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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/14/2014 2:57:19 AM   
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In England, the average young woman who is considered on the slim side would be the shape of the more rounded Asian girl. In England that girl certainly wouldn't be considered plump. When its perfectly normal to see obese teenagers walking home from school and when its a daily event to see morbidly obese people, as you do in the UK, you tend to forget how slim and fit your average European cousins are.

When I think of English girls, I think of Posh Spice ha! Or Kate Beckinsale. Never ever thought of them as the rounder female size. And for some strange reason, British women here are usually very slim and very posh spice-like too. Maybe it's the wealth and the access to personal trainers and good quality food.

I need to move to England if rounder figure is normal, I would feel so skinny there! I would say, in Singapore, Hyuna figure is the norm on the streets. But she has more boobs and ass than most women her shape, so that's why she's popular.

Like the rounder lady, after she got slim, her boobs completely vanish. That's the trade off.



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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/14/2014 3:32:09 AM   
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You would feel positively skinny if you moved to the UK :)

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/14/2014 3:44:17 AM   
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You would feel positively skinny if you moved to the UK :)

Yea, and I really have a thing for Brit guys too. Sexy accent and my experience with them has always been good.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/14/2014 5:47:21 AM   
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When we learn to stop being offended by words, life gets a whole lot easier to live.

Try as you might, you do not have the right to control what others in the world think or say, and it would be wise to stop trying. It just makes a ridiculous mess of things in the end.

My best advise: Get over it. That's what happy people do. :)

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/14/2014 6:04:47 AM   
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Like the rounder lady, after she got slim, her boobs completely vanish. That's the trade off.


Jeesh, I hate that. My boobs are about half the size they used to be, my butt has lost about a third roundness, and I am so upset about that. (It's not fair!) Over the past couple years, I dropped about 25-30 pounds unintentionally (getting run ragged taking care of a terminally ill relative), and guess where that weight seems to have come off first, much to my chagrin. Honestly, I'd rather have the curvier top & bottom portions back again.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/14/2014 7:54:17 AM   
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Personally for me, I don't mind losing my boobs, because I like to do sports and boobs get in the way, all the jiggling. I hate wearing bra too, and I usually don't wear bra unless I have to, like for work.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/14/2014 12:38:18 PM   
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A calorie is a measurement.

That is like saying a pound of rocks is heavier than a pound of feathers.




http://authoritynutrition.com/debunking-the-calorie-myth/
http://danceswithfat.wordpress.com/2011/03/06/the-calories-incalories-out-myth/




Oh my god did you really just link DWF? That woman is the most delusional thing I've ever seen.

I'd take anything she ever posts with a bucket of salt.




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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/14/2014 12:46:51 PM   
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A calorie is a measurement.

That is like saying a pound of rocks is heavier than a pound of feathers.




http://authoritynutrition.com/debunking-the-calorie-myth/
http://danceswithfat.wordpress.com/2011/03/06/the-calories-incalories-out-myth/




Oh my god did you really just link DWF? That woman is the most delusional thing I've ever seen.

I'd take anything she ever posts with a bucket of salt.




I have no idea who she is. I also put a link in from Dr. Dariush Mozaffarian, a cardiologist and epidemiologist at the Harvard School of Public Health. Is he delusional too?

I'm not going to continue this conversation with you because this is clearly a case of, you stick with what you know and Ill stick with what I know.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/14/2014 2:28:44 PM   
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I admit I only skimmed the thread, but I get the gist of it. I agree that geography and history and the way cultures evolve, all affect the way women's weight is perceived.

America got fat since the food industry has been allowed to add corn syrup and other addictive substances to food-like products. People here still aren't aware and are literall being manipulated to death and are dying of fat-related diseases. (Check out a documentary called, "Food Wars.") Another factor is psych meds create a lot of weight gain, too, and millions take them, not making the connection.

So, I reject the judgment that fat people eat too much or are simply lazy. In America, you need to have a certain level of wealth to have this kind of information come up in your everyday conversations. Organic food is costly. Education is horrendous in English, Science and Math, so any hope of nutritional education is buried under those failings. It may be more accurate to say that fat people are uninformed or of moderate financial means.

