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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/2/2014 6:10:50 AM   
Greta75


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I don't enjoy any oral either. And I don't enjoy being on top. I however, love to be face fucked.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/2/2014 6:24:03 AM   
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Is this really a question or is it more your own personal ode to face sitting?

It's hard for me to see this as a serious question either. Vanilla, kinky, sub or switch, I've never had a problem with a guy wanting me to sit on his face since I entered high school. They had no compunction letting it be known that's what they wanted to do or try. The only problem I ever had when I was young was finding a guy who was open about performing cunnilingus, not an issue as I (they) got older, and then having to train them to do it the way I liked.

As for being comfortable, I don't find this position to be awkward. Practice makes perfect. What I always found to be non-workable was 69, even when doing it sideways. Can't remember if I ever came in that position. (That was a really long time ago. A really long time ago.)

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/2/2014 6:35:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		I liked it as a nilla, I love it as a domme,
to each his own...or hers:)
Yes it can be extremely uncomfortable position wise... which is why they have "chairs" and pillows, and other sundry bondage equipment. But I like it otherways too.
Altho I dont see any act..cunnilingus... fellatio, anal play/fucking as dominant or submissive, it is what works for them....I enjoy the sensation, smothering, queening face sitting, etc etc, the intimacy, the power, the passion, the humiliation the lust, the humour that comes with it. With the right person...its incredible.
works for me right now.....and its fine that others dont like it for whatever reason

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/2/2014 12:53:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		previously I never liked oral for a start. then I was extremely self conscious too, so the last thing I wanted to do was sit above him. however, my playmate always makes me cum from oral because he's just better than anyone else ever has been. importantly though, he also makes me feel good about myself so that I don't mind where I put myself for him.

so, while I do it for him, that doesn't mean that, were we to stop seeing each other, i'd do it for someone else.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/2/2014 1:05:33 PM   
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previously I never liked oral for a start. then I was extremely self conscious too, so the last thing I wanted to do was sit above him. however, my playmate always makes me cum from oral because he's just better than anyone else ever has been. importantly though, he also makes me feel good about myself so that I don't mind where I put myself for him.

so, while I do it for him, that doesn't mean that, were we to stop seeing each other, i'd do it for someone else.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 12:57:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Doesn't like oral? People are squeamish about oral? Wow i never heard of such a thing. This place is educational. Think i will hang around and see what else i can learn.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 1:12:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP, why do you think? Because some of us don't like face sitting, obviously.

I love oral, it's how I get off so I know the best way is on my back. Being on top would be too distracting to come.

Plus, I come so hard, why would I want to change the way I receive oral?

When I have a partner, I do enough for him, so I don't need to sacrifice my favorite style of going down.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 1:21:34 AM   
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Doesn't like oral? People are squeamish about oral? Wow i never heard of such a thing. This place is educational. Think i will hang around and see what else i can learn.


You never heard of people not enjoying oral? It seems fairly common to me. Certainly every time an oral thread comes up there are lots of women who don't enjoy it.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 1:28:07 AM   
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Doesn't like oral? People are squeamish about oral? Wow i never heard of such a thing. This place is educational. Think i will hang around and see what else i can learn.


I get no decent orgasms from oral except weak fluttery ones, so why should I like it? I like my experiences mind blowing, I like to feel like I'm being killed with pleasure and oral does not do that.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 4:22:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't get orgasms at all from oral. The sensations I feel are fairly weak and more irritating than arousing. After any length of time with oral it all goes numb anyway, so there's no point in continuing.

I have oral (on me) on my hard limit list.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 4:55:09 AM   
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Doesn't like oral? People are squeamish about oral? Wow i never heard of such a thing. This place is educational. Think i will hang around and see what else i can learn.


You never heard of people not enjoying oral? It seems fairly common to me. Certainly every time an oral thread comes up there are lots of women who don't enjoy it.


maybe i'm wrong, but I read samdarella's post with a hit of sarcasm.

shrugs.....i'm not admitting that I have ever been wrong btw....nope.....not me....

