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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

OP, you sound smart enough not to listen to the bad advice about overwhelming your friend.

When I met some dominant men in the past, sometimes the smallest gesture was enough to trigger something.

One time, I met someone for a first date, dinner. We talked about everything BUT D/s.

He did small things at dinner, like take my wrist and just hold it.

When we left, he kissed me at my car and just held my hair really hard and pulled it slightly.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: SerWhiteTiger

You guys are talking past each other. Arturas isn't saying to beat the crap out of her or to browbeat her into submission, he's simply saying to be a Dom and that in being a Dom, she will be overwhelmed by how manly and awesome you are, because hey, male Doms are pretty manly and awesome and overwhelming. Y'all are reading way more into his words than what he was trying to say IMO, and then he is responding to the responses and it's pure chaos. Everyone stop and take a breath.

Basic courteous interaction with an actual male Dom can be quite overwhelming to many a female sub.

On the other hand, no, don't beat her black and blue. Duh.

We have more experience with Artie than you do and we have seen posts about his philosophies. I could post some previous threads that would give more insight, but at this point, the OP is asking a good question and has already come to his own conclusion about Artie's post.

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Dominants also can differentiate between what it is to dominate someone and being dominant. Guess what? Spelling counts because the meaning of the entire word changes. Know the difference and don't be dismissive when someone tries to correct you. You can dominate a submissive, you do not dominant them. You are a dominant, you are not a dominate. It is fine if you cannot see the difference, everyone else can and it speaks volumes about who and what you are.

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Do you think this is the best, ....? I don't. Overwhelm might mean anything from spanking with a hairbrush to hanging her from her tits from a skyscraper crane...

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

OP, you sound smart enough not to listen to the bad advice about overwhelming your friend.

When I met some dominant men in the past, sometimes the smallest gesture was enough to trigger something.

One time, I met someone for a first date, dinner. We talked about everything BUT D/s.

He did small things at dinner, like take my wrist and just hold it.

When we left, he kissed me at my car and just held my hair really hard and pulled it slightly.

While I did not know if I felt chemistry at dinner, I started to feel it then because he was using finesse instead of outright "on your knees bitch", which came much later once I got to know him.

Now, I was an experienced sub, but this advice applies since you are always a new sub to someone new.

Sometimes, being dominant is a whisper rather than yelling.

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ORIGINAL: Arturas

, so be Dominate or instead be not and

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Oh no. You have fallen for one of the more common internet misperceptions, LGH.
It is A Dominate.

One becomes a, or perhaps The "'Weal Twue Dominate"' by being unrelentingly dominant, 24/7/365, for an extended period of time, as in 5 years or so, kinda like dominant boot camp Bruce Wayne learning from Ra's Al Ghul style, until one is not only utterly dominant with each thought, but transcends the waking consciousness and even dreams in dominance. The very actions become statements of control, authority, unrelenting sternness and of course, masculinity.

Wimmens cannot help but react to this instinctually. The thought of Him leaves them lightheaded. Close proximity results in knees bruised from knocking together, nipples painful from intense erection and drooling from the pheromonal high he transmits. A glance results in rolling eyes,glazed expressions, puddle pussies, rectums doing goldfish gaping in need of his use. His touch,of course, is divinity on earth, leaving her perpetually locked under the spell of his maleficent gaze. Needless to say, she is far to spellbound to think,much less vocalize, instead stuck dumb by His Hisness.

In a manner akin to Red Dragon's becoming, at some point along the line, The Weal Dominate's own metabolism will actually begin to manufacture leather chaps, much like a lobster grows it's own shell.

At this juncture, they pierce the veil of relativity and actions as bound by the laws of physics that limits mere mortals such as myself, until they do not become dominance, but dominance becomes them-it is in their every move, look, thought, aspect, value, moral and fiber-they quite literally ooze pheremonal dominance from their every pore.

Having achieved the Godhead, they are no longer engaging in an activity-say, dominance.
Instead, they have actualized the ideal, and in doing so, become it-thus they are "dominates"

It's all very zen. I probably didn't explain it very well.
But I am only an egg, and grok little. I shall have to contemplate on how better to express a concept I understand poorly at best while striving to hear the sound between raindrops whilst sipping cha from an empty cup.

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rooling from the pheromonal high he transmits. A glance results in rolling eyes,glazed expressions, puddle pussies, rectums doing goldfish gaping in need of his use.