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RE: FD only real form of online D/s - 11/13/2013 2:13:17 PM

obedientnwilling

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I have been utterly dependent upon men for my entire adult life. I see them as sources of protection, and I derive my self-esteem largely from their reassurance and approval.

You trade sex for protection and I'm assuming a roof over your head, since you say "dependent". That's not any different than trading sex for money. So, that means....
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If you are accepting money for sex in any way, though, you are, by definition, a prostitute or, to put it bluntly, a whore.

And maintenance of the house, caring for them when they're injured, trying to keep them on their diets, helping them dress themselves, and so on.

But I am going to buck the misogynistic concept that I ought to be affronted at the idea of being considered to be a whore. I have a beautiful body, and I have used it to help bring me security and prosperity. I like the fact that men find me to be beautiful enough to spend time and money on spoiling and pampering me. I find it very self-validating. However, I am really more like a housewife than anything. There is nothing wrong with "whore" except that it seems to be inaccurate, given my full circumstances. You can still call me one if you would like, though.

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RE: FD only real form of online D/s - 11/13/2013 2:55:23 PM

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I don't think it's "degrading," though. To me, it means, among other things, "sweet and gentle." It means I can be a person who brings families together. It means I can be a source of love, nurturing and peace. I have the power to heal. I can mend people's hearts. That's all stuff I associate with being a "pussy," and I embrace that label.

I use that label specifically to call into question the legitimacy of using it as an insult. The things that are really implied by it actually make me feel...attractive.

As a man, you using that label would be the equivalent of a white person calling themselves the N word and then trying to explain it away as saying that you don't mean it to be degrading. Regardless of what you think...many women will find your use of the word offensive.

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RE: FD only real form of online D/s - 11/13/2013 3:17:00 PM

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