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ORIGINAL: kkaliforniaa

As some may have noticed, I thanked people for posts that have been helpful. But when it comes to resolving the issue, especially with recent posts, that hasn't been the case.. Also, if the question doesn't make sense, perhaps questions should be asked so it does make sense *shrug*, although I don't see how it is unclear, then again it is my question

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: kkaliforniaa

As some may have noticed, I thanked people for posts that have been helpful. But when it comes to resolving the issue, especially with recent posts, that hasn't been the case.. Also, if the question doesn't make sense, perhaps questions should be asked so it does make sense *shrug*, although I don't see how it is unclear, then again it is my question

Forgetting about hospitals for a moment, what you really want is a way to make a safe call.

You want a way to make sure that you're ok, and that if you're not, somebody will put the cops on the right trail to find you.

If that's really what you want, and you really don't feel comfortable enough to have your friends/family do this for you. I wouldn't mind doing it if you'd like. Hell, if one person isn't enough, I'm sure we could find half a dozen people on this board alone who would be glad to help out. You could go, mass text everybody if you were fine, and if we don't hear from you, we'll drop the info off at the cops.

After all, that's the ONLY security you'll gain from your friends and family knowing. Anything beyond that is still just a risk you'll have to take.

Edited to add: BTW, if $10 in cab fair would make the difference between you feeling safe or not when coming home from a fetish club, message me on the other side, and I'll paypall you the $10. Seriously, no joke.

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ORIGINAL: kkaliforniaa



And to the people who think I need therapy, when you've had stray dogs chasing after you; a dog not on a leash run up to you barking up a storm [the owner not doing anything but calling the *bleeping* dog]; have had a stranger put their hands around your neck in a public parking lot [where not a single person came to help]; etc, I hope people don't tell you that you need therapy because you choose to think about as many possible outcomes for future outings! Yeah, you don't know me, don't know what I've been through, but to judge me just because I want to be safe. Yeah. *shaking head*.. And the same could be said for me about you. I don't know what anyone else has been through, but I'd assume that if someone has ever been in a risky situation, that their advice would not be "don't worry".. .. Also, when the people who supposedly care about you wind up placing the blame on you, even though it wasn't your fault. Yeah. "Don't worry".

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw
If you're going to refute all the advice you're given by experienced folks- there is little it seems anyone can do for you.

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ORIGINAL: kkaliforniaa

Okay littlewonder. Good to know that you'll either choose to suppress any interest in kink so that your spouse doesn't find out. Or you'll end a perfectly good relationship because you decided to share your interest and the person you were in love with couldn't accept all of you. Good to know

As for talking, shiftyw, did you just blurt out "I want you to tie me up.. .." or did you take a more subtle approach like, "it looked a little fun in that scene with [famous actress] in that movie [name of movie], what did you think of it?"