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 5:28:18 AM   
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Women don't ask for face-sitting b/c the sort of dominant female that would enjoy this wouldn't bother asking. Just saying.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 5:41:31 AM   
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Doesn't like oral? People are squeamish about oral? Wow i never heard of such a thing. This place is educational. Think i will hang around and see what else i can learn.


You never heard of people not enjoying oral? It seems fairly common to me. Certainly every time an oral thread comes up there are lots of women who don't enjoy it.


maybe i'm wrong, but I read samdarella's post with a hit of sarcasm.

shrugs.....i'm not admitting that I have ever been wrong btw....nope.....not me....

needles


fair enough then, I apologise

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 7:22:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

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Doesn't like oral? People are squeamish about oral? Wow i never heard of such a thing. This place is educational. Think i will hang around and see what else i can learn.


You never heard of people not enjoying oral? It seems fairly common to me. Certainly every time an oral thread comes up there are lots of women who don't enjoy it.


maybe i'm wrong, but I read samdarella's post with a hit of sarcasm.

shrugs.....i'm not admitting that I have ever been wrong btw....nope.....not me....

needles

My impression, needlesandpins, is that her reaction was the same as mine, which is disbelief. Absolute disbelief. (Just saying)
Not to question truthfulness, either. As in ... well, this is news to me as well. (Not to put words in your mouth, samdarella)

I have known a couple vanilla women who said they didn't enjoy it, but they were sexually inhibited, or else of a certain religious faith where they were brought up to believe that oral sex is dirty or disgusting. One former best friend had had an unpleasant experience where she was made to feel she didn't taste clean or good enough, and this had scarred her. She also felt used, in that the boy wanted his but nothing more to do with hers.

But then, I had a couple of girlfriends when I was younger of this same religious faith who were saving their virginity for when they got married. They would do anything BUT sexual (vaginal) intercourse. And I do mean ANY sexual practice that was known to us back in the day. So long as their technical virginity remained intact (not to be confused with keeping an intact hyman because digital penetration was allowed).

Personally, I don't know of any Domme who doesn't enjoy it, although I don't doubt there are some.
At the expense of sounding a bit (more) vulgar, it helps to not only have a man who's good with his mouth & tongue, but who knows how to use his hands, digital action-wise, which greatly intensifies orgasm quality while receiving head.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 9:06:09 AM   
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My impression, needlesandpins, is that her reaction was the same as mine, which is disbelief. Absolute disbelief. (Just saying)
Not to question truthfulness, either. As in ... well, this is news to me as well. (Not to put words in your mouth, samdarella)

I have known a couple vanilla women who said they didn't enjoy it, but they were sexually inhibited, or else of a certain religious faith where they were brought up to believe that oral sex is dirty or disgusting. One former best friend had had an unpleasant experience where she was made to feel she didn't taste clean or good enough, and this had scarred her. She also felt used, in that the boy wanted his but nothing more to do with hers.

But then, I had a couple of girlfriends when I was younger of this same religious faith who were saving their virginity for when they got married. They would do anything BUT sexual (vaginal) intercourse. And I do mean ANY sexual practice that was known to us back in the day. So long as their technical virginity remained intact (not to be confused with keeping an intact hyman because digital penetration was allowed).

Personally, I don't know of any Domme who doesn't enjoy it, although I don't doubt there are some.
At the expense of sounding a bit (more) vulgar, it helps to not only have a man who's good with his mouth & tongue, but who knows how to use his hands, digital action-wise, which greatly intensifies orgasm quality while receiving head.


