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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/4/2014 7:22:50 PM   
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Why don't women ask for face sitting more often?

Because they would have to wash!




Not only out with soap, but I'd make him floss and use mouthwash first, too.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/5/2014 9:08:54 AM   
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I'm also in the camp of not being a fan of giving or receiving oral, at least not in any nice sort of way.

Getting slapped in the face does way more for me. Not to mention torture down there.

Initially this causes a little bit of bad feelings in our relationship, but he's totally come around. Our wiring is totally crossed.

Face sitting has always just seemed annoying.

If I feel like dominating, or causing humiliation face sitting is like the last way I would think of doing it. Plus, I like face to face contact with my partner, if I am causing him hardship in anyway part of the joy is getting to be able to witness it.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/5/2014 12:22:12 PM   
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I enjoy sitting on his face but then I'm always up for a bit of breath play and what better way to smother him!! I just have to try not to get too carried away!

Unlike others, I don't find the position at all uncomfortable but perhaps that's because I don't take his comfort into consideration, only mine

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/5/2014 7:33:33 PM   
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PostScript -- I don't ever consider face-sitting humiliating and neither have any of my previous partners, some of whom were vanilla. I consider it a privilege for me to give a man access to any part of my body, and I don't get into humiliation for real. The guy can go into his own humiliation zone if he wants to, that's up to him. For me it's play humiliation, such as when I make him beg for what he wants or when he performs ass worship.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/6/2014 1:36:38 PM   
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shhhhh - I do not consider it humiliating either. But if the Domme thinks it is humiliating, who am I to judge! :)

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/6/2014 3:14:59 PM   
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I agree with those who say its not humiliation. God forbid if he thought any of my body was humiliating! Its about power, control, taking what I want and using him for my pleasure.
What a selfish bitch I am

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/6/2014 4:14:53 PM   
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I agree with those who say its not humiliation. God forbid if he thought any of my body was humiliating! Its about power, control, taking what I want and using him for my pleasure.
What a selfish bitch I am

P.P.S. To clarify that my earlier post was not in direct reply to you, your post just happened to be above mine to click onto. (I didn't use an applicable quote because I didn't want to single anyone out and was in a hurry.)
Yes, it is a powerful feeling to use a man in this manner.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/7/2014 12:15:20 AM   
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I knew you weren't responding to me Opal :)

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/8/2014 5:34:36 AM   
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i think for me, a mostly vanille (at this point) submissive woman, i wouldn't ever "request" face sitting b/t it's not my requests that matter for one, it's what Master decides what i need or what he wants that matters, and two, i'd feel as though i was attempting to take on a dominant position, even if only for that time frame, and three, it's hard to cum for many women, me included, sitting upright or standing up. :)

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/8/2014 7:37:40 AM   
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i think for me, a mostly vanille (at this point) submissive woman, i wouldn't ever "request" face sitting b/t it's not my requests that matter for one, it's what Master decides what i need or what he wants that matters, and two, i'd feel as though i was attempting to take on a dominant position, even if only for that time frame, and three, it's hard to cum for many women, me included, sitting upright or standing up. :)


no, all you can say is that it's hard for you. it's incredibly easy for me to cum in either position, but especially standing. that is one of the easiest positions for me to cum. you can't generalise for all women. you can only speak for yourself as we are not all the same.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/8/2014 11:42:01 AM   
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i think for me, a mostly vanille (at this point) submissive woman, i wouldn't ever "request" face sitting b/t it's not my requests that matter for one, it's what Master decides what i need or what he wants that matters, and two, i'd feel as though i was attempting to take on a dominant position, even if only for that time frame, and three, it's hard to cum for many women, me included, sitting upright or standing up. :)


no, all you can say is that it's hard for you. it's incredibly easy for me to cum in either position, but especially standing. that is one of the easiest positions for me to cum. you can't generalise for all women. you can only speak for yourself as we are not all the same.

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She didn't say all women, she said 'many'.

About 1 in 5 women rarely or never orgasm from any kind of cunnilingus. I'd say that counts as 'many'.


