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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/28/2013 7:52:58 PM

RedMagic1

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If you hold the door for her and she cusses you out, she's dominant.

I'll tell you one in this vein that's 100% for real, no joking.

If you've pulled out your wallet to pay for the meal and she quick as lighting pays for it first, then leans back and smirks at you, she might be a dominant.

Sexy as hell, let me tell you.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/28/2013 8:15:25 PM

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No, I have to disagree vehemently.

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If you've pulled out your wallet to pay for the meal and she quick as lighting pays for it first, then leans back and smirks at you, she might be a dominant.

It only goes to show she feels she has to prove social one-upsmanship by putting you, a Dom, in your place, and/or has a misguided sense of feminism. More than likely she's not interested in you sexually and has put you in the friend zone. When I go out with a friend, we take turns treating one another to meals or the movies, etc.

(Are you trying to ensure this dude never gets a second date, much less laid? Last I heard women are always impressed by cheap f*ckers who stare at their wallets waiting for their dates to pay Dutch. Yeah, and let's not forget about the stingy tippers either.)

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/28/2013 8:31:23 PM

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Your response made me laugh, so ty. She's a known femdom in San Francisco. Didn't strike me as sub, personally, either.

I am sure she would not have paid if I had been hemming and hawing about the bill. She did it because she could see I was planning to do the gentlemanly thing, and she wanted to wear the pants at the end of that part of the date. It was gender-bendy, and complimentary, not submissive. I had also spent a few hundred dollars on a plane ticket to meet her, so part of the subtext was that she was thanking me for making the date possible.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 12:25:00 AM

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I'm a femdom, and I've always told men that basically no one would know - but a man would CLEARLY know the moment I wanted him to know.

Also, I have groups of girlfriends that may go out with me, and I could tell you at the end of the night if a sub was there and we quizzed him, "who do you think was the femdom?" there would be one of that all the subs would pick every time, and she is NOT kinky at all, if anything she's as vanilla as can be and submissive in the bedroom, but she has a domineering personality, a controlling way about her. That kind of thing says nothing about kink or dominance or power exchange.

When I am "flirting" with a man and showing interest in a sensual way, then I "switch on" my femdom "vibe." Then it shows. It's in body language, a bit of double meaning when I can fit it into jokes, and then I am always the one - always - to make the first move (kiss, intimacy, etc.). I don't leave any doubt, if a man is submissive, that I am dominant. If anything, I am figuring out what he knows about kink, if anything, or getting a sense if he's a dominant type and we're going to butt heads.

I'm not in a position anymore to pursue "sexual" partners. But I recall the biggest challenge when pursuing (flirtatiously) new partners was not determining if they were submissive/open to kink, but weaning out men that were not of the mindset, "Oh, hey, she's kinky that's cool, I can do that, that mean's she's easy, tie me up and blow me!" -- meaning, they were like, "Yes, I can be submissive, YES MA'AM!" Luckily I got pretty good at sensing that early on.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 5:04:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: TigressLily

Last I heard women are always impressed by cheap f*ckers who stare at their wallets waiting for their dates to pay Dutch. Yeah, and let's not forget about the stingy tippers either.

Woah, this doesnt work at all. I have been trying it forever and still not been laid.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 5:25:25 AM

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FR:

The question as asked: If you had to give a percentage, how many girls would you say are actually dominate and not just using it as a hook?

Here on CM, I wouldn't count on those 'girls' as being female. There are tons of scammers here and elsewhere on the net.

If the question is, How do I tell if a female is dominant? first you have to determine what dominance *is.*

In my mind dominance is leadership, it's strength of will, it's having a superior code of ethics. Look for people with those traits. If you want someone only dominant in the bedroom, that's quite different since many people will show the above traits and be sexually sub.

