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Gaining - 2/24/2014 10:23:42 AM

SyrMorgana

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By which I mean weight gaining, being force fed etc. Is anyone into this as a fetish/kink? Guys particularly?

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 10:39:37 AM

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Never heard of this one before. If it is a fetish, I am ahead of the game.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 10:40:41 AM

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I see of it and hear of it all over, dont know anyone out here particularly into it, but many times its a part of the hucow or fuckpig fetishes.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 11:01:30 AM

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By which I mean weight gaining, being force fed etc. Is anyone into this as a fetish/kink? Guys particularly?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=feeder

It's a way of shortening somebody's life considerably, not really a BDSM thing, having seen it in person done to somebody and watching that person trying to get her life and health back as much as possible, interrupted by several surgeries makes me not really a fan of this "fetish", seems a bit to predatory and abusive

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 11:08:25 AM

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 11:19:46 AM

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@LadyConstanze and Kalikshama, my apologies that you have seen such awful representations of this issue. Yes indeed, there is a darker side to it, as there is any fetish but my understanding is that when done consensually and considerately it can be as enjoyable as any other aspect of kink. :)

In my case, I like the idea of feeding someone, although granted not excessively so but am also simply an admirer of larger people. Generally people who are larger naturally.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 11:24:40 AM

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SyrMorgana, nothing wrong with that, but there are plenty of people around that are well padded, if it's because you prefer them, a big (no pun intended) dating pool out there.

I'd be extremely cautious about it, it's so easy to get out of hand and end up in eating disorders, something nobody needs. You could do a search for people above a certain weight or the keywords?

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 11:26:33 AM

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@LadyConstanze Thank you, very good suggestions. :)

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 11:45:05 AM

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I have heard of it. I would say it is one of rarer fetishes. I have known some women into it. Personally I have a hard enough time keeping weight off (Damn German beer!). I am not going to dive into a fetish that puts the poundage back on LOL. But to each their own.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 1:37:08 PM

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Unless someone is underweight for their height, the accepted medical position is that too much "extra" weight is not typically healthy. So I guess it would depend on what you meant by "gaining". Are we talking 2 lbs or 100 lbs? At what point does it become something beyond a fetish to promoting something unhealthy? Especially if it is not combined with some sort of physical activity to stay healthy. Muscle weighs more than fat, so if someone eats more, but also works out - they can gain muscle mass, and actually weigh more. Again, there are certain scenarios where I think this might be fine, but others where I'm not so sure.

It also depends on the individual involved. Asking someone who has a difficult relationship with food to purposely eat more in order to gain weight is like asking someone who is sober to have a drink. Probably not the path one wants to encourage.

I'm not familiar with this as a fetish, so my comments reflect my initial thoughts on seeing this post. Most of my friends are in a constant struggle to lose/maintain their weight. I don't know too many people who actually want to gain weight (regardless of their current BMI), so just having a tough time with this one. I'm just generally not in favor of promoting unhealthy habits. And given that current research is showing that certain foods can be addictive, this fetish just gives me pause. Even if someone agrees to this - they really need to understand the full health implications for what they are agreeing to. Gaining 100 lbs isn't something most people walk around wanting to do. Maybe you can explain more of how this works, exactly.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 2:27:15 PM

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By which I mean weight gaining, being force fed etc. Is anyone into this as a fetish/kink? Guys particularly?

No. There is no one into this kink. If it is one.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 2:38:28 PM

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Actually, a slender male sub contacted Me last summer wanting to be forced to fatten up, so YES, some ARE into this as a kink, and YES, GUYS.

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By which I mean weight gaining, being force fed etc. Is anyone into this as a fetish/kink? Guys particularly?

No. There is no one into this kink. If it is one.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 2:56:26 PM

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I think if we add a chocolate fountain into this fetish, more people might be on onboard.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 2:57:48 PM

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I think if we add a chocolate fountain into this fetish, more people might be on onboard.

