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proudsub -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/13/2004 2:27:41 PM)

I have one more to add. One time with an online dom i had to hold my bra in my mouth on cam for a half hr. because i had worn one when i wan't supposed to. I found that very humiliating.



SherriA -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/13/2004 7:02:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: topcat


It's one of those things like 'good' pain vs. 'bad' pain that is compleatly subjective, but I'd love to hear from anyone who like to take a whack at explaining it.




Hi Lawrence :)

For me at least, there's a *huge* difference between humiliation and degredation. Humiliation is empowering. It allows me to feel strong without feeling in control. Degradation robs people of their personal power, and simply feels icky. To me. Imnsho. Ykiok, ijnmk. yada yada yada, etc etc etc.

I have a blurb about humiliation that I wrote around here somewhere that I can dig up, if you want. There's also an interesting article about it on the screamergirl's website. I can dig up a link if you can't find it.

-- Sherri



MizSuz -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/13/2004 8:07:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: EStrict

You know Suz, I must have missed your post (It went up while I was replying). But, I read it today and realized that you told things you did to humilate, not what was the most humiliating (to you) thing that happened in a scene. So,,,,



Sandy,

You are so right. Thing is...I don't remember anything humiliating that happened to me in a scene. I had a similar feinting experience with someone (I believe someone else posted something similiar) but it didn't humiliate me...it scared the snot out of me.

I also once meant to kick someone in the stomach and inadvertently made contact too high. I kicked him in the diaphragm and it knocked him to his knees and was a few moments before he could get his breath. That was scary too.

But I honestly can't remember anything that was humiliating to me. Perhaps embarassing? I can't remember anything like that...not in scene. Either it's never happened or it was so insignificant that I forgot it.

Lawrence? Sherri? Have you guys ever seen me 'humiliated' especially in scene?



topcat -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 8:09:27 AM)

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Have you guys ever seen me 'humiliated' especially in scene?


Madame-

Nope. I am not sure I understand the question.

For me, I can think of an embarassing scene, at the original Pappillion Cache, when in my first public scene with a new slave, she screamed (SCREAMED!!) red before I'd even really started.

I had bound her to a cross, and started cutting her clothing off, slowly, with a big, sharp, knife. She spontanously freaked out, and was compleatly unable to explain it.

That was pretty embarassing, but I don't think of it as humiliating. Generally, to my understanding, humilation in a scene is a submissive focus.

Stay warm,
Lawrence



topcat -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 8:12:50 AM)

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You know Suz, I must have missed your post (It went up while I was replying). But, I read it today and realized that you told things you did to humilate, not what was the most humiliating (to you) thing that happened in a scene. So,,,,


Midear Sandy-

Are you confusing this thread with 'most embarassing moment', also in this forum?

stay warm,
Lawrence



DivanDaddy -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 8:29:29 AM)

The act of a someone not doing their homework before contacting us..



londonswitch -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 9:14:41 AM)

One that makes my man crimson with lack of control, and exceptionally horny, is simply to throw what I'm reading aside, look bored and say 'f*cktoy'. He then stops what he is doing and has to come and amuse me. That single word, if it's me starting things off that way, he says is the most intense because that's the one his reaction hinges on. He knows I'll have dreamt up all sorts to follow on, but it's that initial wilful reaction when he let's go that he says makes him feel humiliated. And clearly it's a lovable humiliation. He gets an erection everytime I say it.



londonswitch -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 9:15:21 AM)

Personally, I think doing my job for the pay I get is the most humiliating thing ever. Grr.



EStrict -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 2:13:17 PM)

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Are you confusing this thread with 'most embarassing moment', also in this forum?


::Laughing:: yes Sir, I did. I guess I consider the two the same in my mind and I was thinking it was the other string...



EStrict -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 2:18:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DivanDaddy

The act of a someone not doing their homework before contacting us..


Ok I bite. Which of you does this humilate? And how can someone know they are expected to do some kind of *homework* before contacting you? I have to admit this confuses me :)



Estring -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 2:37:49 PM)

Sandi, now you have another embarassing moment to post. [:D]



EStrict -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 3:37:50 PM)

::laughin:: actually I did already in the other post Sir, but as I mentioned, it didn't embarass me. I don't really embarass personally, though I have been embarassed for others.



MizSuz -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/14/2004 5:29:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: EStrict

::laughin:: actually I did already in the other post Sir, but as I mentioned, it didn't embarass me. I don't really embarass personally, though I have been embarassed for others.



