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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 5:17:42 PM   
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Old guys are gross. Not attractive at all, ew


I see. And you plan on dating 18 year old men your entire life? Speaking as a woman here. But has it ever occurred to you that if you actually meet someone and have a successful long term relationship eventually BOTH of you will in fact be old? What are you going to do with the old gross guy then? Kick him to the curb?

I don't fault you as a younger person for wanting someone your own age. In fact I think an age gap of plus/minus upto 10 years can work, but beyond that gets strained. But I think everyone should also remember that we each do, in fact, grow older. No Dorian Grays here. So I think people need to speak in terms of "appropriate age gap" as opposed to just age. Otherwise seriously, what are YOU going to do when you're 50 - chase after 18 year old men because "50 year old guys are gross." Good luck with that as a life strategy.

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 5:23:14 PM   
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Old guys are gross. Not attractive at all, ew




He could be my grandfather, I might not want to date him, but he certainly doesn't look gross or unattractive

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 5:53:09 PM   
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Old guys are gross. Not attractive at all, ew


I'm old and I can do the same thing! However, then I look in the mirror and say... oh shit. Age isn't for the weak and it is hard to know it's happening to you... as it does for everyone. But I know if I am saying... ew... someone could be saying ew about me! That's messed up!

Be kind to the elders... one day you will be one.

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 5:57:20 PM   
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what are YOU going to do when you're 50 - chase after 18 year old men because "50 year old guys are gross."


No, I guess I will have to settle for 30 year old men :D


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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 5:57:51 PM   
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Some men age so well. I like to look and dream... but I have a love/hate thing with them because I can't age gracefully looking dignified. Greying beard and all.

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 6:18:23 PM   
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what are YOU going to do when you're 50 - chase after 18 year old men because "50 year old guys are gross."


No, I guess I will have to settle for 30 year old men :D




Again, good luck with that as a life strategy. We have men on here saying you are already past the prime (I believe something closer to 18 was what was thrown out before). Good luck at age 50 attracting men who are 30 and younger. I know MANY women who are with younger men. But 20 years younger? I know women who have flings with men with that age gap, but not longstanding relationships. Sex is almost always easy to find. I have three male friends who are with older women - one is one year younger, the other five years younger, and one nine years younger. I don't have a single male or female friend of any age where the male is more than 20 years younger than the female. Maybe others can comment on the vast numbers of 50+ women they know actually dating men younger than 30. Maybe my samples are just skewed.

For the record, I actually have a preference for younger. And I have no difficulty finding that. But your expectation of being a 50+ woman (with all that entails at that stage of one's life) and having a successful enduring relationship with a man 30 or younger - well let's just say very little that I've seen in my own life and with my own friends (male or female) would place a very high probability on that. (Unless you are a celebrity - but then that kind of relationship is a very different dynamic. Celebrities or the uber-wealthy are operating under different rules and dynamics. That is an absolute reality.)

Again, good luck with this as a life strategy. I have nothing against older women with younger men, but there are realities to contend with and I honestly feel there are gender differences that make a much older women being with a much younger man not viable in the long run except for very rare cases. But the opposite does not hold. There are in fact many more examples of much older men with much younger women. I am not condoning/explaining or any such thing. I am simply describing the reality, for better or worse, of what I see in the world….

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 7:00:56 PM   
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Just the pure disrespect I'm receiving from the over 50 men. I tell them I'm not interested and suddenly that makes me a " little Bitch Cunt". It is disgusting, I feel like I have to just block anyone I turn down. I've only been on the scene two and an half years, perhaps with time it is something I'll be use to...


I receive a lot of responses from over 50 women.

Some are disrespectful, assuming they're my Domme by simply saying it's so.

Some are desperate.

Get over it chickey....you're a young buck.

Deal with it.

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 7:20:02 PM   
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I am 56 and I too am sick of the attitudes of the older men on here!


Umm, are there any men older than 56 on here, or am I the oldest?

You got Me by 4 years. But yeah... what Rule said!!!!!!!

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 7:24:12 PM   
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I am 56 and I too am sick of the attitudes of the older men on here!


Umm, are there any men older than 56 on here, or am I the oldest?

You got Me by 4 years. But yeah... what Rule said!!!!!!!


I pinch your butt if that helps (since LP said you still have the same pants size as you had when she met you) but I don't think you want 2 sadists all that close to you ;) You have your hands full with the one you have ;)

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 7:26:13 PM   
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I am 56 and I too am sick of the attitudes of the older men on here!


Umm, are there any men older than 56 on here, or am I the oldest?

You got Me by 4 years. But yeah... what Rule said!!!!!!!


