days and he would hand Me the cash himself for the item. (In an aside here: watching this happen BLEW MY MIND. I can't IMAGINE having to ask permission to spend My own money...W.T.F.???) I was just thinking about this. I have been in a M/s relationship that included his control over my finances. Initially, it turned me on to hand over my paycheck and for him to receive it. In the beginning, I found it hot to have to ask permission to spend money. However, once I realized that I detested swing clubs and his blowing money on them, I ended both the financial and the M/s dynamic.

dink22 -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 2:15:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: dink22 Okay. I hope you understand that's a CRITICAL difference. Because as a sub, I CAN'T "take it or leave it." If you really want to understand femdom as a TRUE sexuality, you need to know that there are some of us, like me, who, like gays, simply can't change. I will never be a top. I can act like one, but it is unexciting. Wish it wasn't so. My life would have been so much easier if I had flexibility. I did, which is exactly why I thanked her for the catch. However, that is why it isn't like being gay. For some of us, it's a take it or leave it thing. If anything, rather than saying it's an absolute for everyone, it also has to be accepted that some folks just engage in BDSM for fun. That crosses both genders and roles. There are also folks who are male submissives who are take it or leave it, too. Just like some female subs and both genders of Dominants. If it helps any, I couldn't be a bottom any more than you could be a top. There's no joy in it for Me, and frankly, there's no turn on in it from My perspective. That's why I am a top and a Dominant (two different things to Me, but that's another thread) is because that's where the excitement, both sexual and non, happens to lie. Power is an absolutely amazing aphrodisiac, as far as I'm concerned, and people find power from an unlimited amount of sources. As I see it, there's really nothing about fin kink that I can't compare to something about lifestyle kink which would be one of My personal turn ons, that can't be seen similarly. I'm actually very much into people submitting to acts that they don't necessarily want to do. It's a HUGE thing for Me to conduct scenes that put people in a position of mental or emotional anguish, but their obedience to Me or their own submission overrides that. Since I know that stuff turns Me on, I can absolutely understand how people can use fin kink for the same thing and get off on it in the same way that I do when I walk across a room and slap somebody across the face. Well, I don't doubt that, "for some of" you there's not a real big difference. However, "for some of" us, there is. We are males. We can't get hard being dominant. Females don't have to worry about that. They don't have to produce an erection. They can fake excitement even when they're not excited. If I could do the same, I'd be fuckin' babes left and right.

TNDommeK -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 2:18:08 PM)
Do you think you'll learn this time Dink ?[8\|] Now then, back to the convo. Husbands certainly did that, hell, I'm sure some still do. (Mine doesn't want the hassle so I do the billing and such.) Just like some wives, today, may do the exact same thing.

evesgrden -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 4:29:18 PM)
quote: Their situation in essence is exactly the same thing as many fin-Dommes (IN ESTABLISHED D/s RELATIONSHIPS) do with their subs. They Manage and Control the sub(s) money and spending habits, give them an allowance and/or financial schedule to follow. Many dominants do that with their submissives. The difference is keeping a piece of the pie for themselves and they're not in a committed personal live-in relationship where expenses are share. Furthermore, in the scenario you're referring to, women had no income. The husband/dominant made the money, paid the bills and gave her allowance (sometimes). If you want to think of it as role-reversal as you suggested, then you pay the bills, pay the mortgage and give him an allowance.. out of YOUR money. Not quite same. Being a findomme is not about being a financial advisor. Guys might get off on paying you to do that, but someone who needs a financial advisor doesn't typically care about their gender. Or looks. Or age, or sexiness or domliness. If you weren't hot in their eyes, you'd have no business. How many guys go "ooh.. I'm having budgeting problems.. I need a hot femdom who I can pay to get me out of this financial mess. where's a good kinky website and I'll find someone to consult about the balance sheet". Why it can't be owned for what it is, I don't know. And I don't mean calling it prostitution. You get paid for providing kink services. It's a job. Does a friend of colleague pay you to go to lunch with them? It's CUSTOMERs who pay for a service. The purpose of having a customer is to make money off them, hopefully in a square deal. Just because you enjoy it doesn't make it any less a business transaction. Doing pro bono work, is still work. And the work is titillation and arousal.. that's the subtext in all of it. And if it's not about you increasing your own wealth or material gain, and it's about you (generic) getting off on their giving, their suffering, their opening their wallets till it hurts (which is such a smart thing to do when you have trouble budgetting.. why they're with you in the first place) but go ahead, get off on that suffering, and DONATE THE GOODS AND CASH. How many battered women's shelters could use all that makeup? The shoes, the purses, so that they can put a good look together when they go for job interviews? That only works if this is about power and dynamics as opposed to getting paid. If you do it because you get off on it the power trip, then your own coffers don't need to be filled do they? Unless being paid is what makes you hot. Diamonds are a girl's best friend and all that. As I believe I mentioned in another thread, women getting money out of men by being alluring is not a new phenomenon. It's just dressed up internet style.