I feel like a real perv now, I don't like chocs

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 3:01:58 PM

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I think if we add a chocolate fountain into this fetish, more people might be on onboard.

I feel like a real perv now, I don't like chocs

A woman who does not like chocolate. That is a physical impossibility. Do not mess with the laws of physics and the cravings of women

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 3:04:36 PM

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Gherkins do it for me, or the sour cola bottles or fangtastics, but chocs, never liked it... (and I am eternally grateful for it)

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 3:08:46 PM

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A woman who does not like chocolate. That is a physical impossibility. Do not mess with the laws of physics and the cravings of women

My OH doesn't like chocs either.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 3:23:52 PM

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@LadyConstanze and Kalikshama, my apologies that you have seen such awful representations of this issue. Yes indeed, there is a darker side to it, as there is any fetish but my understanding is that when done consensually and considerately it can be as enjoyable as any other aspect of kink. :)

In my case, I like the idea of feeding someone, although granted not excessively so but am also simply an admirer of larger people. Generally people who are larger naturally.

Ok, I will be quite blunt, OP. The kink you describe as being consensual, considerate and enjoyable is sugar costing an actual practice called feeder-ism, which is one of the most heinous, selfish, desperately controlling and dangerous practices ever.

As a big girl myself, I of course am attracted to men who are attracted to me and my body type. However......I would not be attracted to someone who viewed my fat as a fetish delivery system, instead of a woman. It's like when someone calls me beautiful, I get that. If someone said you are a beautiful fat woman, that's stupid because now you have qualified my beauty by my size. Understand?

No woman, fat or thin, wants a kink to be about size. I would say the same if you were into not feeding someone consensually. It's dangerous and fucked up to help someone gain weight who is already heavy.

You need to look inside and discover what type of person looks out from the mirror, who would partake of such an emotionally and physically damaging practice. And if a woman wanted this, then she is not simply into accepting herself, she is actually suffering from severe self esteem issues.

If you admire larger people, date one, but tank this kink. God, if any guy asked me to gain weight, I would slap him.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 3:32:51 PM

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@LadyConstanze and Kalikshama, my apologies that you have seen such awful representations of this issue. Yes indeed, there is a darker side to it, as there is any fetish but my understanding is that when done consensually and considerately it can be as enjoyable as any other aspect of kink. :)

In my case, I like the idea of feeding someone, although granted not excessively so but am also simply an admirer of larger people. Generally people who are larger naturally.

Ok, I will be quite blunt, OP. The kink you describe as being consensual, considerate and enjoyable is sugar costing an actual practice called feeder-ism, which is one of the most heinous, selfish, desperately controlling and dangerous practices ever.

As a big girl myself, I of course am attracted to men who are attracted to me and my body type. However......I would not be attracted to someone who viewed my fat as a fetish delivery system, instead of a woman. It's like when someone calls me beautiful, I get that. If someone said you are a beautiful fat woman, that's stupid because now you have qualified my beauty by my size. Understand?

No woman, fat or thin, wants a kink to be about size. I would say the same if you were into not feeding someone consensually. It's dangerous and fucked up to help someone gain weight who is already heavy.

You need to look inside and discover what type of person looks out from the mirror, who would partake of such an emotionally and physically damaging practice. And if a woman wanted this, then she is not simply into accepting herself, she is actually suffering from severe self esteem issues.

If you admire larger people, date one, but tank this kink. God, if any guy asked me to gain weight, I would slap him.

Well done red - much better than anything I could have come up with.

What I find confusing is what happens when the said subject is "fat enough" or dies of the condition??
Do they get thrown out to the kerb and you go in search of another hapless victim?
This is the sort of thing I would categorize more as a crime than a fetish - it's dangerous.

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RE: Gaining - 2/24/2014 3:35:04 PM

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Yes, I would consider it slow murder/suicide.

The selfishness and self destructiveness needed to engage in that is a therapists dream.

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