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RE: Age Gap? - 11/13/2013 10:34:52 AM

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I'm 30. My master is in his 70's. Suits me fine.

You asked whether it was "socially acceptable" to have a 12 year age gap. No. It's not "socially acceptable." It's not socially acceptable to have been a victim of rape. It's not socially acceptable to have been raised by a single parent. It's not socially acceptable to have been out of work for six years before finally starting to take crappy contract labor in order to survive. It's not socially acceptable to be gay. It's not socially acceptable to have been born with cystic fibrosis. It's not socially acceptable to have a dependent, slavish personality and choose to deal with it by finding a master who nurtures you and helps you grow rather than trying to make you feel small over feeling small.

If all of us socially unacceptable people would just get together, we would find that "society," which is that group of people who think they have a right to hurt anyone who is different somehow, is really vanishingly small. "Society" is getting weaker every day. "At this, the 33 gods rejoiced still more, saying the devas' hosts are growing, the asuras' hosts are declining." Good people are here for you. We support who you are, and we believe that your love is worthwhile.

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RE: Age Gap? - 11/13/2013 11:15:27 AM

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Whenever I think of what society approves of, I think of this comic:

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RE: Age Gap? - 11/15/2013 4:47:09 PM

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I am largely in agreement with DarkSteven. In my way of thinking, the age difference does not matter. As long as both of you have that special warm feeling when you wake up together in the morning, and if you enjoy each other sexually and emotionally, then what the people around you think is for nothing.

I am in my early fifties and I am looking for a submissive woman much younger than myself: why, because I find younger submissive women fascinating. I am in far better physical shape than most men aged below 40: I take good care of myself, I am healthy, and have a voracious sexual appetite. I am also a kind, loving, but strong dominant male. To me, the unique relationship with a sub is far more important to me than what other people think.

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RE: Age Gap? - 11/16/2013 12:32:44 PM

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I was happily married for 18 years to a man 17 years my senior, and we chose not to have children. Both hat 'society' thought was irrelevant. That he adored me, cared for me, was Daddy ... that is what mattered and what I carry with me to this day

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RE: Age Gap? - 3/2/2014 12:35:18 AM

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Having one of those faces,mi have faced this most of my life, but with amusing twists.

Once at 28 I was dating a woman who was 18. I got carded and even refused and required a call the the chief of police who knew me personally, but amusing none the less.

Once I was dating a college age girl, met her parents, who looked older than I and were younger.

So I come down on if you fit then it is fine.
And yes, you are overthinking this a bit.

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RE: Age Gap? - 3/2/2014 6:42:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky
My dad is pretty closed-minded about certain things and then lightens up and supports me eventually.

This would mirror my response.

In the end, people tend to key off of actual vibes more than theoretical concerns like age gap. So someone's first thoughts might be something like "wow, that's quite an age gap." But for most people what rules the day is the actual relationship and the vibes that are given off by both. Only the most judgemental of asshats are more concerned with their own private little theories than the reality in front of them.

For the record I have some friends who are M/s with a 20 some odd year age gap. We'll be sitting in their living room and she's on the floor in front of the couch and she'll be nuzzling his knee and whatnot... obvious love signs. Looks fine to me.

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RE: Age Gap? - 3/2/2014 6:49:52 AM

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IS it socially acceptable? THat is one of those things that I say "WHo cares?"

My husband is 13 yrs older then me, we had a lot in common. The age difference worked for us and that's all that matters. People will always put in their two cents, and that's when you put in your $5.00. LOL.

There are pros and cons to every choice, its weighing the best one that suits you and your life. I wouldn't put to much into what others think myself, it can stand between you and your own happiness.

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RE: Age Gap? - 3/2/2014 8:05:30 AM

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Age gap acceptability certainly changes over time also.

In Victorian society, the proper age for a bride was thought to be half her husband's age plus two years.

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RE: Age Gap? - 3/2/2014 1:40:46 PM

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I think you just said it best. I am 48 she is 27. I don't look it, feel it or dress like it. At first it bothered me but almost a year later I could care less. It is funny a good friend of hers who is 30 is also dating a 48 year old. Do what makes you feel good. Life is short and can be over tomorrow, enjoy today.

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