As to the "chubby chasers" taunt... so what? One guy I know likes little, thin women. He gets chided for liking boys. The fat chick stuff is only a fetish in terms of feeders, or the face-squashing, and in both cases, these women are valued.

Taking a step back, it seems to me that being teased for a preference is a common experience to all. I had an ex who grew up in Northern Ireland, in the farm lands. He carried buckets to the river for water and lived by oil lamp until he was 14. He knew everything about the land and about the stars, but was not especially book smart. After marrying me and partnering in raising my 4 kids, he learned a lot through helping with their homework. He visited home a few years later and of course, spoke more like an American, and with an expanded vocabulary which had become natural to him. He said something of no particular note to me, and his sister said, "Wooo, look who swallowed the dictionary!" Teasing.

Wow! Even becoming educated can be cause for derision and mocking, if it happens in a culture that makes the person MORE different. So, I don't think the issue you describe is about fat-ness. I think it's about being different from someone else's expectations.

Me? I only give the expectations of others consideration after I've discovered some truly good reason to.


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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/15/2014 3:58:05 AM   
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http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/7838668.stm

From one of the articles was this link that I thought was exactly what I said the problem was. It says that some people genetically turns their excess calories into muscles, so they can overeat all they want and they will never grow fat, while others genetically turns whatever excess calories into fats, waahh, that's me!

I hope the scientists fix this problem! I want the genetic make up of my dad! And not my mom!

I also read with interests how broccoli is lauded as such a great slimming food. I LOVE broccoli and my diet is mainly broccoli and chicken, because those are the two things i can eat 3 times a day without getting sick of eating and it gives me the fibre and protein I need, and trust me, it does absolutely nothing for weight loss, infact I think broccoli makes me put on weight! And I can eat my broccoli, I eat them like potato chips because I genuinely have broccoli cravings. I think most don't eat enough broccoli to test this theory. And if I am not eating broccoli, I am eating spinach, I am very lucky these two power vegetables are my absolute favourite and I absolutely love their taste. Meat wise, always just happy to eat chicken and nothing else. I reckon it's the hormone and antibiotics injections in chickens that are having a dire effect on my metabolism.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/15/2014 11:28:47 AM   
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I have no idea who she is. I also put a link in from Dr. Dariush Mozaffarian, a cardiologist and epidemiologist at the Harvard School of Public Health. Is he delusional too?

I'm not going to continue this conversation with you because this is clearly a case of, you stick with what you know and Ill stick with what I know.



Check your sources then man. Don't just google until you find someone who agrees with you.

I read the study, (note: the actual study, NOT the sensationalized news article) which Dr. M was referring to, and it doesn't really back you up. The volunteers did not count calorie intake, as that would be a pain in the butt for a longitudinal study. Instead, they received a detailed survey every two years. The study found that increased intake of shitty, high calorie food lead to weight gain, while intake of better foods and an exercise program lead to less weight gain. This pretty much boils down roughly to the calories in/calories out theory.


Also, Greta, are you even serious right now? Holy crap, no.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/15/2014 12:35:07 PM   
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I need to move to England if rounder figure is normal, I would feel so skinny there!

If that is your goal you might consider samoa. The only women who weigh less than 200# are ten years old.
Samoan men ,in general,however are not attracted to women who are not full size. That being said, I have a samoan buddy who is a security guard in vegas(yeah da guy is full size) but when he was in the navy stationed in puerto rico he met and married a very dainty puertorican lady. When he took her back to samoa to meet his family his mom called the doctor...was sure the kid was about to die. Uffa had a bitch of a time convincing his mom that his new wife was not about to die.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/15/2014 1:27:04 PM   
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I have no idea who she is. I also put a link in from Dr. Dariush Mozaffarian, a cardiologist and epidemiologist at the Harvard School of Public Health. Is he delusional too?

I'm not going to continue this conversation with you because this is clearly a case of, you stick with what you know and Ill stick with what I know.



Check your sources then man. Don't just google until you find someone who agrees with you.

I read the study, (note: the actual study, NOT the sensationalized news article) which Dr. M was referring to, and it doesn't really back you up. The volunteers did not count calorie intake, as that would be a pain in the butt for a longitudinal study. Instead, they received a detailed survey every two years. The study found that increased intake of shitty, high calorie food lead to weight gain, while intake of better foods and an exercise program lead to less weight gain. This pretty much boils down roughly to the calories in/calories out theory.


