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ORIGINAL: TinkerHell

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ORIGINAL: drewtoserve

Hi everyone. I have been on this site for a while and am having trouble finding a lifestyle mistress, not just someone whom says they are a mistress and only in it for the money. I am not cheap and take good care of the people around me but tome, most of the please I derive from serving a mistress is the fact that I am bringing HER pleasure. I'm looking for a Mistress who truly enjoys disciplining and humiliating! Someone who gets aroused by controlling and spanking, whipping or humiliating me. Giving myself to someone in that way is where I derive my pleaseure.
Where are these beautiful ladies?

We're in boxes on the shelves of Dommes R Us just waiting for the perfect male sub to come along with a head filled with scripts he's been masturbating to since puberty to pick one of us. We're to the left of the Fifis and one aisle to the right of the inflatable dolls that promise " to love you long time".

I have difficulty understanding the disconnect - why do people think that the D/s relationships are somehow less than regular relationships. Especially lifestyle BDSM - which is at its core a relationship. You want to be beaten, you want to be punished, you want to serve... guess how many messages I get a day when my profile is active that read just like your post? By the way...would you approach a chick you wanted to date with with a laundry list of your wants, needs and fantasies before you know her first name?

Let me turn it around for you... what about YOU would make it worth my while to single you out from the 15 new unread messages that have appeared in my inbox since I signed on a little while ago? What are you besides yet another middle aged guy looking to be spanked? What makes you interesting?

Finally on the subject of "money" - I used to think that this site was just infested with parasites, and it is. But there are also subs on here who think that every woman on here is for sale, available to the highest bidder? How exactly is that anything but insulting?

Do Male Dominants get the same kind of messages from women? Before I gave up on the idea of finding a male sub on here, my profile started with "DO NOT SEND ME EMAIL OFFERING ME MONEY" - which did nothing to stem the flow of "I want to spoil you" messages. I finally reached a point where I would send out a response with a wish list and the statement that I would only respond once I received a gift. That simple act put a stop to the multiple messages that I received from subs who couldn't be bothered to actually read my profile.

I realize you didn't ask for advice, you asked for a map where X marks the spot but I'm going to offer advice anyway. I suggest that you think about presenting yourself as a whole person - rather than just an Id that needs a Super Ego to smack it into submission.

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel
Integrity is I think the wrong word for what you're talking about, the word typically means something along the lines of consistently acting in accordance to ones principles.

No it does not.

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel
If ones principles involve imposing their sense of morality on others (which it has most places through most of human history) then integrity could well constitute bitching about something that differs from their own dynamic.

As could bank robbing by this definition

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Dude, most of us run around here with our fingers up our asses.........what's the big deal?