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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 5:55:53 PM

Transbabyjenni

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Did you miss the fact that I did a new search just today? There are currently 2 therapists that deal with transgender issues both are 150+ a session. I don't even pay half that in Orlando. In fact I pay less than $50 a session.
Have you ever been to a comic con? People buy anything from old toys and memorabilia to movies and video games. And it sells.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 6:16:04 PM

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Your issues are more than being transgendered.

So, on that any competant therapist should be able to help you.

You have options and choices and there are resources.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 6:18:56 PM

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~FRing it~

It sounds like the allure of complaining about how crappy life is is just more interesting than actually doing something about it. How's that working for you? Sylvere provided a list of 52 professionals in Ocala who deal with gender identity issues. Call any of them? Ask any of them about sliding fee scales or referrals to low income options? Or just come back here instead to complain about why you can't?

You have to get your own house in order before being able to be a good partner to someone else. It's not fair to expect someone else to just deal with you in a state that you aren't even happy to be in. No one else can do it for you. Only you can. If you choose not to, then you are electing to remain unhappy.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 6:46:16 PM

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Did you miss the fact that I asked if you requested to speak with the doctors themselves and explain your situation to them? Some are willing to work with you on a sliding scale, others do some pro-bono work to give back. They can at least point you in the right direction.

And although you may sell stuff at comic con, you still have to lay out $400 for a booth and a hotel or motel room. Plus the cost of food and getting yourself there and back. Don't forget anything you'll probably buy for yourself. Calculate it, do you come out ahead or not? Be realistic with yourself, no need to tell us. Whereas online, it's pretty much pure profit. You know the saying "one man's junk is another man's treasure"? I'm not saying your stuff is junk, but there's buyers for absofarkinlutely everything on the Web. Sure be better than $400 where there's no guarantee.

And since you seem to think you can come up with that $400, that's 2 appointments with one of those doctors at $150 each. Think about that for awhile!

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 6:55:30 PM

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Here are some quotes that may help you with your self love. Hang in there.

http://www.quoteland.com/topic/Self-love-Quotes/204/

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 7:34:46 PM

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Alright, I'm going to put My two cents worth in here. I think the OP is actually adorable looking and after viewing the profile it seems we have many vanilla things in common. It is unfortunate we are too far apart. She could come join dannydoo on special Play days.

The manners need work...and not blaming one's "hormones" for outbursts is an important step. Remember, those of us BORN female have lived with hormone fluctuations all our lives, so we aren't going to fall for that excuse. If your hormones are so out of control you can't resist an outburst, don't post on a forum, gee whiz! Also note: self-pity won't get you the sympathy you are seeking, it's like blood in the water and you'll find yourself getting eaten alive. People aren't here to indulge your pity party. Best to keep those emotions to yourself instead of on permanent display on a public website.

As for littles having "no use", I used to think that, but now after experience with a few of them I disagree. If the personality is generous and helpful, they are very good "Nanny's little helpers" in the garden or kitchen, or even in the barn...did I mention I have horses? REAL LIVE HORSES! What little girl doesn't love horses? Brushing, braiding, feeding, riding...I'm even thinking of allowing My white mare to be dyed with food coloring like one of the "My Little Ponies"...maybe, we'll see. It's definitely not going to happen unless things get caught up.

Anyway, My point is, FOR ALL SUBS: There is a niche for you somewhere if you are mindful that your "Other" needs to benefit in some way. Be of genuine USE to them, and you are far more likely to get what you want.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/30/2014 7:50:18 PM

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I'm going to "age" Myself and others here, but remember when internet didn't exist, nobody had a computer, and phones were things that were permanently plugged into a wall?

How the hell did we ever get to this stage of NEEDING things like computers, cell phones, and internet??? Seriously, you *CAN* survive without them! Take a few months off from using them and save up some money.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/31/2014 3:11:08 AM

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I have a feeling that what OP really wants is the attention. And she's getting it. Hence the constant negating of useful advice.

Jenni, if you are genuinely struggling, then the only person who can improve your situation is YOU. YOU have to take charge. Yes, it's tough. That's life for you. You have been given a ton of good advice here.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/31/2014 4:39:41 AM

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OP, start a diary. Write your thoughts and emotions down in it instead of to random strangers on the internet. Writing things down helps you get your thoughts in order, whether or not you show them to someone. You open yourself up to criticisms you aren't prepared to deal with when you show them to strangers. Bring your diary with you to therapy for talking points, so you make efficient use of your time.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/31/2014 1:22:19 PM

Transbabyjenni

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I actually have some work for next week to keep me busy, and although it is just a small order of 5 it's still 60 dollars in my pocket. I make medieval brooches for capes and cloaks. I only have 2 designs so far but I'm working on more elaborate pieces.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/31/2014 1:38:00 PM

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Are you selling your brooches on eBay, Etsy, Artfire, and/or Zibbet? Do you have a website/Tumblr/Facebook page/other social media to showcase your work? If not, why not?

