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ORIGINAL: Greta75

OP is not an experienced dom. I don't think his sub have low esteem, it may be, because his not an experience dom and unable to give her the "feelings of being controlled" that she desires and needs. As he said, he didn't command her, she just did it all voluntarily with no instructions from him, at some point, subs needs direction and some kind of feelings of being controlled. And if she was insecure, she would cling on to him and not leave. She was clearly secure enough to make a decision that she needed more dominance and secure enough to leave, because to leave tells me, she's able to see that she can find someone more suitable to her kinks. Insecure will cling on thinking that's the best she can ever have.