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Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/26/2014 12:06:20 PM   
SubMale9999


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Status: offline 		I was hoping to create a thread where people can share what their Pro-Domme session was like. I've seen quite a few Pro-Dommes and they have all been positive experience, except for my first one.

I was new to BDSM and although I enjoyed serving I wasn't sure which parts of BDSM I enjoyed. So my friends suggested I go see a Pro-Domme. There is a "Los Angeles Pro-Domme" directory I looked at and I contacted the ones I was interested in. I picked out one and although she was one of the most expensive of them all ($350 for 60 minutes) I figured since this is my first I'm willing to spend the money. I wrote to her explaining I'm not sure which BDSM activities I enjoy and she sent me an extensive list of everything she is interested in. She also sent me more pictures. I made an appointment with her.

I went to her place, placed $350 on the table, went into another room and undressed. She said when she enters the room the session begins and it will go for 60 minutes. She came into the room and I thought it was her assistant because I didn't recognize her. However, it was her, she was quite heavier and older than the pictures she sent me.

She had me lay on my back on the floor. She stood over me and pissed quite heavily over my whole body. I felt shocked and she began to yell at me. "What's wrong with you? Why don't you like this? Everyone groans with pleasure when I do this!" She then began to yell at me calling me worthless. She then had me bend over and stuck her finger up my a**. I moaned in agony and again she yelled at me saying everyone enjoys this. She then told me I'm not a submissive and said she doesn't have to put up with this sh*t and told me to leave. I left smelling of pee and the session only lasted 30 minutes.

My friends explained that these things happen. It's the same as if you went on a Vanilla date. They aren't all that great.

I'm hoping others would like to share what their session was like, good or bad.
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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/26/2014 12:24:34 PM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		I disagree that paying for a service is like a vanilla date.

I find it interesting that you are talking about your worst experience rather than your best one, or what you did subsequently to make the next ones better.




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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/26/2014 12:30:11 PM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		I smell a rat, no pro would ever stick a finger up somebody's a... without a glove on

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/26/2014 12:47:45 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		Wow, that sounds awful! Sorry you had a bad experience. Apparently this person was not a bit skilled in working with you on a satisfying first experience. Frankly, she sounds like a twatwaffle.

People make mistakes. Own it, apologize, and mitigate. Your gal should have at least given you half your money back; she shorted your session and didn't interview you well enough to intuit your needs.

My pro-domme friend spends a lot of time and effort off the clock interviewing potential clients before sessioning (and charging). She keeps detailed notes on each client's preferences and though she may have worked 20 years with the same person, checks in before each session to see if their needs and expectations have changed. She cut her intuitive eye-teeth working a crisis-hotline for years. She is quite successful and in high demand.

I will ask her what is acceptable protocol for compensating a client who is unhappy with service received. She has so many regular and repeat folks, she may not have encountered this yet.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/26/2014 12:54:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

I smell a rat, no pro would ever stick a finger up somebody's a... without a glove on


Or pee on the floor of her own place. Because even with a tarp down, it would still need to get cleaned up somehow. And actually now that I think about it, the Pros I know won't pee on paying customers because of legal ramifications.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/26/2014 1:05:24 PM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		Thanks, I missed that, I assumed that it was a wet room, but again, that is something you find in pro dungeons and not so much in private homes...

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/26/2014 8:43:43 PM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		Wow. Just wow.
Well, for $350... You got what ya paid for.
But yea, that was just... BAD! Lol

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/26/2014 10:52:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SubMale9999

I've seen quite a few Pro-Dommes and they have all been positive experience, except for my first one.


Based on your account of your first experience, I'm not the only one smelling fish fry. Or a troll. I think you're trying to kill two birds with one stone.

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

I disagree that paying for a service is like a vanilla date.

I find it interesting that you are talking about your worst experience rather than your best one, or what you did subsequently to make the next ones better.


Gathering wank fodder, and too cheap to shell out $350 until you feel assured you might possibly get your money's worth, none of which will consist of getting peed on or having a finger stuck up your ass. More than likely she would have had you wear a starter butt plug instead, dude, if you had indicated you were interested in anal play.

One guy who was into ass worship told me about 3 sessions he had booked where all he did for 45 minutes (typical session time, by the way--you'd have never gotten a full hour) was kneel on the floor buck naked while some partially clothed woman shook her ass in his face, teasing him throughout. At the end, she "made" him jerk off in front of her. He paid around $300 for those sessions.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 12:19:25 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		It is pretty normal that it is a full hour, the conversation you have doesn't count, $300 is on the higher end of the scale, $200 to $250 are normal, the economy has tanked.

A full hour IS standard, and if your guy paid 300 and only got 45 minutes, he possibly saw somebody from Backpage and was thoroughly ripped off

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 12:47:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

It is pretty normal that it is a full hour, the conversation you have doesn't count, $300 is on the higher end of the scale, $200 to $250 are normal, the economy has tanked.

A full hour IS standard, and if your guy paid 300 and only got 45 minutes, he possibly saw somebody from Backpage and was thoroughly ripped off

It would depend on the region, and with Euro exchange rates over the past 2-3 years, who knows. He was using Craig's List, and not the same provider each time, so he wasn't a regular by any means. She just had to be a pretty, bitchy-acting girl who would verbally humiliate him as to how unworthy he was to even lick her arse. He was trying to get in my pants, so maybe that was his way of saying he'd paid that much before to see if I'd take the bait. Not my type, I don't get into humiliation.