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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/8/2014 2:03:11 PM   
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i think for me, a mostly vanille (at this point) submissive woman, i wouldn't ever "request" face sitting b/t it's not my requests that matter for one, it's what Master decides what i need or what he wants that matters, and two, i'd feel as though i was attempting to take on a dominant position, even if only for that time frame, and three, it's hard to cum for many women, me included, sitting upright or standing up. :)


no, all you can say is that it's hard for you. it's incredibly easy for me to cum in either position, but especially standing. that is one of the easiest positions for me to cum. you can't generalise for all women. you can only speak for yourself as we are not all the same.

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She didn't say all women, she said 'many'.

About 1 in 5 women rarely or never orgasm from any kind of cunnilingus. I'd say that counts as 'many'.




How do you know? Did you eat 5 women and 4 of them orgasmed and 1 did not? Being very faceious here. Just wondering who actually does these studies? I am in the wrong business!

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/8/2014 2:37:45 PM   
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i think for me, a mostly vanille (at this point) submissive woman, i wouldn't ever "request" face sitting b/t it's not my requests that matter for one, it's what Master decides what i need or what he wants that matters, and two, i'd feel as though i was attempting to take on a dominant position, even if only for that time frame, and three, it's hard to cum for many women, me included, sitting upright or standing up. :)


no, all you can say is that it's hard for you. it's incredibly easy for me to cum in either position, but especially standing. that is one of the easiest positions for me to cum. you can't generalise for all women. you can only speak for yourself as we are not all the same.

needles


She didn't say all women, she said 'many'.

About 1 in 5 women rarely or never orgasm from any kind of cunnilingus. I'd say that counts as 'many'.




I didn't say she claimed 'all', but still claiming 'many' is to claim knowledge of something that you don't actually have. your figures are just as likely to be bs too. those sorts of figures always are.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/8/2014 2:51:04 PM   
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I don't do sexual activity with My subs, but I wish there was a "Like" button to click. I totally agree with this quote from Maria. Smothering and Domination yes.

As for using the position for actual orgasm...to tell you the truth in the bedroom I prefer to have My needs "TENDED TO", therefore lying back and relaxing is more to My taste so I can get the full benefit, rather than having to also focus on not falling off when the convulsing starts. LOL.
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I enjoy sitting on his face but then I'm always up for a bit of breath play and what better way to smother him!! I just have to try not to get too carried away!

Unlike others, I don't find the position at all uncomfortable but perhaps that's because I don't take his comfort into consideration, only mine


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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/8/2014 4:30:08 PM   
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My $0.02.

For me, facesitting makes it difficult to pleasure her. So if it is a dominance thing, once in a great while i will have to endure it. I do not particularly enjoy it because I truly get off on making her get off.

If her pleasure is the goal, then she is better off lying back and relaxing.

As for the statistic that was posted that1 in 5 women do not orgasm from oral stimulation, i must be fishing in the 80% pond.

< Message edited by KYsissy -- 1/8/2014 5:01:32 PM >


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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/8/2014 11:22:40 PM   
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i think for me, a mostly vanille (at this point) submissive woman, i wouldn't ever "request" face sitting b/t it's not my requests that matter for one, it's what Master decides what i need or what he wants that matters, and two, i'd feel as though i was attempting to take on a dominant position, even if only for that time frame, and three, it's hard to cum for many women, me included, sitting upright or standing up. :)


no, all you can say is that it's hard for you. it's incredibly easy for me to cum in either position, but especially standing. that is one of the easiest positions for me to cum. you can't generalise for all women. you can only speak for yourself as we are not all the same.

needles


She didn't say all women, she said 'many'.

About 1 in 5 women rarely or never orgasm from any kind of cunnilingus. I'd say that counts as 'many'.




I didn't say she claimed 'all', but still claiming 'many' is to claim knowledge of something that you don't actually have. your figures are just as likely to be bs too. those sorts of figures always are.

needles


These figures were gained from a medical institute looking at orgasm response in healthy women as compared to women who had hysterectomies. Among the healthy women, 2% never orgasmed from direct clitoral stimulation (including cunnilingus, stimulation using fingers and vibrators) and 16% rarely or only occasionally orgasmed from direct clitoral stimulation.

Considering that this includes stimulation using fingers, tongues and vibrators directly to the clit, it is likely that the actual percentage of women who cannot or rarely orgasm solely from cunnilingus is much higher.

http://www.athenainstitute.com/sciencelinks/acog00.html

I also found links to suggest that about 1 in 10 women fake orgasm during cunnilingus, however, that doesn't tell us anything about women who do not engage in the act at all due to not enjoying it.

