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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I don't know IB, say I beat mine like it owes me money, would that modify your stance?  It would have components of psuedo-bdsm at the very least....

Good at ya, me ol' cobber!!

Not sure mate but Ihave encountered groups of guys at mining camps when pissed they's jerk offover a driedcracker and the last one to spurt gets to eat the now soggy cracker.. Not my scene but that might just be BDSM too.....

<<Heaves Ron another iced Fosters>>

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ORIGINAL: ArtimisBlack

Susan, the best way to judge a person's experience is to first read up, ask questions, and get as much knowledge of your own as you can. After that, decide how much experience you want that person to have. A persons experience can either be relative to your own or relative the group in general (whichever group that happens to be). So, for example, you may find somebody with more experience then you have, but compared to the group in general they are not quite so experienced. A simple conversation should be able to give you some hints as to how experienced a person is, once you decide what you're looking for. If it's obvious that they don't know what they are talking about then it’s a good sign they don't have much experience.

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
Psuedo BDSM?  Difficult to say, but I could posit that it is when thinking of it only...to the exclusion of real performance...that there is an exercise in psuedo BDSM going on.  That there has to be a definite physical interaction that takes place.  This is MOO. 

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44
A glue gun?

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44
This theory too, is flawed. What if the person has read those same books or more books then you. He could talk all day long about how to do X but had never done X to an actual person. Would you still want to see him approach you with a knife in hand? A branding iron? A glue gun? Having book knowledge and having practical application experience are two very different things.

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44
A glue gun?

A glue gun? Oh you perv!!! .......I think I'm in lust[;)]

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ORIGINAL: ArtimisBlack

Susan, the best way to judge a person's experience is to first read up, ask questions, and get as much knowledge of your own as you can. After that, decide how much experience you want that person to have. A persons experience can either be relative to your own or relative the group in general (whichever group that happens to be). So, for example, you may find somebody with more experience then you have, but compared to the group in general they are not quite so experienced. A simple conversation should be able to give you some hints as to how experienced a person is, once you decide what you're looking for. If it's obvious that they don't know what they are talking about then it’s a good sign they don't have much experience.

This theory too, is flawed. What if the person has read those same books or more books then you. He could talk all day long about how to do X but had never done X to an actual person. Would you still want to see him approach you with a knife in hand? A branding iron? A glue gun? Having book knowledge and having practical application experience are two very different things.

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ORIGINAL: ArtimisBlack
 Another indicator of experience is how long and how often they have been involved in BDSM. If they have been into it for years but have never met anyone in to *real* world it's another sign they might not have the experience you'd like. Other then that, go with your gut, and just to be on the safe side, don't do anything too extreme until you try the softer stuff first with them first and have known them a while. Hope this helps.

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ORIGINAL: feastie

So how many of you are going to continue buying into this guy's scam for attention?  Every post you make, even one that comments on his rudeness, etc., is one more notch in his bedpost.  The attention is what he's after.  Having the power to "control" people on the board because of the way he words his posts. It doesn't matter one whit to him what you write, just as long as you write.

He's winning and you're allowing it.

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ORIGINAL: KennelDeSade2

Agreed, we might as well salvage something.
But a question first.  Your experience level, or another's?
If you don't have a lot of experience, then you may not catch the subtle things that a person with more time in grade (sorry, had to) would pick up on.  But one clue is that if you go to a auto mechanic and he claims ten years experience, but has only a 12x8x6 inch toolbox, you can pretty safely assume he is being less than truthful.  I've found the same in general applies to a Top, in that if he has two toys or tools, which had seen little wear, then.  .  Well.

So you judge someone experience by the size of their toy bag? Thats rather asinine. By this logic, if one buys toys second hand, has a room full of them and keeps the dust on off them, then they're of great experience. But if they specialize in one type of play and buy new implements in reserve because of wear, or simply only shows the new implement for the sake of first impressions, then they don't have the "experience". Bullshit.

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44
For either poorly articulating your advice, or articulating poor advice.