TNDommeK -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 4:41:14 PM)
Funny you should say that bc when I was in Memphis, I did donate clothes, and money to shelters! :) Also I gave to st Jude. Not trying to advert here but giving to st Jude is awesome. Everyone should. I agree with you on the financial advisor stuff, you're right. A person could go get any financial advisor. However since it is a kink, some choose fin Domme. That was what I was saying in the other thread. About how it IS A KINK.

LadyPact -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 5:05:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS Several people have posted good points. There is something else it seems EVERYONE has forgotten about, and that is the fact that up until only a generation or two ago, before women became regular members of the full-time career population, that HUSBANDS financially dominated their wives. It was a simple "accepted fact" traditionally that when "the little wife" made any money as a seamstress, or baby sitter, hair dresser, or whatever, that she would give a sum or even all of it to the husband, who would then regulate where and on what she was allowed to spend it. Often wives received an "allowance" from the husband. He would often be the one to Manage the household money, usually pooling her money with his own to buy something (sometimes go out drinking, golfing, or other entertainment with his friends, with HER money---sound familiar?). Even just recently when I owned a retail store and would be waiting on married women, I'd often hear the comment, "I need to ask my husband's permission before I can buy this," even though she had a higher paying job, the money was HERS, and it was a relatively low-priced item (say, $20-$40). The wife would then either call hubby to ask permission or return with him in a few days and he would hand Me the cash himself for the item. (In an aside here: watching this happen BLEW MY MIND. I can't IMAGINE having to ask permission to spend My own money...W.T.F.???) , Their situation in essence is exactly the same thing as many fin-Dommes (IN ESTABLISHED D/s RELATIONSHIPS) do with their subs. They Manage and Control the sub(s) money and spending habits, give them an allowance and/or financial schedule to follow. I'd classify it more as "Role-Reversal" if anything. I think the younger generation doesn't realize what traditional male and female roles really used to be like...the way they don't know what living with rotary phones, vinyl records, rabbit ear TV's, etc. was like. Not that they are stupid, just that they weren't around when it was considered "normal". They freak out about someone controlling/demanding someone else's money, but if put in a role-reversal context it does make sense. quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I don't really know about that. There really are folks on the planet who do just want someone to pay attention to them, whether sexual arousal is a part of it or not. Haven't you ever known anyone, even in vanilla land, who tried to buy your friendship or loyalty with little gifts or material things? That female co-worker who bakes those special treats for the office on a regular basis, but you never hear her talk about any friends she has or social events she attends. Maybe the guy who is always willing to do handyman type chores but there's nobody connected to his life that he doesn't do things for? While I'm not trying to suggest that this is the entire base of this type of behavior, every female has run across that guy in her life who tried to buy her. Sorry for the double quote, but it was necessary for context. Except for the first sentence that mentioned there being good point, I have to say that I don't understand what the post above had in connection to what I posted. If I didn't illustrate My point well, I was basically trying to say that we also have to look at the angle of folks who attempt to use money or material possessions to buy the friendship or affection of others, even when it is not sexual. While I'm absolutely willing to say that fin kink can have the power and control aspect, we also have to recognize that the same type of situation is often seen in the vanilla world where it manifests itself by those who doubt their own self worth. For whatever reason, they try to level the playing field of getting others to like them, socialize with them, etc basically because they learn that money and/or gifts is one way that's effective. I'm using the vanilla example because it removes the "yes it's a kink"/"no it's not a kink" part of the debate and trying to introduce other facets of the practice within the scope. If you've ever seen a movie with the line "you can't buy me" when it comes to purchasing time, affections, whatever, you can imagine the types of situations that I'm referring to.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 5:54:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: evesgrden And if it's not about you increasing your own wealth or material gain, and it's about you (generic) getting off on their giving, their suffering, their opening their wallets till it hurts (which is such a smart thing to do when you have trouble budgetting.. why they're with you in the first place) but go ahead, get off on that suffering, and DONATE THE GOODS AND CASH. I don't give to that type of charity period, so I wouldn't do that, but I whether I keep the stuff or not is no indication of whether or not it's about the money, stating otherwise is a logical fallacy. Tons of people engage in behavior and/or hobbies that they enjoy doing, for the reason that they enjoy doing it, and happen to also gain financially from it. Artists, writers, pageant models, and street musicians come to mind. Just because they can have some, small, financial gain from engaging in what they enjoy doing doesn't mean that they do it for the money. I happen to enjoy controlling men. Online, one of they ways I enjoy doing this is by controlling their finances. The fact that I happen to gain financially from doing so in the form of shoes, make up and other luxury items, doesn't imply at all that the goal I have when doing it is financial gain, or that my only, or primary motivation is financial gain.

