Masterthemoment
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I didn't think the term "chubby chaser" was a derogatory one--not for the "chaser" himself ...
I have definitely heard it used that way. I think it has to do with the same disdain that is shown to ladies who don't fall into that size 3-7 category. It's almost as if people are saying: "There's something wrong with her so, there must be something wrong with you for being attracted to her."
I strongly believe it goes back to what I was saying about Madison Avenue. There is a vested interest in the advertising world in promoting this false body image.
Why? Well, there's a vested interest for designers who can make clothing that can be shown on "human hangers". It's easier to get the clothes to "fall the right way" (Not that I agree with that) and they're using less material. Therefore bigger ... wait for it ... profits! Yay!
It also benefits the diet industry, the plastic surgery industry, the "legitimate" medical community (gastric by-passes and such). The list goes on. It's a huge lie perpetrated on us by people that have skin in the game.
I have none. I couldn't possibly care less what other people think is attractive. I gots mines!
I disagree. A portion of it may be advertising-related, but WHY are those the bodies we find attractive?
Before we became an urbanized species, at least in Europe as well as much of the rest of the world, most of us worked the fields. Most people were in shape. Why was obesity attractive? Because it was HARD to pull off. If you're digging and tending and lifting and carrying and eat primarily plants with some meats and fats, you're going to be in shape. The portraits of the era frequently show pale, fat women as that was a way to instantly let everyone know what your status was. Pale meant you didn't spend your days in the sun, and fat meant you could afford not to do manual labor. This meant you were rich. Instant status identifier.
Nowadays, we are an urbanized people with a preponderance of food, and most of it WILL make you fat. It's easy to be fat. Being slender and in shape takes work. If you're tending a fast-food counter or sitting on your butt at a desk all day, you will gain weight. It takes EFFORT to achieve and maintain fitness. Being slender in this day and age shows that A) you care about appearance B) you can afford the time it takes to maintain your shape C) you are capable of exercising the discipline necessary to make good life choices, and thus might make a good mate. Females tend to tan because most of us are stuck indoors for much of the day and tan skin shows that you can afford to lay about in the sun. Status indicators. I haven't the foggiest idea about female dress sizes, but I and most men can tell you whether a woman is 'hot or not'.
Humans are a visual species. Men care about appearance. Women tend to consider it a factor among many. Gay men are often in the best shape of all of us, because they are dating other men. Men dating women tend to be a mixed bunch, whereas most women dating men are in moderately good shape as they want a large dating pool and high-quality men. Lesbians are almost universally fat. The NIH under Obama is spending over a million dollars to figure out why lesbians tend to be overweight. It's REAL simple. NO MEN!
2nd major factor: people tend to talk to whatever they consider to be their peer group. This generally breaks down into socioeconomic status and race. Higher-earning women and men tend to prefer thinner, fitter mates (see above, also fashion re: Madison Ave). Middle-class men tend to run the gamut, whereas lower-earning men tend to accept larger women. Mongoloids are thinner and tend to prefer thinner females than most other groups; Caucasoids are in the middle and Negroids tend to prefer women that are fatter.
I'm guessing by your post that you associate with other Caucasians primarily and consider them to be your peer group. The average white guy is looking for a an attractive & fit female in her twenties. Anorexia and obesity both fall outside the norm, and the more standard deviations away from the norm you go the harder you're going to find it to market yourself. Sure, there are stores in your local mall catering to 'bigger' girls, and some guys are attracted to that. Fewer than are attracted to 'average' girls though.
I tend to hear the term 'chubby chaser' from white guys, whereas black guys is more likely to be focused on 'dat ass'. Completely different phraseology & cultural viewpoint. If I were considering a relationship with an eye towards the long term, the major factors aren't physical. But to GET to that stage, I have to be attracted to her first. Unless she's got a thyroid condition, my friends consider fat = lazy. If she's lazy, she doesn't take care of herself. Who wants a mate who doesn't take care of herself (and by inference, won't take care of you?)
Each additional requirement we have makes it that much harder to find a mate. Those of us on here already have certain challenges in the dating department. As your profile says, you're looking for "a man". Once you become a girl, you're going to set about finding one. Limiting your dating pool is your prerogative. So if you plan on maintaining your current weight, I'd suggest targeting males who are likely to view 'fluffiness' as a perk rather than as a negative.
< Message edited by Masterthemoment -- 5/12/2014 7:56:26 AM >
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