Also, Greta, are you even serious right now? Holy crap, no.


If I was trying to score points I would call you a man too but I consider that a bit below the belt so I won't

However....

A snippet from one of Dr Ludwigs widely publicized studies, "The kind of calories consumed affects how efficiently the body can utilize those calories. A low glycemic and low carbohydrate diet resulted in more calories being burned than a low fat diet. While the low glycemic diet burned fewer calories than the low carbohydrate diet it did not increase the level of disease causing stress markers in the body.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Ludwig_%28physician%29

Its about how the body utilizes that unit of energy. Does the body benefit from that calorie or doesn't it.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/15/2014 1:45:07 PM   
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If I was trying to score points I would call you a man too but I consider that a bit below the belt so I won't


That would only hurt a man.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/15/2014 1:54:28 PM   
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I have no idea who she is. I also put a link in from Dr. Dariush Mozaffarian, a cardiologist and epidemiologist at the Harvard School of Public Health. Is he delusional too?

I'm not going to continue this conversation with you because this is clearly a case of, you stick with what you know and Ill stick with what I know.



Check your sources then man. Don't just google until you find someone who agrees with you.

I read the study, (note: the actual study, NOT the sensationalized news article) which Dr. M was referring to, and it doesn't really back you up. The volunteers did not count calorie intake, as that would be a pain in the butt for a longitudinal study. Instead, they received a detailed survey every two years. The study found that increased intake of shitty, high calorie food lead to weight gain, while intake of better foods and an exercise program lead to less weight gain. This pretty much boils down roughly to the calories in/calories out theory.


Also, Greta, are you even serious right now? Holy crap, no.



As an agonist in long distance running I vabe been dealing a lot with energy integration, I read specific litterature and had sevelopped quite a personal experience, to me it's not a problem of weight loss but to keep a performance at my best level for as long as I can, this mens I have a direct feedback from my body.
I don't want to put in OriginalRebel's mouth words she didn't say, but for sake of conversation I'll point out what I understoob being her point and she will correct me if I'm wrong.

I think OriginalRebel's point is explained in this paragraph I quote from the source you reported:

Some foods — vegetables, nuts, fruits, and whole grains — were associated with less weight gain when consumption was actually increased. Obviously, such foods provide calories and cannot violate thermodynamic laws. Their inverse associations with weight gain suggest that the increase in their consumption reduced the intake of other foods to a greater (caloric) extent, decreasing the overall amount of energy consumed. Higher fiber content and slower digestion of these foods would augment satiety, and their increased consumption would also displace other, more highly processed foods in the diet, providing plausible biologic mechanisms whereby persons who eat more fruits, nuts, vegetables, and whole grains would gain less weight over time.

"calories in" - "calories out" = "calories stored" is correct, as the article says thermodynamic laws can't be violated, but as you can read next some foods due their slower digestion decrease the overall amount of calories a persn introduce, because not every kind of energy source works the same way. Very sweet food, like an icecream, tend to be processed by the body quickly, giving a high amount of energy in a short time, calories not consumed in that period get immediatly stored, of course you can burn them later, but what is my persnal experience is you feel hungry and weak immediatly after, so you'll need more food and more calories in, and this is backs up with the study you posted. Eating instead the same amount of calories in pasta will keep you strong for a longer time, giving you the possibility to use those calories by normal life's activities between one meal and another.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/15/2014 2:03:32 PM   
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No one is saying that eating a 500 kCal bowl of icecream is the same as eating 500 kCal of broccoli.

You WILL be hungry more quickly after eating icecream, and that amount (oh god so much broccoli) of broccoli will undoubtedly fill you up much more.

However, the point remains that you can, and will lose weight if you consume less calories than you expend.

If you are aiming for 1600 a day, and you choose to eat 1600 in icecream and nothing else, you'll be miserable sure, but you'll still drop the weight. You just have to have the willpower to stop at 1600, which is something many people lack. Determine your goal, count the calories, and the weight can come off. It HAS to, because that's how your body works.

For fun, this is a sample of what 200 calories looks like with different foods.