I honestly think you need to get out more in the world if you or anyone else has such disbelief that people have different tastes in what they like/dislike sexually. You know different lids for different pots and all that.
It also seems rather narrow minded to associate a dislike of oral sex with negative sexual baggage.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 9:19:21 AM   
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I am not squeamish about oral, it frustrates the hell out of me. Someone can be great at giving it but it only makes me irritated after a while
I require insertion to orgasm. Oral might feel ok at first but it is kind of like an itch that isn't really being scratched.
After 15 mins or so of being out of reach I am either going to pop someone or I am going to shut down. If I don't love you I will pop you. If I do then shutting down is a rollercoaster I don't want to ride.
I cannot even orgasm with a clit vibe unless I have something inside.
So oral? Turn off.
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Doesn't like oral? People are squeamish about oral? Wow i never heard of such a thing. This place is educational. Think i will hang around and see what else i can learn.



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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 9:37:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		As someone who loves oral, I have no trouble believing there are women who dislike it. Why would there be disbelief? We are all different women. I also know of men for whom blow jobs are not top on their list. Are they weird too?

And I agree, to suggest that someone is repressed or has baggage or to even question why they don't want it, is not up for discussion.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 9:44:49 AM   
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I honestly think you need to get out more in the world if you or anyone else has such disbelief that people have different tastes in what they like/dislike sexually. You know different lids for different pots and all that.
It also seems rather narrow minded to associate a dislike of oral sex with negative sexual baggage.

Narrow-minded or not, I would have the same reaction if I heard a grown man say he disliked it also, in all fairness. On a kink site (no offense to those who would call CM something else). I wouldn't expect to hear this on a vanilla dating site either, but it wouldn't come as a complete surprise. Out in "the world" it wouldn't faze me a bit, I'm sure there are many people on this earth who dislike sex of any kind, or even a simple show of affection.

Quite frankly, this isn't a topic of conversation I have with random females about their preferences since I am straight (which isn't to say you aren't).

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 9:54:31 AM   
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My impression, needlesandpins, is that her reaction was the same as mine, which is disbelief. Absolute disbelief. (Just saying)
Not to question truthfulness, either. As in ... well, this is news to me as well. (Not to put words in your mouth, samdarella)

If you disbelief that oral isn't godly in giving women orgasms, you are completely discounting how every women are made differently and have different erogenous zones. I'm an atheist so I have no religious hang ups and infact been very intouch with my sexuality since a child, since I already instinctively know how to masturbate since a child and was enjoying myself as orgasms delights me. On top of that, before I ever had orals, I always read in romance novels as a young teen, how wonderful french kissing and receiving oral was suppose to be. So I was totally looking forward to my first time for both things expecting the best. But guess what? Both disappointed, on top of penetration. Even though it was performed lovingly and tenderly, with good intentions to give pleasure. Yes, I cannot orgase from penetration as well. But what did give me incredible orgasms is simply clit masturbation, and plug in wand vibrations from clit. I find that battery operated vibrators are too weak for me to give me a deep and satisfying orgasm, exactly the problem with the tongue, because it's too soft, too smooth, too floppy, fingers just does a better job as more strength can be used and it's rougher.

For me, I'm simply interested in orgasms. Receiving oral has failed to live up to the hype for me, and so many men has tried. I have no issues spreading my legs, lying back and relax and letting them lick me if they get off on it, sure I have face sitted on request too, there are ridiculous amount of men where I am that just love eating pussy all day, I will just always remind them, that, it's for their pleasure only and not mine. No drama, I'd just get bored from the lack of mind blowing sensations and if that is all they wanna do, I will probably never want to have sex with them again.




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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/3/2014 11:30:30 AM   
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OP, why do you think? Because some of us don't like face sitting, obviously.


If I knew why, I wouldn't have asked.
It seems that the key reason people don't ask is that they don't want it (due to the reasons stated, mostly of comfort). Of course, some do ask, and do want it - and we've seen that the men's experiences with woman who did ask are varied - but - I - for one - had never been asked (and, to this date, have still never been asked).

However, I find erotic art such as the attached, highly stimulating, and, therefore, I would submit, were I to be asked. Point is, I have a much better understanding, now, of why it is that nobody has ever asked me, to date.

Note: The art is changed so as to not be explicit in this forum - you'll need to use your imagination to visualize the original




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