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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 12/24/2014 4:37:02 PM   
EmpressElsa


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1) Most Dommes don't want to take care of someone else. We want to be served, not babysit someone and cater to their fetish. You are a fetishist seeking the latter, not a submissive seeking the former. Most of us are downright tired of males who think our role involves catering to their little fantasies. Also, most women don't find diapers to be among the less attractive fetishes.

2) You mention needing hormones and having imbalances along with depression; this reads as emotionally unstable and it shows with your nasty little outburst. Seriously, get a therapist if you don't already have one. You have a serious disorder and I can say that because psychology and mental health are areas I hold degrees in.

3) You have this "poor me" victim role going on which reads as attention whoring. Seriously, stop it. Save your low self esteem for your counselor and stop looking to get into ANY kind of relationship until you get it fixed.

4) In regard to your transition, you say, "It will probably never happen unless I win the lottery." This reads as, "I am a financial liability and don't have enough initiative to improve my lot in life." To put it more bluntly, "I am a broke and lazy and your birthday gift will be a home made card made of dried macaroni noodles." This is likely a side effect of depression; again, get therapy.

5) Your profile states, "People say I am a brat and so what if I am?" Being a brat is NOT a good thing, especially when added to your inability to refrain from the outburst you exhibited on this thread. It means you have problems with obedience and respect. Your not caring if you are forgiven by the Domme you were rude to on this thread is further proof of this.

You have been given excellent advice on this thread. It is My sincere hope that you accept it for what it is, don't make excuses or be rude, and go get some good help.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/7/2015 6:40:20 AM   
jasonexception


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Status: offline 		you could also do with losing some weight, i'm sure even that simple task would make you more desirable. plus less money spent on food is more money in your pocket. harsh but true

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/7/2015 7:10:21 AM   
thishereboi


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Mistress, i beg a moment of your time... This submissive helper won’t let you down. Will make quick work of any assignment given. Won’t be let down and if it’s not up to standards well I guess punishment might be on the horizon. I would like to learn to be a sissy and to properly serve a goddess/mistress. I have been building my wardrobe of dresses, panties, and night gowns for years. I would enjoy going all the way for her but she hasn't yet collared me and made her intentions clear. Is there something I could do to show her how much I desire to serve her? I would love to become a full time sissy. I currently wear panties intermittendly as well as sometimes dressing entirely. I have also been practicing stuffing my bra to create an almost realistic cleavage. I love my breasts. I have skirts but also love to wear skin tight girly jeans. I have a purple butt plug that inflates and use it regularly. I think that having a chastity device on long term would great. I like to be deprived from having an orgasm. I can’t imagine how wonderful it would be. and ultimately i'd like to be my mistresses whore, to be pimped out to service real cock in order to perpepetuate my mistresses financial gain. please consider me to be your sissy slut... i have a webcam and skype....

With regard,

sissycdmiranda



You asked " Is there something I could do to show her how much I desire to serve her?"

and I would think a good place to start is right here. First read the TOS of the forums and then do what they say. After all if you can't follow simple site instructions how are you ever going to follow a dommes orders.

For example, it's wrong to drag up a year old thread to beg for someone to play with. If you want to start a thread then start one. Just don't shit all over someone else's.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/7/2015 7:12:32 AM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: jasonexception

you could also do with losing some weight, i'm sure even that simple task would make you more desirable. plus less money spent on food is more money in your pocket. harsh but true



What a lovely first post. I am sure the ladies will be flocking to your profile after reading this.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/7/2015 8:08:04 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: jasonexception

you could also do with losing some weight, i'm sure even that simple task would make you more desirable. plus less money spent on food is more money in your pocket. harsh but true



What a lovely first post. I am sure the ladies will be flocking to your profile after reading this.


Dunno. He's giving medical advice, so I assume he's a doctor. Chicks dig doctors.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/7/2015 8:29:52 AM   
LiveSpark


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: jasonexception

you could also do with losing some weight, i'm sure even that simple task would make you more desirable. plus less money spent on food is more money in your pocket. harsh but true



What a lovely first post. I am sure the ladies will be flocking to your profile after reading this.


Oh I don't know about that, if anything he made things so much easier for the ladies. Now there's no need to wonder, they can easily just avoid him.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/8/2015 1:48:15 AM   
wannapleez


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ORIGINAL: jasonexception
you could also do with losing some weight, i'm sure even that simple task would make you more desirable. plus less money spent on food is more money in your pocket. harsh but true


Actually, harsh, but bullshit. Speak for your own fucking self about what is and isn't desirable to you. (Not that we really give a shit.)

