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ORIGINAL: drewtoserve

Hi everyone. I have been on this site for a while and am having trouble finding a lifestyle mistress, not just someone whom (who) says they are a mistress and only in it for the money. I am not cheap and take good care of the people around me but tome (to me), most of the please (pleasure) I derive from serving a mistress is the fact that I am bringing HER pleasure. I'm looking for a Mistress who truly enjoys disciplining and humiliating! Someone who gets aroused by controlling and spanking, whipping or humiliating me. Giving myself to someone in that way is where I derive my pleaseure.(pleasure).
Where are these beautiful ladies?

Where you find them. Don't be a device that requires quarters and a pull on a handle (unless you're providing the quarters).

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ORIGINAL: missbrownjinx

Dark Steven is quite correct.

As a lifestyle domme myself, it is just as hard to find a suitable sub.

I can't be arsed to read the OS' profile but from the other posters' comments he sounds like the typical with unrealistic expectations.

If you want a relationship with a lifestyle domme, you accept what that domme's kinks are and what SHE wants. In case of a pay by the hour pro-domme, then you have some leeway to 'dictate' your interaction.

Put on your big girl panties and choose which one you want.

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ORIGINAL: Killerangel


OP, it's a common statement from male subs that they cannot find a Domme. The fact is that there aren't many of them around in general, and there certainly aren't many, if any at all, looking to fulfill a stranger's sexual fantasy just because.

Men tend to come here thinking that what they see in porn is real-it's not. The 'beautiful ladies' walking around in boots and leather that enjoy disciplining and humiliating panting men that they don't know, exist in your head. Ask yourself why a strange woman would want to spend her time getting you off? Does that idea even make sense?

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Fella, hire a pro. Seriously.

Your post says you want a women who'll play with you.

Your profile says how YOU want to serve. Not how she wants to be served. The way to serve a Domme on her terms is to make her laugh, take her out, spend time with her, hold conversations with her. Oh, yeah, the play stuff too - but that's the dessert, not the main course.

Seeing what you want is just play, it'd be a lot easier to just pay a pro.

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Where are these beautiful ladies?

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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Fella, hire a pro. Seriously.

Your post says you want a women who'll play with you.

Your profile says how YOU want to serve. Not how she wants to be served. The way to serve a Domme on her terms is to make her laugh, take her out, spend time with her, hold conversations with her. Oh, yeah, the play stuff too - but that's the dessert, not the main course.

Seeing what you want is just play, it'd be a lot easier to just pay a pro.

DarkSteven is one of the extremely few men who gets it. He is always spot on. He is like a gyno guru. Exactly as he said, I started reading your profile and at first thought "OK, he seems decent" and then that slowly converted to disgust. Yes, actual disgust. It's not about your looks or money UNLESS she's a pro or fin, hello! You are pretty much painting up scripts and scenes from fantasies for her to fulfill. Hire someone. It's what you are seeking, a professional. So you will attract them and NOT Lifestyle, yuck, LOL.
Also MsJinx, your avatar...no offense, but make it go away please. Pretty sure it violates TOS for images and no one wants to see that. Just helping you out dear. <3

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ORIGINAL: missbrownjinx

My profile photo seems to offend a lot of people's sensibilities. (I changed it by the way ) I also noticed in other threads there's a lot of sex-negative bias. E.g. a female poster who was told by more than one person that her journal entries were 'too sexual'. Lot of horseshit in my opinion.

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ORIGINAL: drewtoserve

Hi everyone. I have been on this site for a while and am having trouble finding a lifestyle mistress, not just someone whom says they are a mistress and only in it for the money. I am not cheap and take good care of the people around me but tome, most of the please I derive from serving a mistress is the fact that I am bringing HER pleasure. I'm looking for a Mistress who truly enjoys disciplining and humiliating! Someone who gets aroused by controlling and spanking, whipping or humiliating me. Giving myself to someone in that way is where I derive my pleaseure.
Where are these beautiful ladies?

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Fella, hire a pro. Seriously.

Your post says you want a women who'll play with you.

Your profile says how YOU want to serve. Not how she wants to be served. The way to serve a Domme on her terms is to make her laugh, take her out, spend time with her, hold conversations with her. Oh, yeah, the play stuff too - but that's the dessert, not the main course.

Seeing what you want is just play, it'd be a lot easier to just pay a pro.

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ORIGINAL: TinkerHell

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Fella, hire a pro. Seriously.

Your post says you want a women who'll play with you.

Your profile says how YOU want to serve. Not how she wants to be served. The way to serve a Domme on her terms is to make her laugh, take her out, spend time with her, hold conversations with her. Oh, yeah, the play stuff too - but that's the dessert, not the main course.

Seeing what you want is just play, it'd be a lot easier to just pay a pro.

You make me sigh in an old fashioned girlish kind of way. You should be bottled up and sold as an antidote to "the stupid".