I pinch your butt if that helps (since LP said you still have the same pants size as you had when she met you) but I don't think you want 2 sadists all that close to you ;) You have your hands full with the one you have ;)

LOL Ya think!!!!

ETA oh yeah. You got mail on another site.

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 7:44:28 PM   
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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 9:42:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Could we talk about the other side of this for a moment? I'm in my 40s, and I have a position of authority with respect to some young adult women. I have to dodge an inappropriate offer about once a month. When spring hits full-on, I will have to misunderstand suggestions at least once every other week.

"Old guys are gross, ew," is a common preference, so you aren't alone, Arista. But there are a LOT of young women who go for "man in position of authority." Power is sexy, even in vanilla.

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 10:02:48 PM   
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In the vanilla world, I often have better experiences with older males than younger males. But yes, strangely, in CollarMe, I meet some of the most immature older males ever. Perhaps because by declaring themselves a dom, I already have a very high expectation of maturity, wiseness, and calm and controlled behaviour that I expect from them. Then again, I experience this calm and controlled behaviour extremely often with vanilla older males, that's why thanks to them, I actually do prefer men starting from 40's and up. But why is it so rare especially in CM with the older doms? I don't know! Perhaps mature vanilla males, as with vanilla, you got to treat a woman with respect and an equal, and be super nice and all, but as an immature dom, they suddenly think, they don't need to behave with someone beneath them after all.

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/12/2014 11:00:48 PM   
Rawni


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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/13/2014 3:42:51 AM   
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The young men who looked good to me when I was 16 look like children to me now, and carry zero appeal for that reason.


Oh yes, that chimes. Over and again I'll look at teen girls and recall that when *I* was a teen I actually thought they looked sophisticated. Sophisticated!

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/13/2014 4:09:01 AM   
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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/13/2014 4:10:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hehe - I remember back in the day thinking the house surgeons were all adult and sophisticated and experienced. Poor things, if they had to live up to my view they would have been a bundle of nerves - being god-like and all...


Now I look at the surgical residents and think they look as if they aren't old enough to have graduated high school.

How we do change as we get older and more experienced. Yeah - experienced - that's it.

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/14/2014 9:04:32 AM   
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Good luck at age 50 attracting men who are 30 and younger. I know MANY women who are with younger men. But 20 years younger? I know women who have flings with men with that age gap, but not longstanding relationships. Sex is almost always easy to find....
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.... I have nothing against older women with younger men, but there are realities to contend with and I honestly feel there are gender differences that make a much older women being with a much younger man not viable in the long run except for very rare cases. But the opposite does not hold. There are in fact many more examples of much older men with much younger women....


Not to encourage Arista22's pre-cougarism, but she's just 24. (Babe in the woods ) Fairly understandable that men old enough to be her father or grandpa would seem gross to her.

Not to mention, there are two primes for females. Childbearing prime and sexual prime. The first will wane with time, high-risk pregnancies from 35+, but Nature is so gracious. She made our sexual prime kick off in our 30s, and it keeps building momentum for decades, unlike with men who are on a downward curve once they reach their 20s.

Women are the gatekeepers. We want two fundamental things from the men in our lives (besides that). The security of [primarily pair-]bonded relationship and emotional maturity. Now here's where Nature throws us a curveball. At no matter what age, adult females have difficulty finding either of these attributes in adult males of any age, although the chances of this dramatically increase with a man's age.

There's another solution I'd like to propose. You both have plenty of time to think this one over. Why not consider jumping or at least straddling the fence? I know a Domme who turned 70 last year who was with her boy for a decade, while he was in his 30's. He wasn't with her anymore the last time I saw her, but she had two male subs who couldn't have been older than their late 30's-early 40's following her around and hanging on her every word, keeping her amused. Granted, you may only find those seeking play, but by that time, it may not make any difference to you anymore. You only live once.

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/14/2014 9:13:09 AM   
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Old guys are gross. Not attractive at all, ew



I can't help but agree with that, but darling... that's because they're guys, not because they're old.

Nobody ever told you on the playground that boys are yucky?

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RE: Honestly sick of Older Men's attitude on here. - 3/14/2014 9:23:45 AM   
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Just the pure disrespect I'm receiving from the over 50 men. I tell them I'm not interested and suddenly that makes me a " little Bitch Cunt". It is disgusting, I feel like I have to just block anyone I turn down. I've only been on the scene two and an half years, perhaps with time it is something I'll be use to...


I'm glad you are taking positive actions to deal with that mess. I can relate. When I reject the under forty women they cry and whine and beg and send me pictures of themselves. Actually, it's not so bad, I kinda like it. Never mind.

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