Over-generalization and universal declarations are stupid in any arena. When it comes to the lifestyle, they're just insane.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/8/2015 5:55:05 AM   
jasonexception


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Status: offline 		i see all you guys points and see you're hurt by my comment about losing weight, but the reality is that the MAJORITY of people prefer an in shape body, not everybody prefers it, and there are plenty of BBW worshippers, but again the majority prefers the more in shape body. just cos it isn't PC to say it, doesn't make it any less true.

this woman was asking for advice on what she can do to make herself more desirable. i agree with everything posted so far. so since she's trying to give herself a better chance of being desired, doesn't it make sense to give yourself a body that is more desirable to a majority of people?

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/8/2015 6:02:09 AM   
GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: jasonexception

i see all you guys points and see you're hurt by my comment about losing weight, but the reality is that the MAJORITY of people prefer an in shape body, not everybody prefers it, and there are plenty of BBW worshippers, but again the majority prefers the more in shape body. just cos it isn't PC to say it, doesn't make it any less true.

this woman was asking for advice on what she can do to make herself more desirable. i agree with everything posted so far. so since she's trying to give herself a better chance of being desired, doesn't it make sense to give yourself a body that is more desirable to a majority of people?

Like the man said, speak for yourself unless you have read the minds of all 7 billion people on the planet. That is not only a completely shallow statement, but mean and just plain ignorant. One of the more full figured women I have met in my life is a fitness instructor. For someone who is trying to preach about health, you have very little knowledge of it.


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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/8/2015 6:09:09 AM   
jasonexception


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Status: offline 		just cos she is a fitness instructor, doesn't mean she's particularly fit. some of the people with the best bodybuilding knowledge on the planet aren't that big themselves. i don't see how you can argue that most people don't prefer a slimmer figure? like i said, not everyone does, but most do, otherwise it wouldn't be flooding our TV screens and magazines.

anyway i don't see why people are getting so upset about this, all of you told her that no one is going to be interested in her adult baby obsession, or her wanting others to pay for her. how is me telling her that losing weight will make her more desirable any different to you saying that? some people do like adult babies, some men in particular like paying for their girls. stop being hypocrites, you are trying to hep her, and so am i.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/8/2015 6:23:34 AM   
GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: jasonexception

just cos she is a fitness instructor, doesn't mean she's particularly fit. some of the people with the best bodybuilding knowledge on the planet aren't that big themselves. i don't see how you can argue that most people don't prefer a slimmer figure? like i said, not everyone does, but most do, otherwise it wouldn't be flooding our TV screens and magazines.

anyway i don't see why people are getting so upset about this, all of you told her that no one is going to be interested in her adult baby obsession, or her wanting others to pay for her. how is me telling her that losing weight will make her more desirable any different to you saying that? some people do like adult babies, some men in particular like paying for their girls. stop being hypocrites, you are trying to hep her, and so am i.


I know that, I'm a powerlifter. And yes she is, she did an hour long class I went to with my neighbor and she was talking and smiling through the entire thing while I was squinting and my muscles were burning. She taught two other classes prior to ours as well. You're just totally focused on aesthetics while the worst runner I have met was a huge muscle bound guy in our crossfit class (Used one of those groupon offers). He couldn't keep up though his strength was impressive.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/8/2015 6:29:47 AM   
jasonexception


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Status: offline 		haha yeah i know the feeling. let's be honest though, your particular trainer is an outlier. all i'm saying is, the OP of this thread is not fit, neither mentally nor physically. a fitter body will help spark interest for her, and may even help her cope with her depression to some extent, i know that training has helped me with mine.

i am not on here to upset or insult anyone, but what i have expressed are my true opinions, if you don't like them, then you don't have to agree, but please refrain from all ganging up on me like i'm some kind of schoolyard bully.

as for being totally focused on aesthetics, not actually true, as i am an avid kickboxer. if you have ever done one of those training sessions, you'll know the fitness needed

do you compete in powerlifting btw?

