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mnottertail -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:02:52 PM)
Well but we are not equal. You want the seat down, we want it up. You suck 100% of the cock. I take out 100% of the trash. You cook 75 % of the meals. I cook 25% of the meals. I check 100% of the oil. You clean 80% of the house. We call it 50/50 but it is not equal in the strictest of senses. But it is not not equal either, but it aint worth philosophizing or agonizing over, neither.

HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:08:13 PM)
^^^^obnoxious!

anniezz338 -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:15:09 PM)
It seems you are looking for some validation and if he is not willing to do that, well, I would call him on it. I mean how hard can it be to validate your spouse at times it is needed? We all need to be validated, no matter how small it may seem. To me this is a relationship thing, not a D/s thing and if he keeps pulling the Dom card, he is abusing that card. Just my take on things.

FetishGirl4same -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:22:39 PM)
Overly emotional is a misconception. If other people are uncomfortable with your emotions, that is their issue. If you are uncomfortable or unhappy, it is your responsibility to be aware of that and take of it.

MisterP61 -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:23:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HntersToy ^^^^obnoxious! Hnters... MNotter can be, but the man will tell you straight always. I much prefer people like him over those who sugar coat shit and tell you it's candy. I have to ask... do you and your Master have a way for you to come to him with concerns/questions/or anything else that life entails? ETA a change in a thought that I really wanted to say >.<

RedMagic1 -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:34:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FetishGirl4same Overly emotional is a misconception. If other people are uncomfortable with your emotions, that is their issue. Sadly, no. Even on this message board, there was an overly emotional man over the last few days who was literally unable to handle the fact that not everyone agreed with him on everything, and he was unable to handle the fact that he was getting notification emails from the site. He termed this situation "an emergency," and, based on his post pattern, I believed him. Sometimes people really do get upset about something that matters far less than they think it does. A large part of mental health and emotional maturity is to treat situations with the level of importance (or unimportance) that they deserve.

HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:34:58 PM)
Yes, I can approach him with any and all concerns. I will bring this up to Him when we talk next. I am in my 50's and feel that probably hormones are a factor.....My Master is a good one, very considerate of others. While my feelings are legitimate, I question myself in my role. I thought I was a good submissive/slave...but maybe my self pride is getting in the way of that.

mnottertail -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:41:45 PM)
LOL, I aint the one sporting my ass, honey.

HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:43:10 PM)
lol probably a reason why!

mnottertail -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:44:37 PM)
lol, yes, there is. it escapes you.

HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:46:53 PM)
And for a good reason.

mnottertail -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 1:49:05 PM)
Ja, have to deal with the overly emotionals coming unglued.

FelineRanger -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 2:13:46 PM)
mnottertail, you're just having too much fun with HntersToy, aren't you. [sm=stickineye.gif]

DarkSteven -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 2:40:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HntersToy quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ Have you told him how you feel? Yes angelikaj, I have told Him. That is when He told me "we are not equal" Maybe I am not cut out to be owned. Because it appears to harder than I thought 5 years ago with eyes wide open. You've been with him for five years? That's an eternity in lifestyle relationships. Sounds to me like your relationship is pretty strong. Is this a new issue? Has he just started it? Has he been doing it all along and it just started to bother you now?

crazyml -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 3:47:09 PM)
FR.... Yethat I think you may well be being over emotional. You should be talking to him about this. While I really do accept many of the really good points made by the laydeeees on this thread, there really is a chance that he's no idea that he is doing this. This could really be a storm in a teacup. Even a hip interpersonal sensitive, emotionally literate chap like me can make a genuine mistake along these lines, and I would be a little irritated if my partner had gone onto a message board to flap about something rather than raising it with me. Or he could be a sick. Either way, none of us, no matter how insightful can make that call for you. Talk to him, and I hope you guys work it out.

OsideGirl -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 4:02:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crazyml I would be a little irritated if my partner had gone onto a message board to flap about something rather than raising it with me. But, she did raise it with him. His response was "We are not equals".

littlewonder -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 4:56:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HntersToy This is hard for me to post, my Master will likely see this, but at the moment I don't care. Am I wrong to be upset that my Master praises, gushes over other women's pics and NEVER comments on mine. As I am typing this it seems so very trivial, but the tears tell me it is deeper. He is a caring and attentive Man, but sometimes He really pisses me off. Am I being overly emotional? Depends. Have you ever ASKED him about this issue you have??? If you haven't then yeah you're being over-emotional. If you have and he still doesn't say anything then you may or may not depending on other circumstances. Master gushes over other women's pics all the time and I don't mind. I do it with men's pics. No big deal. He doesn't really comment on mine except once in a great while. Do I care? Not really. 1. I hate pics of myself. 2. I know he loves me and shows it to me every single day.

HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 5:00:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven You've been with him for five years? That's an eternity in lifestyle relationships. Sounds to me like your relationship is pretty strong. Is this a new issue? Has he just started it? Has he been doing it all along and it just started to bother you now? Yes 5 years. :) We are strong in our relationship. I am in a way glad that I posted, but also I do regret it. Because now, it seems to be a non issue to me. lol, this is from the mind of a very stable woman :) Men will never be able to figure us out! Seriously though, thank you all for the replies and advice.

littlewonder -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 5:00:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HntersToy He recently told me "We are not equal" that stung a little bit. Even while I knew and accepted that, to hear it was different. WHY does it bother you? Maybe this is not what you need to be in then if you want to be equal. Master states all the time we are not equal and I'm perfectly fine with that. In fact I like that and it's what I feel comfortable with. Is this guy someone you just submit to? Or is he someone you are in a committed, loving relationship with you? If he's just some guy then I'd say this is probably not what you want. If you are in the relationship then I'd say you two have a lot of talking ahead of you and it may be that you are now figuring out that being a slave is not you and maybe you guys can dial it back to sub instead so there is an equality that you seem to need.

HntersToy -> RE: Am I being overly emotional? (12/31/2013 5:02:37 PM)
Agree with you little wonder! My pics are for Him period. I am grateful that He asks for them. Was obviously having a bad morning.....

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