Guys tend to minus out preliminary conversation, warm-ups, or anything they don't count as the full-on experience. I wouldn't know. They tell me 45-50 minutes is fairly standard in the DC metro area.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 1:04:08 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		Nope, it doesn't.

Look at any board dedicated to pro-Dommes, a session running short of 60 Minutes will cause a huge uproar. And it is pretty much industry standard in Europe AND the US.

Showers, talks and all that don't count, it's from the time the session start to the end, it's 60 minutes.

I know a lot of ladies that are still active in the US as pro-Dommes, ask one of them what happens if a session runs more than 10 minutes short. There recently was a thread on Maxfisch because a guy was shortened a bit, that they didn't call for her blood or a public stoning was all.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 1:11:55 AM   
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With pro-Dommes who know what they're doing and want return customers. Not everybody purporting to be a professional really is or knows how to keep a client base.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 1:15:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		i the end if the "Domme" site that is in question stated that the conversation/consultation was part of the hour (similar to when you get a massage yo pay for an hour but you get more like 45) then that is his fault. I is uo to the sub just like any other consumer to clarify the terms of the session.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 1:31:54 AM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal


With pro-Dommes who know what they're doing and want return customers. Not everybody purporting to be a professional really is or knows how to keep a client base.


Well if he is going through Craig's list and not seeking established Dommes, he's getting an escort with a whip, with escorts the time starts running when you arrive, if you have a chat that eats into their time. Not quite fair to lump them in with Dommes.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 1:37:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Well if he is going through Craig's list and not seeking established Dommes, he's getting an escort with a whip, with escorts the time starts running when you arrive, if you have a chat that eats into their time. Not quite fair to lump them in with Dommes.

Frankly, I don't think a lot of these guys really care who scratches their itch. I know I don't.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 2:36:04 AM   
LadyConstanze


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Well if he is going through Craig's list and not seeking established Dommes, he's getting an escort with a whip, with escorts the time starts running when you arrive, if you have a chat that eats into their time. Not quite fair to lump them in with Dommes.

Frankly, I don't think a lot of these guys really care who scratches their itch. I know I don't.


Frankly, you don't claim that you had a steak when you went to a McDonalds or never set foot into a restaurant

Sorry, but it irks me if somebody who really knows nothing about pro-Dommes claims that something is standard, when it's completely false, if it doesn't interest you who scratches their itch, then maybe you shouldn't spread rumours about what is "normal" because some guys yanked your chain. Seriously, nobody would pay that price unless they are getting "extras" that Dommes don't give.

I mean a guy telling you on the internet that he paid that much before to see if you take the bait, sorry, but sounds like a guy who was typing with one hand, I have never seen your picture, so I can't comment, but maybe you take a look at some of the pages and ask yourself if it is realistic.

The reason why pro sessions are expensive because of all the equipment and the fetish wear, most of the furniture is custom made and you drop a few K, so a real dungeon not charging over $300 (the average is really $200 to $250) and making sure the clients get the full hour. Add to that regular professional photo-shoots to keep the pictures current...

Since you don't care, I wonder why you cared enough to throw dirt?

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 6:25:52 AM   
Maradium


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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
sounds like a guy who was typing with one hand


+1

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 6:26:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

The reason why pro sessions are expensive because of all the equipment and the fetish wear, most of the furniture is custom made and you drop a few K, so a real dungeon not charging over $300 (the average is really $200 to $250) and making sure the clients get the full hour. Add to that regular professional photo-shoots to keep the pictures current...

Since you don't care, I wonder why you cared enough to throw dirt?

There are subs who have come on the forums who are only paying $100 a session and one in particular complained he was getting a 45-minute session if that much when he expected a full hour. Most of us were shocked to learn he was paying so little, that you get what you pay for, and he shouldn't be complaining at that price. She was also coming over to his house so he wasn't paying for a hotel room either. Perhaps you would like to advise him on how to find a proper pro-Domme.

The person I referred to is a friend of a friend, and he had his rendezvous in his hotel rooms. He is a businessman who travels around the country, although mostly goes on business between New York, and the vicinity of either metro DC or Baltimore. I specifically inquired whether there had been any sexual contact involved, and he said no. I can only presume that a run-of-the-mill escort would have included some sexual services in her fee other than watching him jack off.

The reason why I don't care is because none of these men interest me personally as a sub I would want. This guy was good-looking and in nice shape, but I didn't think we had compatible kinks, and I'm not keen on conducting a once-a-month LD relationship.

Why would you think I am throwing dirt on this profession? Is every plumber, carpenter or handyman you've ever hired done an excellent job? Some do, some don't. You may have been tempted to use a coupon or a cheaper contractor to save some money, but regretted the decision later. Let the buyer beware.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 10:43:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		Reporting back on the questions I posed to my pro-domme friend.

Here on the Central CA coast, top end is $250 p/hour for in-person. That is in her home-dungeon.

An hour session is 60 minutes, irrespective of interview and prep time.

If that hour is shorted for whatever reason (client, domme, or both wanting to end the session early) she would refund the unpaid time.

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RE: Pro-Domme Experiences - 2/27/2014 10:47:31 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		FieryOpal, don't you think it's funny how you don't care? Seems you don't care much for the truth, yet you are very very eager to repeat anything some guy says. Does that mean you are so gullible?

As for a guy offering you $350, well, you know very skilled Dommes with professional dungeons and super hot bodies can't charge that, so some guy tells you that on a site that is for life-style and dangles it? Seems you gave him a free session in cyber.

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