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ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 11:09:22 AM)

oh, forgot to mention face slapping, and He will do that no matter if we are infront of others or not....He has never done it in public but if i give Him reason to He will, no doubt.....and lifting my skirt in public or grabbing my ass or cunt in public are also ways He humiliates me....calling me names infront of others also humiliates me.




slavedesires -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 11:21:54 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Estring

It's interesting, this humiliation thing. Coming from a Dom's perspective, I have done many things to my slaves that I would consider humiliating. But the slave always looks at it as serving and obeying as she should. There is no humiliation in her eyes. But it is still alot of fun, whatever you want to call it. [;)]


one of my all time humiliatating things was to be doggy and have my ass pounded ...there was something so..well...jsut horribly humiliating and degrading about it.

then He came along and just took me and i only serve to please Him and it is the most awesome thing !
[:)]




cellogrrlMK -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 11:26:14 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ruffnecksbabygir

Master enjoys verbally humiliating me, and i have grown to enjoy it a lot! At first i just didn't know how to feel about it, it turned me on but i felt i should be offended! then i gave up on the "offended" attitude and just accepted it and now it just excites me tremendously!

He also has me refer to Him as Sir in front of all my family & friends, and in public as well....i'm also used as His toilet and i find that very humiliating.


Well, for some that's just fine. I personally am against involving in any way vanilla folk with my lifestyle. Some of my vanilla friends know about it, but I don't call Master "Master" or "Sir" in front of them or my family or his family, and he would not insist I do so. Our lifestyle is private to us and to our lifestyle friends and we will not impose any of our kink on people who are not aware of it, it meaning the lifestyle in general as well as us privately.

But that's just us [:)]




ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 11:31:54 AM)

He does not have me call Him Master in public or infront of family & friends....i wouldn't say that calling someone Sir is necessarily lifestyle protocol only since it's used as respect outside of bdsm all the time..... i am completely obedient to Him no matter if we are in public or in the privacy of our own bedroom....we live this way 24/7 ...it's who we are. If others take offense to it they can easily just look the other way.....If Master wishes me to kneel at His feet in a public restaurant i would not hesitate for a second, no matter what He asks of me i do it without question because like i said, i am totally obediant to Him, for us this is not a game or a role we play on weekends...it is who we are and we are not ashamed of it.




cellogrrlMK -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 12:00:31 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ruffnecksbabygir

He does not have me call Him Master in public or infront of family & friends....i wouldn't say that calling someone Sir is necessarily lifestyle protocol only since it's used as respect outside of bdsm all the time..... i am completely obedient to Him no matter if we are in public or in the privacy of our own bedroom....we live this way 24/7 ...it's who we are. If others take offense to it they can easily just look the other way.....If Master wishes me to kneel at His feet in a public restaurant i would not hesitate for a second, no matter what He asks of me i do it without question because like i said, i am totally obediant to Him, for us this is not a game or a role we play on weekends...it is who we are and we are not ashamed of it.


Calling him Master, caling him Sir, whatever... I say yes Sir or yes Ma'am to people in the grocery store , etc! LOL

Our lifestyle is who we are too; however, I do have limits and so does he (OMG, does that make us "not real" or "not true"?????[:-] ) We are not ashamed either, but we do not feel the need to display our lifestyle to the general public.

And sometimes <gasp> I am NOT totally obedient to him... and that has saved our relationship a couple of times; he will freely tell you that, in fact he made a post about it under "Attitude in Submission" on the Ask a Submissive/Slave forum. I love him even more for being Dom and man enough to say what he said too.

How you live and the quality of your life is your decision, just as how my Master and I choose to live ours is our decision. One is not "better" than the other, it is what makes all of our lives harmonius. We choose not to expose our lifestyle to vanillas and have no desire to do so, whether it's to prove my devotion to him or for whatever other reason. But it has nothing to do with being ashamed of it.

cello




ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 12:17:00 PM)

i haven't said my relationship is better than yours.....i don't even know you so please chill out.




MsIce -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 4:52:45 PM)

Verbal Humilation is something that I would not consider doing. I believe that a lot of people who have an interest in teh scene are often quite fragile. Why would I say something negative that may injure their feelings for time t come. They would never remember the session they would just remember the crushing remark.

However mind fucks are quite a different thing. I have been told by submissives that simply being naked in front of me is humilating in itself and having to submit is the ultimate humilation. At the end of the day I have a passion for bdsm and also a passion for caring for people who play with me.