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/31/2014 1:51:52 PM

Transbabyjenni

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I actually have pictures up on my Facebook which is where I got my first order from. I only recently started to make these this last week and now that I know there's a market for them I do have serious plans to make many more and get a site up.
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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/31/2014 2:12:03 PM

SylvereApLeanan

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Oh, honey, do not put your real name/contact info on here. That's not a good idea at all. Make a business page on Facebook or start a free blog on Tumblr, Blogger, or Wordpress and advertise that in the Artisans section. Be smart and stay safe.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/31/2014 4:02:01 PM

Transbabyjenni

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I didn't know that. Thanks.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/31/2014 4:45:44 PM

LeatherBentOne51

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quote:

ORIGINAL: inmate822210

I'm on a few drugs at the moment myself (at a hospital; not street drugs), but I think Sylvere nailed it off the bat. I have one of those odd, unique fetishes, too; however, who I meet has little to do with my actual fetishes vs. the person I have actual chemistry with.

I have a rare conditions that causes my adrenal levels to spike at any given time. Imagine sitting at a movie theater, and your heart rates suddenly goes from 56 (on a beta blocker) to 147. That's as you plummet into severe hypotension and experience syncope. While this is happening, my brain is flooded with epinephrine and norepinephrine, and I'll be honest, my catecholamine levels there make me incredibly anxious and on edge.

That said, I don't experience the sudden rage and emotional loss-of-control that you've exhibited OP. Your hormones and other things can lead you to the precipice, but as a human and an adult, you have to be able to control it. Period. There's something underlying there that needs immediate addressing. My condition is chronic and I get depressed as hell about it; doctors aren't even sure what to do to treat it. There are ups and downs, but never rage.

And what you've displayed is also a cycle of abuse. Outburst---> calming ----> insincere apology (sorry, but it's not convincing beyond the fact that you seem to want to advance your directive still)--->period of building tension again----> outburst. I'd honestly be surprised if you don't have some abusive tendencies based on this post.

How can you honestly get over being alone when you're only going to hurt whoever you meet? Instability has roots, and if you can mend those, then I think you'll be in a much better position to feel around for partners.

I totally agree.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 1/31/2014 5:40:35 PM

Transbabyjenni

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Honestly you can believe in the toothfairy for all I care. You don't know me personally and hopefully never will!
Yes I have my issues and am somewhat emotionally unstable, but you're not perfect either.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 12/23/2014 4:46:41 AM

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Mistress, i beg a moment of your time... This submissive helper won’t let you down. Will make quick work of any assignment given. Won’t be let down and if it’s not up to standards well I guess punishment might be on the horizon. I would like to learn to be a sissy and to properly serve a goddess/mistress. I have been building my wardrobe of dresses, panties, and night gowns for years. I would enjoy going all the way for her but she hasn't yet collared me and made her intentions clear. Is there something I could do to show her how much I desire to serve her? I would love to become a full time sissy. I currently wear panties intermittendly as well as sometimes dressing entirely. I have also been practicing stuffing my bra to create an almost realistic cleavage. I love my breasts. I have skirts but also love to wear skin tight girly jeans. I have a purple butt plug that inflates and use it regularly. I think that having a chastity device on long term would great. I like to be deprived from having an orgasm. I can’t imagine how wonderful it would be. and ultimately i'd like to be my mistresses whore, to be pimped out to service real cock in order to perpepetuate my mistresses financial gain. please consider me to be your sissy slut... i have a webcam and skype....

With regard,

sissycdmiranda

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 12/23/2014 7:38:20 AM

Bhruic

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Transbabyjenni

I understand. Since I will never be wanted I guess there's no reason to stay on this site.
A freak like me has no right to be loved by anyone anyway.
I wish you all happiness
Goodbye...

Maybe it is that attitude that has been your problem. Self loathing is a pretty undesirable quality.

You should really work on being happy with yourself if you want someone else to be happy with you.

Others have said it... but it bears repeating.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 12/23/2014 7:53:44 AM

Bhruic

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ORIGINAL: Transbabyjenni

I have specific items that won't sell well online and I need to make a profit otherwise selling them would be pointless.

Well buying them was pointless too. You begin to sound like many people I have known who complain they have no money, but have an apartment crammed with thousands of dollars worth of FanBoy crap and toys.

As many have been telling you... life is about priorities. You clearly need to sort yours out and stop complaining that the world is against you.

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RE: A question for the domme/mistresses - 12/23/2014 8:00:57 AM

Bhruic

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ORIGINAL: sissycdmiranda

Mistress, i beg a moment of your time... This submissive helper won’t let you down. Will make quick work of any assignment given. Won’t be let down and if it’s not up to standards well I guess punishment might be on the horizon. I would like to learn to be a sissy and to properly serve a goddess/mistress. I have been building my wardrobe of dresses, panties, and night gowns for years. I would enjoy going all the way for her but she hasn't yet collared me and made her intentions clear. Is there something I could do to show her how much I desire to serve her? I would love to become a full time sissy. I currently wear panties intermittendly as well as sometimes dressing entirely. I have also been practicing stuffing my bra to create an almost realistic cleavage. I love my breasts. I have skirts but also love to wear skin tight girly jeans. I have a purple butt plug that inflates and use it regularly. I think that having a chastity device on long term would great. I like to be deprived from having an orgasm. I can’t imagine how wonderful it would be. and ultimately i'd like to be my mistresses whore, to be pimped out to service real cock in order to perpepetuate my mistresses financial gain. please consider me to be your sissy slut... i have a webcam and skype....

With regard,

sissycdmiranda

MOD... this is spam and has been repeated verbatim in other threads.

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