evesgrden -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 8:38:35 PM)
quote: Tons of people engage in behavior and/or hobbies that they enjoy doing, for the reason that they enjoy doing it, and happen to also gain financially from it. Artists, writers, pageant models, and street musicians come to mind. Just because they can have some, small, financial gain from engaging in what they enjoy doing doesn't mean that they do it for the money. I happen to enjoy controlling men. Online, one of they ways I enjoy doing this is by controlling their finances. The fact that I happen to gain financially from doing so in the form of shoes, make up and other luxury items, doesn't imply at all that the goal I have when doing it is financial gain, or that my only, or primary motivation is financial gain. I guess it's the difference between "I love to paint, and wow.. there are folks who will pay me for it" and "I love to paint, but I won't paint unless I get paid." The former does it for the pleasure of it, the latter loves their job. Will you only control men if you receive compensation for your efforts? I don't have a moral issue with the findomme scenario. This is a free country, and if someone can say "Holy shit.. guys will pay me and give me stuff for doing this!!!! How cool is THAT". Great. Go for it. Clearly there are guys who are willing to make it worth your while. Is it worth your while to control men online without material gain? From this site alone it looks like they'd be lined up around the block 10x over if that was the case since it seems that's what a lot of them are looking for. Opening their wallets... not so much. Although yes those guys clearly exist too. Is dominance (online or otherwise) something you enjoy in and of itself, or do you only enjoy it when you get paid for it. Art for art's sake, money for god's sake. Time for a little 10CC http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tckqj1wrwlQ Anyway, free country, and so far I'm afraid no one's yet made anything close to a compelling argument which would dissuade me from thinking findomme is about getting paid to provide kink related services.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/31/2013 9:28:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: evesgrden I guess it's the difference between "I love to paint, and wow.. there are folks who will pay me for it" and "I love to paint, but I won't paint unless I get paid." The former does it for the pleasure of it, the latter loves their job. Will you only control men if you receive compensation for your efforts? THAT right there is what is to me the crucial distinction. Do you only like domination if there is monetary gain in it, or do you enjoy it in a variety of contexts, some of which happen to have financial gain as a side effect. It's the same difference between a vanilla partner asking for a massage, and a Dominant ordering a massage: both have a gain involved in them, but the motives are completely different. I don't have a moral issue with the findomme scenario. This is a free country, and if someone can say "Holy shit.. guys will pay me and give me stuff for doing this!!!! How cool is THAT". Great. Go for it. Clearly there are guys who are willing to make it worth your while. quote: ORIGINAL: evesgrden Is it worth your while to control men online without material gain? From this site alone it looks like they'd be lined up around the block 10x over if that was the case since it seems that's what a lot of them are looking for. Opening their wallets... not so much. Although yes those guys clearly exist too. Is dominance (online or otherwise) something you enjoy in and of itself, or do you only enjoy it when you get paid for it. To me, it's worth it without material gain. I've done it before, and with the right guy, I'd do it again. Regardless of how many there are on this site interested in online domination, I have hard time finding men I like doing it with, because for most of the ones looking for it, they want it on their terms, which is a huge turn off and dealbreaker for me. I don't mind service topping now and then offline, because the act of topping is fun to me regardless of power dynamics, but I detest service topping online. You'll also note that I, personally, don't advertise myself as a findomme on my profile. That is because I don't necessarily consider it a primary kink of mine. It's something I'm interested in, and like doing with the right sub, but it's not something I defacto do with every sub. It all depends on the dynamic. If it was possible to list it in the kink list on my profile, for me, it'd be under the 'likes' category.

