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HntersToy -> Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 9:39:19 AM)

This is hard for me to post, my Master will likely see this, but at the moment I don't care. Am I wrong to be upset that my Master praises, gushes over other women's pics and NEVER comments on mine. As I am typing this it seems so very trivial, but the tears tell me it is deeper. He is a caring and attentive Man, but sometimes He really pisses me off. Am I being overly emotional?



kalikshama -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 9:50:14 AM)

Him complimenting other women and not me would naturally upset me too.

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but the tears tell me it is deeper


What else is going on?



RedMagic1 -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 9:53:44 AM)

Rating other women in the presence of your girlfriend is the act of a douchebro.

There is an exception to this: if the gf is bisexaul and he's sure she'd enjoy the conversation.

That said, are you his girlfriend, or his slave?



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 9:55:24 AM)

~FRing it~

I'd be hurt and upset over something like that too



kalikshama -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 9:58:50 AM)

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Rating other women in the presence of your girlfriend is the act of a douchebro.

There is an exception to this: if the gf is bisexaul and he's sure she'd enjoy the conversation.


I'm bi. The gushing over other women would only bother me if he never complimented me, as in the OP.



RedMagic1 -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:00:17 AM)

Well, does he compliment the OP in real life, so he figures no need to compliment her photos? Or does he not compliment her at all?



HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:02:13 AM)


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
That said, are you his girlfriend, or his slave?

Honestly. I don't know...I am collared, have no set limits, so I guess that would put me as a slave. He and I have the same "dislikes" so that's why I say no limits. He recently told me "We are not equal" that stung a little bit. Even while I knew and accepted that, to hear it was different.



kalikshama -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:03:01 AM)

My response was based on the assumption that he never complimented her at all.



RedMagic1 -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:04:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

My response was based on the assumption that he never complimented her at all.

Maybe she could clarify. The OP just talks about her pics. I can see plenty of guys saying, "Babe, I tell you you're beautiful all the time, and you're crying because I don't say your photos are beautiful too? WTF?"



HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:07:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Well, does he compliment the OP in real life, so he figures no need to compliment her photos? Or does he not compliment her at all?

He does compliment me and seems to be pleased with me. But seeing that gratification openly of others just stings hard.



kalikshama -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:12:53 AM)

How long has this been going on, have you said anything, and if so, what did you say and what was his response?



MochaFlower -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:13:03 AM)

I have looked at your so called Dom's profile and he doesn't mention you at all.

[8|]



Rawni -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:13:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: HntersToy


quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
That said, are you his girlfriend, or his slave?


Honestly. I don't know...I am collared, have no set limits, so I guess that would put me as a slave. He and I have the same "dislikes" so that's why I say no limits. He recently told me "We are not equal" that stung a little bit. Even while I knew and accepted that, to hear it was different.


It sounds like a whole lot of communication hasn't been taking place, before the collar and now afterwords, it is building up to a blow up whether that is within you or between you. You are not his equal, but in a sense you may have agreed to not being his equal and on the surface that was working for you on some level because you agreed to something, but you aren't sure what and now at least emotionally feel neglected or not treated well.

So in areas you aren't communicating and then when he does... he is lacking sensitivity to you and you may have agreed to this.

Time to get it all straight because there is a disconnect somewhere and this is deeper than some gushing and pictures.



HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:13:44 AM)


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

My response was based on the assumption that he never complimented her at all.

Maybe she could clarify. The OP just talks about her pics. I can see plenty of guys saying, "Babe, I tell you you're beautiful all the time, and you're crying because I don't say your photos are beautiful too? WTF?"

He compliments me. Maybe I am not made for this....to be objectified.



MochaFlower -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:15:07 AM)

I think your being trolled. Have you been to his house??[>:]



RedMagic1 -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:15:20 AM)

My cheesy, insta-internet diagnosis is this:

You believe that he is enough for you, but that you aren't enough for him.



HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:15:49 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MochaFlower

I have looked at your so called Dom's profile and he doesn't mention you at all.

[8|]

my so called Dom and I have been involved for 5 years. An online site/profile is irregardless. Your point being?



kalikshama -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:15:56 AM)

I had a feeling there was more going on than just what you mentioned in the OP. Maybe it's time to sit down and have a serious discussion about the direction of your relationship.



kalikshama -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:25:40 AM)

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ORIGINAL: HntersToy

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ORIGINAL: MochaFlower

I have looked at your so called Dom's profile and he doesn't mention you at all.

[8|]

my so called Dom and I have been involved for 5 years. An online site/profile is irregardless. Your point being?


Well, my man's online profile is relevant to me, and mine to his. We met on OKCupid and after we realized we were serious about each other, he said to take down our profiles, and we did. I put this one here on Hide and changed my fetlife to say "Happily monogamous" and unsubscribed from most of my fet groups.

It would bother us if the other had a profile seeking partners, no matter how out of date or inactive it was.



angelikaJ -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 10:34:27 AM)

Have you told him how you feel?




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