Another huge problem I see with the obesity trend, is the massive amount of just BULLSHIT that is out there. Stupid womanly magazines and trash news websites prey upon the overweight with nonsense diets and pseudoscience. "MAGICAL BEAN FROM THE ORIENT GUARANTEED TO MELT 30 LBS IN 30 DAYS!" "USE THIS SECRET INGREDIENT TO BLOCK FAT AND SLIM THIGHS!" Wut wut wut, how can you even be ok with yourself when you publish that? It's awful, and I've seen a couple articles like that posted in this thread.

People are so desperate for obesity to be "not their fault", that they'll grab onto any bit of nonsense they find to support themselves. "It's not me, it's my metabolism/genetics/income." All the while, they continue to eat insane amounts of nonsense, and sneer at people at a healthy BMI for not being "a REAL woman"!

I had a 400 lb man tell me he was in perfect health one day.

I'm a wound care nurse.

See if you can guess why I was paying him a visit.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/15/2014 2:08:37 PM   
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so it seems we are all saying the same thing.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/15/2014 8:18:02 PM   
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Also, Greta, are you even serious right now? Holy crap, no.

Which part wasn't I serious about? Maybe going by the calorie in and out theory, I ate too much broccoli. Broccoli isn't exactly low calories to start with! Just like apples, they aren't low calorie either. Cucumber is low calorie, but not broccoli. But I hate cucumber. Chicken really is filled with hormone injections to accelerate growth and antibiotics. But organic chicken is unaffordable to eat. Some believe those hormones makes men grow men boobs, just like soy milk too.

Also, I eat made in china broccolis, there might be something in them, but they are the affordable one. Price difference is like, a big china broccoli cost $1.50, while an organic Australian one is like $8.00 for the same size. Cost savings means unfortunately, highly suspect food. But I was in Australia recently and their broccoli cost only $2 per kg. So damn we are getting ripped off big time over here for Aussie Broccolis! Which are suppose to be healthier.


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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/16/2014 1:43:29 AM   
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The thing we have to accept is, obesity is a fairly new thing. Whilst we all understand that sugar is fattening, its all in the detail.

In the mid 70s, high fructose corn syrup was invented in Japan and its invention is what stabilized fluctuating sugar prices in the US. Fructose started to be added to foods on a 50-50 basis. (50% cane sugar 50% fructose). In the mid 80s low fat products were introduced into the western world market and guess what, we all started getting fat. Low fat food tastes disgusting and so to disguise the taste they put high amounts of sugar/fructose in it. Only the liver can process fructose and when too much enters the liver, its unable process it fast enough for the body to use as sugar. Instead, it starts making fats from the fructose and sending them off into the bloodstream. Go into any supermarket and look at the labels of what your consuming. Some baby formulas have fructose in them and according to Robert H. Lustig (pediatric endocrinologist) he regularly sees 6 month old babies suffering from obesity. He calls it 'Fructosification of America'.

It was a real eye opener watching his video on youtube-'Sugar the Bitter Truth' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBnniua6-oM and its a 90 minute fairly intense lecture to medical students and doctors so you have to be in the right sort of mood to watch it. Its worth it because it explains so much about the obesity epidemic and how we have been mislead into believing low fat diets are the way to go. I also admit that before watching this video, I ignorantly believed that 'fructose' in a fruit squash was a healthier sugar than any other because I related it to fruit.

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RE: Why is being into "big girls" still consi... - 5/16/2014 4:41:11 AM   
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But the whole fructose thing doesn't make sense for Asian genes, since many Asian food are very sweet. Including their regular white bread is sweeter than the Western countries. Most chinese dishes have sweetness in them. Sweet and Sour Pork, EVEN lemon chicken has lots of sugar. Char Siew (Roast red pork), they are all sugar laden. And we eat these regularly. Even our stir fry vegetables with oyster sauce, typical chinese dish, oyster sauce has loads of sugar!

Peking duck, the sauce is sugary sweet! Well the Hong Kong style. The Beijing style may be salty BUT they don't do their skin thin and crispy but fat and lardy. Beijing folks loves THICK layers of lard in their food, even on their broths.

All our chili sauces are sugary sweet, sweet and spicy. When I was in mexico, I was wondering why I didn't like their spice, and I think it's the absent of sugar.

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