For that, you have to actually get to know them in an intimate way, they will either display their dominance, or you could <big cough here> ask them.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 11:00:38 AM

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IM WONDERING HOW MANY DOM REALLY GET A SEXUAL TURN FROM VARIOS BDSM ACTIVITYVS HOW MANY ARE IN IT JUST TO FEED THEIR INSECURE EGOS.LETS FACE IF A FEMALE IS DOMINANT AND SOME WHAT ATTACTIVE SHE CAN HAVE 5 OR 10 SUBS MALE KISSING HER FEET OR WHAT EVER.IF SHES REALLY CLEVER SHE MAYNOT EVEN HAVE TO WORK FOR I FIND THIS KIND OF DOM DISGUSTING AND THE MEN WHO CATER TO THEM WIMPS AND FOOLS.IM SURE THIS WILL PISS SOME PEOPLE OFF BUT I DONT CARE, SUB ROB

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 11:14:52 AM

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In my case.................you can´t.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 11:17:05 AM

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IM WONDERING HOW MANY DOM REALLY GET A SEXUAL TURN FROM VARIOS BDSM ACTIVITYVS HOW MANY ARE IN IT JUST TO FEED THEIR INSECURE EGOS.LETS FACE IF A FEMALE IS DOMINANT AND SOME WHAT ATTACTIVE SHE CAN HAVE 5 OR 10 SUBS MALE KISSING HER FEET OR WHAT EVER.IF SHES REALLY CLEVER SHE MAYNOT EVEN HAVE TO WORK FOR I FIND THIS KIND OF DOM DISGUSTING AND THE MEN WHO CATER TO THEM WIMPS AND FOOLS.IM SURE THIS WILL PISS SOME PEOPLE OFF BUT I DONT CARE, SUB ROB

1. No need to shout. Turn off your caps lock.
2. They're called Dommes, not Doms.
3. You don't get it. If a woman says she likes a specific activity, that does not mean she wants strangers to do them with her. It means once she gets a relationship, she'll want them. Most have no desire to have five or ten strangers kissing their feet.
4. You're not into FinDommes. Cool. Don't use them.
5. The things that piss me off in your post are not the viewpoints you think, but are the rudeness of all caps, and the notion that women have it easy because they have loads of incompatible men bothering them.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 11:40:28 AM

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 1:48:01 PM

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I hope this is a joke...I'm dominant, and none of this applies to me!

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 1:58:52 PM

OvrThRainbow

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ORIGINAL: toxicrose13

I hope this is a joke...I'm dominant, and none of this applies to me!

Either that or he's had some unpleasant experiences with women in the lifestyle.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 2:27:06 PM

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More likely, meeting women who do the phone sex lines for a living.

And pretending to be something you aren't in exchange for a paycheck is commonly referred to as acting. And most actors and actresses can't make a living off it.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 2:29:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: OvrThRainbow

quote:

ORIGINAL: toxicrose13

I hope this is a joke...I'm dominant, and none of this applies to me!

Either that or he's had some unpleasant experiences with women in the lifestyle.

Give it time........you are only 18 years old per your profile.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 2:39:56 PM

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If someone's age matters, then why do you at 54 and claiming to be highly educated, make such sweeping generalizations and assumptions?

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 2:45:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

If someone's age matters, then why do you at 54 and claiming to be highly educated, make such sweeping generalizations and assumptions?

Because women without those qualities delete and block him, so women in more desperate circumstances are all he knows?

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 2:53:18 PM

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No, your list is not accurate!! You're welcome to your opinion but I heartily disagree.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 2:54:24 PM

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Good answer.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 3:01:53 PM

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Your email stating "entertaining" to either my posts here and/or my profile was a wasted effort on your part.
I don't give two hoots in hell what you think about me.

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RE: How to tell if a woman is dominant? - 9/29/2013 3:17:21 PM

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I "took the time to post above" to show others in this thread more about your personality. It must be a sad life for you living
in only black and white with no room for tolerance of others. I guess that makes you a twue dom.

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