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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 11:15:07 AM   
Transbabyjenni


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Status: offline 		I just looked up therapists in Ocala that treat transgender and there are only 2 of them and they cost 150 per session.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 11:22:11 AM   
tiggerspoohbear


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Status: offline 		Did you even bother calling them, asking to speak to them? Explaining your situation and seeing if they can help you out? Why do I suspect the answer is no?

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 11:33:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		"Actually I have the closest thing to free councing here is a place called the centers and it still costs $20 a session. When I do have $20 it goes in my gas tank".

By your own admission you found a counseling facility which would cost you $20.00 a session so your argument is mute. Pull up your big girl pants, make a sacrifice by getting rid of your internet, stream line your cell phone contract, or reduce you cable service if you have it and do what it takes.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 12:30:04 PM   
Transbabyjenni


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Status: offline 		I can't. why? Be cause I pay for half of my family's internet. That's why. Until my bills are paid I have no extra money.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 12:45:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Excuses, excuses, excuses. I myself used to be the Queen of excuses, but I see now that I've moved on and taken responsibility for my life another has stepped up to take the crown. Lady, you are all kinds of messed up and until you deal with it you're going to be alone. To be honest, I'm going to bet that you're the sort of person who complains bitterly about not having a relationship but as soon as you find one you'll start to sabotage it by acting in ways that are completely inappropriate and by probably being just as much of a downer as you are right now. It's not nice to hear but yeah, no one is going to want you the way you are right now. Even YOU don't want you the way you are right now. But you're either going to do everything in your power to fix your own issues, or you're going to stay in your comfortable ball of misery until the day you die because doing anything different is "too scary". The counselling for example. $20 a week is a pitifully small amount, you could earn that in 2-3 hours doing odd jobs for people. But instead of doing that and starting yourself on the journey of being healthy and happy, you'd rather bitch about how hard life is. It's complete bullshit. The people around you know it's bullshit, which is why they don't want to date you and you know it's bullshit which is why you're depressed and hate yourself. You're not fooling anyone chica, either step up to the plate and do what's required to get a better life or accept that by your own doing you're going to be miserable forever. They both take the same amount of effort and the choice is yours and yours alone.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 12:46:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know which is worse, your excuses or your denial.




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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 1:05:48 PM   
inmate822210


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Status: offline 		I want this post to be productive and not as critical as my previous one--

OP, I'm not certain that this is an issue centrally focused around transgender psychology. I'm also thinking that while therapy is a useful tool, a psychiatrist may be needed to help manage medications and medical issues that may arise.

If the hormones are adversely affecting your reactions and psyche this badly, they may not be hurting your more than helping. How you associate gender is not determined by aesthetics or blood serum levels. I'd consider that in the process, too, for now.

All in all, that is why I said I'm not convinced that it is a TG centered issue. The reactions you've displayed seem to have different underlying causes aside from gender association.

People are willing to accept you for who you are regardless of presentation, but, you do have to give them something worthy of accepting which starts with accepting yourself. If you look for the truth outside of yourself, the further from yourself the truth will get.

Money is an illusion in the US. We don't have socialized healthcare or the benefits of other nations; regardless, you can get what you need if you're determined to do so. Any I don't mean that you have to have a cent more in your pocket. Someone is out there willing to help someone in need.

I realize that sounds insane about money being an illusion, but there are always good people in this world if you're willing to see them. I know that that is true, despite the burden that some not-as-great people put on our perceptions, and as long as it is true, money will never be able to stop someone from attaining what they seek.

I hope you can find some balance and gravity to help you out moving forward. Stop thinking in a reactive sense and be a little more proactive for yourself.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 2:54:10 PM   
Transbabyjenni


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Status: offline 		I'm really trying. Hell I have things I want to sell at the local comic-con this year I just need to come up with booth and hotel money which is $400 but unless I can sell my lionel trains there's no way I can get that money before the booths are sold out. You say money is an illusion but without it you can't really move forward.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 3:09:03 PM   
tiggerspoohbear


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Status: offline 		How about you forget comic con, sell your trains on ebay or kijiji as well as the other stuff. Money in your pocket, $400 saved. Now wasn't that easy?

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 3:15:01 PM   
Transbabyjenni


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Status: offline 		I have specific items that won't sell well online and I need to make a profit otherwise selling them would be pointless.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 3:24:42 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear

How about you forget comic con, sell your trains on ebay or kijiji as well as the other stuff.


My uncle used to make a tidy little profit reselling items he found cheap at rummage sales on eBay. For that matter, if you have any sort of artistic or crafting talent, you can sell things made from upcycled, repurposed, and found objects. If you're good at graphic art or photography, you can open stores on CafePress and Zazzle. I can think of half a dozen ways to make $20 a week that require minimal investment and only basic arts and crafts skills. I'm not a particularly crafty person, but even I can do these things.