The times in my life when I've felt humiliation were not d/s related or even consensual. I prefer not to discuss them.

Embarassment, however, I'm altogether too familiar with. <smile>



sklabos -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/18/2004 1:25:25 PM)

Although i am sure that it is of no importance to You, i am incredibly turned on by being humiliated. Starting at the low end; being made to eat my meals from a dog bowl on the floor, being made to masturbate in front of my Domme and being forced to service another sub orally.

sklabos



GoddessMarissa -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/18/2004 2:37:46 PM)

* Making someone cum on my feet or breats and licking it up.
* Pulling there cock out of there pants doing chores and walking around expossed all day.
* Pumping my gas while wearing pink panties.
* Wearing a pink tutu and serving my friends and I drinks.
* Reading a good book while I am getting oral pleasure.
* We were at a restaurant, and before we got up to pay the bill I arroussed him until he had a hardon, then we got up to pay while getting lots of stares.



MistressKiss -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/18/2004 4:07:17 PM)

These are great!

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GoddessMarissa -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/18/2004 5:09:25 PM)

These other ones might be a little much for some
*Making him crawl like a dog with dildo in ass
*Making him do himself with newspaper under him like a dog while friends and I watched and laughed.

*Putting my panties over his head while making him stand in corner to jack off.
*Pleasing me oraly under the dinner table while I ate.
* Pissed in a cup for him to drink instead of in his mouth.



masterdstar -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/18/2004 7:52:11 PM)

Good day all !
:-)
Oh let’s see, just the fun stuff! …..when at a rather nice restaurant I had two slaves go into the woman’s room and fuck each other VERY LOUDLY and walk back to the table holding hands and kissing, everyone looked, one thought it was humiliating ; -) or coming back from the restroom and carrying in her hand a freshly dripping wet pair of panties after having jacked off with them in the Woman’s room and making a show of handing them to Me at the table…a lot of looks : -)
Or made to sit on a stool at the bar in a family restaurant facing the live band legs splayed wide and short skirt hiked up high with no panties freshly waxed (Brazilian of course) and her tampon string hanging out prominently… or of course made to drink a lot before going out and not allowed to pee; one time in the booth another time and walk out all stained (several actually) or b NOT between parked cars! Geez!.
There is always the public collar or getting out of the car naked in heels to walk over to the pop machine slowly and return in the day time at a motel or the stopping on the street corner for a Sunday Newspaper and pulling out of pussy a rubber full of quarters to pay the paper boy with and putting the rubber back in ;_ )
Or quarter “horsy” races; each slave has a quarter slid just inside her ass which has been lubed heavily and hands are cuffed behind and short shackles on ankles with heels and they must run down a distance to a tin can and squat and drop their quarter to win, place, show.
All those lil things…you know …soooo much more!
Enjoy your wonder-filled day
MDS



MistressKiss -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/18/2004 8:00:18 PM)

Now see....here is where the rubber hits the road. I think that some of these acts cross the line of humiliation between a Master and submissive and imposing your kink on others in public. There are so many great things that can be done in a subtle manner, but you start subjecting others to your kink in this manner and you risk getting arrested. The sad part is that the submissive is probably the one who will end up in trouble with the law since she actually did the act. If you are in a BDSM-friendly environment, that's one thing, but a classy restaurant and bringing out panties in front of all there - obviously, as you mentioned, enough to get people to look - that is unfairly subjecting your kink on someone else. Not only that, but doing anything like that in a family restaurant is just plain wrong. You are not the one that has to explain why the pretty lady is walking to a table with her panties in her hand. That's walking a dangerous line, especially when it can mean that your submissive could face legal charges and/or have a criminal record afterwards. No one has the right to risk allowing children to witness acts related to BDSM.

Trust me, I live in Texas where a woman was arrested for having a Passion Party in a private home and selling vibrators. If cops in Burleson will make an example out of her, they'll do it to your submissive. Dominants are supposed to protect submissives from such harm. A criminal record - in my humble opinion - is harmful. The dominant must be responsible enough to keep her safe in this regard.

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proudsub -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/18/2004 8:31:40 PM)

I agree with you 100% MistressKiss. Those are the kind of things that give BDSM a bad name. I would not stay with a dom that risked my being arrested so blatently. The closest i came was giving my first Dom a bj in a public park, and it scared me to death, since i was married i had a lot to lose if caught.



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