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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: How old are you really? (8/27/2013 6:33:30 PM)
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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12
It's a funny thing, I thought only women lied about their age, but in the last year I must have had at least 20 men lie directly to me about their age. Also, by photographs that men publish of themself, I can see that there is a lot of dishonesty going on regarding age. Why is this?
With multiple BDSM websites, and people often sticking with the same user names that they are known by, it's very easy to compare one profile against another - something which I routinely do if I am being contacted by a potential Dom.
One Dom was lying by at least 15 years! Others routinely lie 6-7 years, anything up to 5 years is commonplace. Why bother to lie about something so petty?
I understand that some websites don't update your age automatically, but if you only joined 2 years ago, then how can it be 5 years out? Lol.
The common wisdom is that men grow better with age and that women enjoy the company of an older man. Is this no longer the case? Are men now under pressure to fake youthfulness to be considered attractive? I often hear older women complain that men their age are only interested in younger women. But are younger women becoming increasingly willing to select for younger men, pushing older men out of the dating loop too? And will older men become more and more dishonest about their age as time goes on, or begin dating more within their age range, thus freeing themselves of the pressure to lie?
And finally, why would a heavily wrinkled person with veiny hands ever think they could pass themselves off as a 38 year old? You can't always tell whether someone is married, or cheating, whether they're being honest about their job or where they live, but somebody's age is pretty much written all over them. So why lie?
Vanity (you can be anything online, even ten or twenty years younger)
Fantasy (when someone's main reason for being here is cybering, why not be young or female or from a more romantic/interesting country...)
Fear (lots of competition, and many folks set their search parameters by age)
Carelessness (too busy enjoying the site to bother with updating their age)
People misrepresenting themselves...yeah, that sucks. Even when someone does not deliberately misrepresent themselves, sometimes photos cannot keep up with current events in someone's life that can drastically alter their appearance.
My submissive boyfriend didn't lie about his age, he's ten years older than I am. But our first meetup threw me because his picture looked like a cuddly teddy bear...it had been taken just a few months before...and by the time I met him he was unhealthy looking, almost gaunt from overwork and illness. I have to admit to being poleaxed when I saw him, my first thought was "OMG, you poor baby (man/submissive)!"
I came here on my 39th birthday and I'm 49 right now going on 50. I never saw the point in saying/lying that I was 30, weight proportionate, and in perfect health. I am who I am and if folks aren't going to like me...I'd rather know before I've wasted enough time to form an attachment.
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