evesgrden -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/1/2013 8:54:23 AM)
quote: You'll also note that I, personally, don't advertise myself as a findomme on my profile. That is because I don't necessarily consider it a primary kink of mine. It's something I'm interested in, and like doing with the right sub, but it's not something I defacto do with every sub. It all depends on the dynamic. If it was possible to list it in the kink list on my profile, for me, it'd be under the 'likes' category. You've given me something that I can get my head around. I can imagine in this situation it is something I could see as a kink--- as opposed to calling something a kink in order to rationalize making a buck off guys who are willing to pay for kink. The latter being a tail wagging the dog scenario. btw.. what logical fallacy did I succumb to in my last post (or post before that). I ask because for me it really is one of those "I HATE when that happens!". I have a tendency to be Miss Cocky Girl when it comes to logic and objectivity, although granted I don't always think things all the way through when I'm doing stream of consciousness type posting. I don't necessarily scrutinize my words for flawed arguments.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/1/2013 1:06:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: evesgrden btw.. what logical fallacy did I succumb to in my last post (or post before that). I ask because for me it really is one of those "I HATE when that happens!". I have a tendency to be Miss Cocky Girl when it comes to logic and objectivity, although granted I don't always think things all the way through when I'm doing stream of consciousness type posting. I don't necessarily scrutinize my words for flawed arguments. IF you claimed that "keeping the material gain proves that the motive for engaging in the act is the material" that's a logical fallacy. It's not really clear from your post if you're advocating that train of thought, or if you're merely suggesting that "if it's not about the material gain, then one of the things you could/should do with the material gain is donate it to charity", which is a valid statement, though it entirely depends on whether or not the person even wants to donate to charity, regardless of where they acquired the funds. The fact that keeping the material gains is no indication whatsoever of whether or not the material gains are the whole point of the exercise, is because it doesn't address the motive. If I knit a sweater to give as a present to somebody for Christmas, because I know that's what they want, than the producing of the sweater is the goal/motive of my knitting, and the fact that I happen to enjoy knitting is secondary. If I enjoy knitting, and therefore produce a bunch of random knitted items that I either give away because I have no use for them, or keep because I do have a use for them, then the goal/motive of my knitting is the knitting in and of itself, and the material gains that I either keep or give away as a result of that are merely a byproduct of me doing something for the fact that I enjoy doing it. Me keeping my knitwear doesn't imply that the reason I knitted is because I wanted/needed/desired having yet another scarf. It's the same with financial domination, for me personally. The fact that I keep the stuff I get from it doesn't imply that the stuff in and of itself is the goal. Like with Akasha, I don't need some random online dude's funds to buy me the stuff they buy me. My household income is sufficient to buy any random thing I've gotten through financial domination on a whim, without even thinking about the expense. If I really wanted the dress/shoes/make-up that bad, I could have simple bought them with a single mouse click, spending less than 5 minutes of the selection and buying process, without causing myself any hardship at all. Getting the same process through financial domination is a much more time involving, resource eating process. It takes finding a guy, getting to know him sufficiently to desire to dominate him, building that domination relationship, putting in the time and effort to understand his finances, putting in the time and effort to start controlling him in various ways including financially, chatting online and talking on the phone to build and maintain that relationship... by the time you add it all up, I've spend dozens of hours a week on this guy, for something that yields me a payoff of maybe a couple hundred bucks a week at the most if he doesn't have tons of expendable income (which most don't in this economy). At the amount of time I've put in at that point, I could have gotten myself that same pair of shoes (or whatever) a dozen times over, and still had money left for more AND time left over to spend on other, more productive pursuits.. The whole 'sending random strangers your wishlist and watching the presents roll in' tactic doesn't work. To build a reliable findomme relationship with somebody that amounts in a regular payoff over the long run takes time, effort, and relationship. Unless the guy is so rich that he's got the expendable income to send you thousands of dollars worth of goods and money every month, having a normal day job that pays relatively well is far more lucrative. In fact, it works so poorly that I, as a standard tactic, send my wishlist to any guy who mails me without reading my profile and in whom I am not interested at all because of that. I've found that if I send nothing back, I keep getting repeat mail over and over again, trying again. If I say 'thanks but no thanks' I get called names. Sending a wishlist with the command 'here, tribute me to show you're worthy of my time and effort' on a first mail is THE best way to ensure you never hear from the guy again, and he instantly blocks you. I've found it THE best tactic to ensure I'm not bothered, or called names, by guys who can't even bother to read my profile, or send an interesting opening mail. Surprisingly sending a wishlist and the demand for 'insta tribute' gets me less name calling than sending a 'thanks but no thanks'.