Btw, it's rude to accuse people of 'bs' simply because you don't like what they are saying. The point here is to have a reasoned discussion. I have made an attempt to find objective and reliable statistics to support my point, whereas you seem to be relying on nothing more than your own opinion. So who is generalising, hmm?

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/9/2014 4:13:58 AM   
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I enjoy sitting on his face but then I'm always up for a bit of breath play and what better way to smother him!! I just have to try not to get too carried away!


I wouldn't have thought that possible if I hadn't read the news:
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/woman-allegedly-smothers-boyfriend-breasts-article-1.1241258

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A booby trap? Witnesses claim Washington woman smothered boyfriend to death with her chest. Donna Marie Lange, 50, is accused of smothering her boyfriend to death with her ample chest after witnesses told police they saw the couple drinking and arguing in their Everett, Wash., motor home,

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/10/2014 6:02:44 PM   
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Most of this has already been covered, so I'll just reiterate. I enjoy having a man go down on me. So on that end, I have no problem with face sitting. That being said, I personally find it uncomfortable. I'm sure there are plenty of women out there how love straddling a mans head, and I"ll do it if he gets off on it, but... Its far more enjoyable (and the men tend to do a better job at it), if they aren't pinned down by my hips. And. Leg cramps. When he's REALLY going at it, and very good at it, and I"m tensing in orgasm straddled over his head, zomg, leg cramps. Its kinda a mood killer. Thanks, if its all the same to him, I'll pass.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/11/2014 6:31:17 AM   
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i think for me, a mostly vanille (at this point) submissive woman, i wouldn't ever "request" face sitting b/t it's not my requests that matter for one, it's what Master decides what i need or what he wants that matters, and two, i'd feel as though i was attempting to take on a dominant position, even if only for that time frame, and three, it's hard to cum for many women, me included, sitting upright or standing up. :)


no, all you can say is that it's hard for you. it's incredibly easy for me to cum in either position, but especially standing. that is one of the easiest positions for me to cum. you can't generalise for all women. you can only speak for yourself as we are not all the same.

needles


She didn't say all women, she said 'many'.

About 1 in 5 women rarely or never orgasm from any kind of cunnilingus. I'd say that counts as 'many'.




I didn't say she claimed 'all', but still claiming 'many' is to claim knowledge of something that you don't actually have. your figures are just as likely to be bs too. those sorts of figures always are.

needles


These figures were gained from a medical institute looking at orgasm response in healthy women as compared to women who had hysterectomies. Among the healthy women, 2% never orgasmed from direct clitoral stimulation (including cunnilingus, stimulation using fingers and vibrators) and 16% rarely or only occasionally orgasmed from direct clitoral stimulation.

Considering that this includes stimulation using fingers, tongues and vibrators directly to the clit, it is likely that the actual percentage of women who cannot or rarely orgasm solely from cunnilingus is much higher.

http://www.athenainstitute.com/sciencelinks/acog00.html

I also found links to suggest that about 1 in 10 women fake orgasm during cunnilingus, however, that doesn't tell us anything about women who do not engage in the act at all due to not enjoying it.

Btw, it's rude to accuse people of 'bs' simply because you don't like what they are saying. The point here is to have a reasoned discussion. I have made an attempt to find objective and reliable statistics to support my point, whereas you seem to be relying on nothing more than your own opinion. So who is generalising, hmm?


unless research is based on every woman in the world, and that woman is truthful in the first place, then the figures given are likely to be bullshit. if it doesn't occur to you that 'facts' during research are often manipulated to suit what the researcher is trying to support, then it should.

I cum from clitoral stimulation alone from just fingers, or just tongue. I cum from just penetration alone, but not from a vibrator used in any way at all. what little box, and statistics do you want to put me in? or could it be that we are all different. what suits one doesn't suit another. that so called statistics are just a bunch of numbers based on a tiny number of people supposed to represent the whole world, and that's why they are bullshit. I wasn't being rude at all. I was merely pointing out that you can't bandy numbers about and claim that it applies to the whole world, it doesn't. it applies to the very small group of women that took part only, and assuming the figures weren't altered to suit. if you think that was being rude I suggest you grow a thicker skin.

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RE: Why don't women ask for face sitting (as opposed to... - 1/13/2014 2:33:50 PM   
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Me? Facesitting? I'll pass.

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