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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

Suppose you like physically stricking him. Will you strike him in a manner he enjoys or will you strike him in a manner that he does not enjoy thus ensuring you get what you want but denying him?

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

Suppose you like physically stricking him. Will you strike him in a manner he enjoys or will you strike him in a manner that he does not enjoy thus ensuring you get what you want but denying him?

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

If he's getting punished, it's not going to be for his enjoyment.

I was not speaking of punishment but physical impact play.
What say you?

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

Insofar as I'm concerned, I would want to optimize the experience for the both of us.



This is where pro-active safe words serve the purpose of providing feedback from bottom to Top, or regular interactive verbal communication is fine, whether in words or by vocalizing sounds. Signaling can be utilized.



It would serve no purpose for me to try to diminish my sub's enjoyment, unless he were being disciplined. If you can picture an upwardly moving spiral within a closed-loop system, our energies feed off of one another symbiotically and synergistically.

Here I would prefer the word symbiatic or mutual symbiosis as opposed to symbiosis which icludes both parasitic and mutual symbiosis.
Other than that tiny bit of pedantry we are on the same page.

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx


I'm a femdom, and I have a fantasy. My fantasy is to coerce a man into surrendering his comfort, pride and freedom for my arousal. Any compromise of that and guess what - I am not serving my own dominant desires. I'm just servicing him.

The solution? I match up best with men who get off on surrender. Not on fetishes. Men who have fetishes should seek out women with THOSE fetishes. Plenty of subs honestly get off on surrender to a woman's cruel urges and not knowing or having control is their kink.


I think the issue is not so much that you want x and he wants x but rather just how x is applied.
Suppose you like physically stricking him. Will you strike him in a manner he enjoys or will you strike him in a manner that he does not enjoy thus ensuring you get what you want but denying him?

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

I'm very selective with my subs NOR do I NEED them, like I don't NEED anyone.

Bullshit. Everyone needs someone.


I can choose to engage or disengage. It is a bad idea for a sub to consider themselves as an inherent need for a D, the moment he does I'd probably disengage.


How,exactly, can a pitcher exist without a catcher?

Wanna be a part of my world? Awesome, we play by my rules. Not good enough for you? There's the exit.

If you take your marbles and go home then you can with yourself.

It is all about the control factor so why surrender that because I'm worried my pet may run away if my entire life and existence circumvents it?

Why do you feel that you would be surrendering the control factor by being respectful of your subs needs?

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There are a LOT of things an authentic, born, kinky 100% sub guy can offer that a vanilla guy can't in the bdsm realm -- namely, a understanding that kink isn't just a diversion but it's WHO I am -- and vanilla guys often have a ton of limits. But saying if a femdom can't get a sub partner she's destined to be alone - that's just not true.

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

[FieryOpal:] Okay, let me fix that.

I have handcuffs and leg irons.
Don't threaten me unless you are serious.

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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko

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ORIGINAL: FightingChains

I've said it before and I'll say it again. You are pathetic. You treat people like dirt. You are one of those few people in life who truly deserves a reality check cos you seriously need one. I don't care whether you give a damn about what I say, someone has to tell self absorbed children to get over themselves. I don't expect you to listen to a word I say because from your perspective the only person who matters on earth is you. But take it as you will.

I treat people like dirt, LOL...who have I treated like dirt exactly? You are the one indulging in petty name calling and as I stated before you are nothing to me but another faceless entity on the internet so nothing you say will elicit much more than a yawn. GROW UP.
And your IQ is 157 so it's 14 points higher than a 14 year old who was reading Shakespeare at 4 and is currently trying to cure cancer. Congratulations! :)
This is according to what test? There are only two that matter.
Nevermind, loss of interest.

The irony honestly makes me laugh throatily.

And Akasha as it seems, we are on the same page pretty consistently. :)

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

I'm very selective with my subs NOR do I NEED them, like I don't NEED anyone.

Bullshit. Everyone needs someone.


I can choose to engage or disengage. It is a bad idea for a sub to consider themselves as an inherent need for a D, the moment he does I'd probably disengage.


How,exactly, can a pitcher exist without a catcher?

Wanna be a part of my world? Awesome, we play by my rules. Not good enough for you? There's the exit.

If you take your marbles and go home then you can with yourself.

It is all about the control factor so why surrender that because I'm worried my pet may run away if my entire life and existence circumvents it?

Why do you feel that you would be surrendering the control factor by being respectful of your subs needs?

Question was not directed at me, but I will answer.

A femdom can do fine without male subs in her world. She dominates, seduces, coerces vanilla men. Trust me, most vanilla men squeal with glee at the idea that they are hooking up with a sadistic, demanding, creative, "KINKY" woman. The problem is just a different flavor - making them understand it's not like the movies, that kinky doesn't mean "easy," and that S&M doesn't mean he gets tied up and given a blow job.

But if there is incredible chemistry and attraction and clicking on all levels, vanilla guys make amazing kinky partners. I can't speak for all femdoms, but I am not shy about approaching men or pursuing men. It's in my nature. Men, in general, enjoy being pursued. Men who are more dominant and toppish give off that vibe early on in flirtation and it's easy to spot them. Go for the quiet, shy, nervous one. If he isn't submissive, he will be by the time I am done with him.

There are a LOT of things an authentic, born, kinky 100% sub guy can offer that a vanilla guy can't in the bdsm realm -- namely, a understanding that kink isn't just a diversion but it's WHO I am -- and vanilla guys often have a ton of limits. But saying if a femdom can't get a sub partner she's destined to be alone - that's just not true.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

[FieryOpal:] Okay, let me fix that.

I have handcuffs and leg irons.
Don't threaten me unless you are serious.

Are they rabbit-fur lined? cuz I wouldn't want to hurt you, ya know.

Yes you do

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ORIGINAL: SubGuy4Life

Hello all,
This is my first post and although I have been on the collarme website for awhile I am now trying to become a more active member, I am however a novice and apologize if I offend anyone.

I have developed a deep craving/need to be a cuckold, but not the fake cuckold crap that comes up in a quick google search. I am seeking a Goddess to love and be loved by. Are they real Women out there that enjoy/want to be a cuckoldress, or is cuckold something that fake subs have twisted and warped so much that a Mistress hears cuckold and runs for the hills? I am not a cross dresser, sissy, nor do I consider myself gay in the slightest fashion. I have always toughly enjoyed sex and I think the combination of that and wanting to a submissive drives my desire to be a cuckold. For example it could be said that sex is the thing I want most, giving control of that to a Mistress is submission. Then to add on to the fact that she takes what I want most and teases me about having sex with other people is ultimate submission. I am not saying I never want sex (quite the contrary) but I think there would be a huge power exchange there. Which I think is what drives women to be dominate. Am I crazy/ making any sense? How do I get past the stereotypical crap that is associated to find a Mistress that is looking for similar things and not the fake money grabbing people on here? Is my idea even real or has it been also warped by the fake crap, ie maybe I am looking for something that isn't real. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, or at least to know there are like minded people like me.

Thank you all for your time!