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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 3:28:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Transbabyjenni

I have specific items that won't sell well online and I need to make a profit otherwise selling them would be pointless.

If they don't sell well online then the chances of selling them in comic-com or a garage sale is even less likely.

Think about it.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 3:28:24 PM   
inmate822210


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Status: offline 		I gave you good advice, but you failed to heed the majority of the sentiment. There are people out there who will work with you on money, yet you say money isn't an illusion.

Try Serbia, where it's an honor to be able to afford the DL exam, much less the car to drive afterwards.

Life is about utilizing resources. Many people can't seem to do that, and it's hard to see it happen. Your impairment is your inability to act on your behalf and see past the roadblocks.

No one on here can help you because you refuse to relinquish your hubris. I have a doctorate, and I realize I don't have all the answers on many things. In fact, I have relatively few answers in general. But I know how to find the ones I do need. You're saying that you already know better and that the solution can't possibly exist. The problem is that you've written a poor equation; not the numbers.

Can we wrap this post up? It doesn't seem that there was any genuine claim or question other than a mechanism to get people to feel pity for you. And OP, you've certainly displayed similar ill-sentiments on other threads. You've been given what you need.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 3:40:46 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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ORIGINAL: inmate822210

Can we wrap this post up? It doesn't seem that there was any genuine claim or question other than a mechanism to get people to feel pity for you. And OP, you've certainly displayed similar ill-sentiments on other threads. You've been given what you need.


Clearly, you're new here. This thread is only three pages long and hasn't even devolved into a trainwreck yet.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 3:54:13 PM   
tiggerspoohbear


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ORIGINAL: Transbabyjenni

I have specific items that won't sell well online and I need to make a profit otherwise selling them would be pointless.

Then it's pointless, and I'm really sorry to say this, to try and offer any further advice. You've refused any advice given, come up with excuse after excuse. If you've come here for "poor you" posts, those won't be provided. We help those who are willing to help themselves.

As the Stones so eloquently put it, you can't always get what you want, you get what you need. We can be really blunt in our answers, but they're meant to help. When that's rejected then we don't keep trying to beat a dead horse.


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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 4:16:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Alright, OP, you are about to find out one of the reasons why I call myself NiceButMeanGirl. I was being Nice before. Now you will think I'm being Mean. You actually are a whiny little baby who is not at all wiling to try and help yourself. If you honestly think that appeals to even one person here, you are sadly mistaken. No one wants a whiny, oh poor me, lets break out the violins type person who refuses to do anything to help herself even though people have given her good ideas, including names and links, to help herself. People here have given you a lot, three pages, of good & helpful ideas, given you the tools to help yourself, but you refuse to even try. THAT, OP, is why no one will ever want to get involved with you. You might as well realize that, unless you change your ways, your life will never change. Suck it up already.


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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 4:18:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Transbabyjenni

Are there any domme females that would ever consider taking in someone like me?
I have never been able to find any even remotely interested. It's almost like either there is no one, or I'm just so undesirable that no one wants me. Any suggestions on how I can improve myself to be more desirable?



Try an adult baby site and the related forums and classifieds.

If you want to improve yourself you need to do whatever it takes to become a happy person. That's perhaps the most important attractive trait to start with since no one will seek out someone who is really depressing to be with. We look for partners who will add a positive influence to our lives, not someone who's going to make us feel miserable.

Take care of that. And if you think having the right partner will make you happy and everything ok, you're wrong. You have to bring that to the table yourself. Someone else can augment it, but it comes from within.






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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 5:12:47 PM   
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AWESOME, evesgrden. Love this!

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 5:28:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Transbabyjenni

I did that search in '05 no one in Ocala treats it you have to go to Gainesville or Orlando at the time the only dr in Gainesville was not accepting new patients so I was forced to go to Orlando


You are making the assumption that all of your emotional/mental health issues are trangendered based.

They aren't.

And 2005 was 9 years ago.
NINE years.

That is nearly a decade ago.
I am not surprised you didn't realise it as it seems as though time has just kind of stopped for you.

You have choices and options.
http://flweb211.myflorida.com/

There may be a wide variety of resources that could help you in various ways.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 5:40:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ
You are making the assumption that all of your emotional/mental health issues are trangendered based.

They aren't.

And 2005 was 9 years ago.
NINE years.

That is nearly a decade ago.
I am not surprised you didn't realise it as it seems as though time has just kind of stopped for you.


Holy crap. I'm sorry, but I agree.

OP, if you had a big, gaping hole in your arm that was festering, would you wait nine years or make excuses to take care of it?

Get your priorities in order.


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