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/8/2015 6:40:22 AM   
GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: jasonexception

haha yeah i know the feeling. let's be honest though, your particular trainer is an outlier. all i'm saying is, the OP of this thread is not fit, neither mentally nor physically. a fitter body will help spark interest for her, and may even help her cope with her depression to some extent, i know that training has helped me with mine.

i am not on here to upset or insult anyone, but what i have expressed are my true opinions, if you don't like them, then you don't have to agree, but please refrain from all ganging up on me like i'm some kind of schoolyard bully.

as for being totally focused on aesthetics, not actually true, as i am an avid kickboxer. if you have ever done one of those training sessions, you'll know the fitness needed

do you compete in powerlifting btw?


Not really ganging up, I'm kind of just preventing the perpetuation of a myth. Muscle weighs more than fat. I gained weight when I started working out fulltime. And to be honest, the last thing a woman wants to know is a guy/woman is with her because of how she looks unless he's a fling and who cares.
If someone is comfortable with their body, no one should tell them not to be, all I'm saying. If they want to change it, it should be an internal desire, not one based out of self hate or the opinions of others. It's not right to knock someone's self esteem.
And no, I only really compete with myself. Currently max out at 6 reps on legpress at 500, we'll see if I go up in weight but I'm comfortable where I am for now since I also superset.

< Message edited by GoddessManko -- 1/8/2015 6:44:55 AM >

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/8/2015 6:48:51 AM   
jasonexception


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Status: offline 		"If they want to change it, it should be an internal desire, not one based out of self hate or the opinions of others."

this i agree with.

i also agree that no one wants to know that a person is only with them because of how they look, but it is nice to know that the person you're with finds you sexually attractive too, an animal instinct in a way.

yeah i just compete with myself as well, thinking of maybe doing a competition soon though, just for extra motivation

i'm taking it your profile pics are before you started working out full time then?

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/8/2015 7:03:24 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: Transbabyjenni

Are there any domme females that would ever consider taking in someone like me?
I have never been able to find any even remotely interested. It's almost like either there is no one, or I'm just so undesirable that no one wants me. Any suggestions on how I can improve myself to be more desirable?


Not my cup of tea but....there's someone for everyone.

I hope you find your buttercup.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/9/2015 4:32:49 AM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: jasonexception

i see all you guys points and see you're hurt by my comment about losing weight, but the reality is that the MAJORITY of people prefer an in shape body, not everybody prefers it, and there are plenty of BBW worshippers, but again the majority prefers the more in shape body. just cos it isn't PC to say it, doesn't make it any less true.

this woman was asking for advice on what she can do to make herself more desirable. i agree with everything posted so far. so since she's trying to give herself a better chance of being desired, doesn't it make sense to give yourself a body that is more desirable to a majority of people?


Sorry sweet cheeks, but I wasn't hurt by your post. I was merely pointing out what a shitty thing is was to say true or not. Now you can claim you were merely looking out for the op but a lot of people are not going to see it that way. And as someone else pointed out, your posting history is there for everyone who might be interested in you to see. Should help people weed out the nasty ones real quick. Good luck with that. Oh and the OP was asking for advice over a year ago and hasn't posted since last february so I doubt she will even see it.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/9/2015 7:25:00 AM   
jasonexception


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Status: offline 		oh lol i didn't realise it was so long ago that she posted, should've really checked that date. anyway, you're entitled to your opinion, but i don't think what i said was shitty, as my intention was to help. i was fat before and my MOTHER told me i was too fat, and to lose some weight. only after that did i begin to see it for myself, and asked other people. they said they had seen me get fat but didn't want to say anything in case they hurt my feelings. long story short, i lost the weight, look better, feel better, and unsurprisingly became more confident and more attractive to potential partners.

take that as you will

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/9/2015 9:50:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jasonexception

long story short, i lost the weight, look better, feel better, and unsurprisingly became more confident and more attractive to potential partners.

At least until they see that winning personality of yours.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/9/2015 2:15:50 PM   
jasonexception


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Status: offline 		yes yes you're all so right, what a horrible person i am because i advised someone trying to make themselves more attractive to lose weight. i see the error of my ways now, thank you all for enlightening me. now maybe you can all just drop it and move on, this is getting boring, and as was pointed out, the OP is no longer even here

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/9/2015 3:24:41 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: jasonexception

yes yes you're all so right, what a horrible person i am because i advised someone trying to make themselves more attractive to lose weight. i see the error of my ways now, thank you all for enlightening me. now maybe you can all just drop it and move on, this is getting boring, and as was pointed out, the OP is no longer even here


Well done jason.

Once again I am effortlessly awesome.

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