TNDommeK -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/1/2013 1:28:39 PM)
Omg. That was PERFECT!!!! I do the same thing to get them to leave me alone too! Lol

evesgrden -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/1/2013 4:35:25 PM)
quote: IF you claimed that "keeping the material gain proves that the motive for engaging in the act is the material" that's a logical fallacy. It's not really clear from your post if you're advocating that train of thought, or if you're merely suggesting that "if it's not about the material gain, then one of the things you could/should do with the material gain is donate it to charity", which is a valid statement, though it entirely depends on whether or not the person even wants to donate to charity, regardless of where they acquired the funds. Actually I believe the logical fallacy was "affirming the consequent". (yeah yeah yeah, nobody cares about this kind of crap but me)

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/1/2013 5:09:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: evesgrden quote: IF you claimed that "keeping the material gain proves that the motive for engaging in the act is the material" that's a logical fallacy. It's not really clear from your post if you're advocating that train of thought, or if you're merely suggesting that "if it's not about the material gain, then one of the things you could/should do with the material gain is donate it to charity", which is a valid statement, though it entirely depends on whether or not the person even wants to donate to charity, regardless of where they acquired the funds. Actually I believe the logical fallacy was "affirming the consequent". (yeah yeah yeah, nobody cares about this kind of crap but me) I do, hence my tag line of "Goddess of logic", but usually when I get to talking to technical, the audience tunes out. [;)]

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/1/2013 5:32:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CoCoCapitalist So I rarely post to this forum but I had a few personal thoughts that I wanted to express and get some feedback on...I am open to all comments and great conversation...Please leave ignorance and arrogance out of this...Thanks for reading in advance... I am a lifestyle Domme who has recently reached out towards the FinDom community...I find that the FinDom community is more suitable for my needs and more so fits with what I enjoy...I personally have been a Dominant for many years but recently just decided to try the online aspect of the lifestyle...& FinDom just made it so much more enjoyable for ME...What Goddess doesn't enjoy being spoiled?...but I understand that there are scam artist who take advantage of people but what one indulges in is their business and if they choose to do very little homework on someone they plan on embarking on a journey such as a D/s relationship with seems like a personal silly mistake on their behalf... From my personal experience I have come across some great people and have had very good feedback. So far it has been a really awesome experience but I have noticed that on this site in particular there are a great deal of FinDom haters...lol...Meaning they do NOT agree with the way I or others choose to live our lives and they feel the need to voice their opinion...Where I get confused is because all of these individuals have been subs...Contacting ME to be of service to ME but they only want to serve ME the way they want to lololololll when did this start happening...? Ignorant as ever...how can you be of proper use to anyone with a closed mind and a big mouth? ... Also who applies for a job they do NOT want ? Anywho I have gotten very used to weeding through the B.S. and have learned that people will be people and to NOT take anything personal.... But the way I see it is Domination is Domination...A power Exchange is a Power Exchange...but that is the Power Exchange I enjoy most...and to ME as long as the Domme and sub have the proper agreement suitable to their liking the relationship can be very fulfilling...Many people have different fetishes, needs, wants, etc...I have learned that despite a particular group of individuals and/or any titles a D/s relationship is all about finding a great match where both parties get the most out of one another... What are your thoughts on this topic...? I think that's a highly unfair assumption. I, for one, find myself not at all a fin domme hater, rather, a realist. As best as I can deduce, my own personal feelings are that they (for clarity: fin dommes) are a waste of human flesh, succors (meaning, they {errantly} believe they offer a valid service) of flatulence of the mind, they provide nothing more than thirst, where the recipient desires drink, and they are nothing more than a scourge on the planet. Other than that, I think they're just peachy.

