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Zonie63 -> RE: What do you see as a "men's" issue? (9/6/2013 6:06:07 AM)
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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl
~FR
Lets not get into the discussion aspect of this. I am merely looking for a list of concerns that men face and feel they are not adequately addressed by society.
I don't know if this strictly qualifies as a "men's issue," but oftentimes, I interpret debates like this as if they're being conducted in Western cultural isolation, without really taking into consideration how gender issues are perceived by other cultures in other areas of the world. It sometimes seems as if Western men are condemned for the splinter in their eye, while more egregious violations against women elsewhere in the world are not judged so harshly by comparison.
Another slightly related issue I see is that current generations of men are not really given any benefit of the doubt.
On a societal level, no real acknowledgement or credit is given to those who have sincerely and genuinely supported equality and rights for women. There are some men who have tried to make things better, yet that's still not good enough. To hear some people talk, they seem to think that we're still living in the 19th century.
On a personal level, it's kind of the same thing. I feel as if I have to walk on eggshells just to prove that I'm not some evil brute. I'm kind of a big guy, and some people have told me that I sometimes come across as "intimidating." It's not something I do consciously, but I don't like being judged unfairly when I haven't done anything wrong. I have nothing but scrupulous regard for the rights of other human beings, and I have never harmed another human being in my life. I sometimes feel I have to retreat or withdraw from situations just to placate the irrational fears of others. At least, if someone is going to judge me, judge me for what I am, not for what I am not. (I've never been falsely accused of anything, so it's not exactly the same thing as someone else brought up earlier. But I often feel as if I have to be extra special careful just to avoid anything like that.)
This may not be an issue that society can deal with, but you said earlier that you wanted to see how men view their world. I think these are all issues men have to deal with in real life, even if they don't actually address any particular law.
Another issue might be related to how the image of men is often reduced to a caricature, and this leads to misperceptions and a lack of understanding. As a result, my sense is that many (if not most) women today don't even really understand men beyond the lowest common denominator. They make a lot of assumptions about what they think they know about men, but those assumptions are often wrong. (As a result, many men try to mold themselves into that caricature because they think that's what women expect them to be, which can make it even more problematic.)
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