LadyAngelika -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 7:59:42 PM)

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I believe that a lot of people who have an interest in teh scene are often quite fragile.


Which is why knowing and understanding the person you are humiliating is of the utmost importance!

- LA




funNtrainable -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 8:51:42 PM)

well, back to the non-verbal forms of humiliation. I was tied down. Once I came, she got her dildo all wet with it, and gently slapped my face with it. It sort of spashed around. That was humiliating.




atHisfeet -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 8:55:14 PM)

to date i think the most humiliating thing was crawling to Him on all fours. knowing He was staring down at me as i licked His bare feet was humiliating. i can count on one hand how many times we've done it with no lights on. early in the relationship i thought this was humiliating as well. i have learned to enjoy it.

weird, i can drink His piss and not feel humiliation yet i dislike crawling on all fours...




cellogrrlMK -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/28/2005 10:54:32 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ruffnecksbabygir

i haven't said my relationship is better than yours.....i don't even know you so please chill out.



<sipping my wine as I wait for the bubblebath in the candlelit bathroom to fill>

That is the best suggestion I've had all day! Thank you! [:)]




MsIce -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/29/2005 3:04:07 AM)

The post regarding exposing your kink to others I find quite disturbing

"There is always the public collar or getting out of the car naked in heels to walk over to the pop machine slowly and return in the day time at a motel or the stopping on the street corner for a Sunday Newspaper and pulling out of pussy a rubber full of quarters to pay the paper boy with and putting the rubber back in ;_ )"

For the main part bdsm is and should alsways be consentual. In my mind the people that you are involving in public play like this havent given their permission to be part of scene. There fore you are breaking one of the strong ethics that should bind play




Phoenixandnika -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/29/2005 4:01:43 AM)

Acts that I considering humiliting.

1. spitting on me
2. peeing on me
3. being forced to dress up like a little miss priss
4. being used as a table
5. scat play in general


Hiya Master Lawrence, I wouldnt find the pizza guy humiliating all that would do was excite me more... lol Nice idea though I wonder if my Master would go for it... lol But then again public display isnt humilationg to me in the least.

Blessed be
nika the deviant






EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/29/2005 6:52:46 AM)

Everyone's view of what's ok and what isn't in public will vary based on their own comfort levels.

I don't think it's wrong to kiss my boyfriend in public, even though I haven't gotten the explicit consent of those around me.

Is it ok to have him kneel? Depends on the context. For some people it's always no.

I think it's a very grey area and we all have to decide what works best for us. Most people are too wrapped up in their lives to even CARE what others are doing beyond making a glance or two in your direction as its happening.




AAkasha -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/29/2005 8:39:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Everyone's view of what's ok and what isn't in public will vary based on their own comfort levels.

I don't think it's wrong to kiss my boyfriend in public, even though I haven't gotten the explicit consent of those around me.

Is it ok to have him kneel? Depends on the context. For some people it's always no.

I think it's a very grey area and we all have to decide what works best for us. Most people are too wrapped up in their lives to even CARE what others are doing beyond making a glance or two in your direction as its happening.


Kissing or kneeling in public is something a parent could logically explain to their 7 year old daughter who just walked around the corner and saw it.

A woman pulling a roll of quarters out of her pussy to pay the paperboy is going to be tough.

Saying people aren't paying attention or don't care is a selfish way that some kinksters justify their need to get off at the expense of others. Good common sense will tell you what is right or wrong, and the examples you gave are no brainers.

Akasha




Phoenixandnika -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/29/2005 1:40:18 PM)

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A woman pulling a roll of quarters out of her pussy to pay the paperboy is going to be tough.


My issue with this insident is a legal one. Although I am very much an exhibitionist, I am very cautious about who and where I am when I expose myself.Legally the act above is a criminal offense and depending on the age of the "paperboy" even more so. I know that if my daughter who wants to get a job delivering papers ever came home and said mom some woman pulled quaters from her pussy and paid me as open minded as I am I would be on the phone faster than you could blink with the cops. In no way is this the same as a me kneeling in a restraint or kissing my Master.

nika Phoenix's deviant




SarahGirl -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/30/2005 4:53:01 PM)

What dov I find humiliating? Having to go to school every day - its crap!


They dont know anything worth knowing at all!





glassdoll -> RE: What acts are humiliating to you? (4/30/2005 4:57:56 PM)

1. anything involving a toilet.
2. being critized in public
3. being nude in front of a large group of people.




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