TNDommeK -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/1/2013 5:51:57 PM)
Maybe I should add that to my sig line as well.

AllisonWilder -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/2/2013 4:48:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie quote: ORIGINAL: CoCoCapitalist So I rarely post to this forum but I had a few personal thoughts that I wanted to express and get some feedback on...I am open to all comments and great conversation...Please leave ignorance and arrogance out of this...Thanks for reading in advance... I am a lifestyle Domme who has recently reached out towards the FinDom community...I find that the FinDom community is more suitable for my needs and more so fits with what I enjoy...I personally have been a Dominant for many years but recently just decided to try the online aspect of the lifestyle...& FinDom just made it so much more enjoyable for ME...What Goddess doesn't enjoy being spoiled?...but I understand that there are scam artist who take advantage of people but what one indulges in is their business and if they choose to do very little homework on someone they plan on embarking on a journey such as a D/s relationship with seems like a personal silly mistake on their behalf... From my personal experience I have come across some great people and have had very good feedback. So far it has been a really awesome experience but I have noticed that on this site in particular there are a great deal of FinDom haters...lol...Meaning they do NOT agree with the way I or others choose to live our lives and they feel the need to voice their opinion...Where I get confused is because all of these individuals have been subs...Contacting ME to be of service to ME but they only want to serve ME the way they want to lololololll when did this start happening...? Ignorant as ever...how can you be of proper use to anyone with a closed mind and a big mouth? ... Also who applies for a job they do NOT want ? Anywho I have gotten very used to weeding through the B.S. and have learned that people will be people and to NOT take anything personal.... But the way I see it is Domination is Domination...A power Exchange is a Power Exchange...but that is the Power Exchange I enjoy most...and to ME as long as the Domme and sub have the proper agreement suitable to their liking the relationship can be very fulfilling...Many people have different fetishes, needs, wants, etc...I have learned that despite a particular group of individuals and/or any titles a D/s relationship is all about finding a great match where both parties get the most out of one another... What are your thoughts on this topic...? I think that's a highly unfair assumption. I, for one, find myself not at all a fin domme hater, rather, a realist. As best as I can deduce, my own personal feelings are that they (for clarity: fin dommes) are a waste of human flesh, succors (meaning, they {errantly} believe they offer a valid service) of flatulence of the mind, they provide nothing more than thirst, where the recipient desires drink, and they are nothing more than a scourge on the planet. Other than that, I think they're just peachy. Aside from the 'because I can' answers, I'm curious why you even read these threads if you really detest findommes this much? Why do you even bother to expend the energy to clack away on your keyboard when all you have to do is skip the thread and save yourself from any ensuing headaches? There's really no need to redundantly spew your word vomit about how much you detest FD. You're against findommes. Point taken, we get it, I promise.

Celtico -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/2/2013 11:10:55 AM)
quote: The whole 'sending random strangers your wishlist and watching the presents roll in' tactic doesn't work*. I speak only for myself, but I couldn't imagine ever sending "tribute" to someone here that I hadn't met personally - and even then - only if we had a good relationship - and even then - only if it was within the context of legally intended gifting.

TNDommeK -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (8/2/2013 4:35:08 PM)
Well, sometimes distance stands in the way, but with today's modern technology, getting to know someone isn't hard. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it when ppl I don't know write me and say "hey you're beautiful, I sent you something from your wishlst"..which happens quite a bit. BUT, I also like getting to know ppl., what makes them tick, etc. it's better for both in the long run.

thishereboi -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (9/15/2013 5:40:37 AM)
quote: hat are your thoughts on this topic...? You will probably get a lot of hits from starting this thread, but I doubt any of them will actually pony up cash. Might want to have a backup plan in place. Just in case.

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