ExiledTyrant
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~FRing, cuz it's trendy.
I'm currently attempting to Pirate swagger my way on deck of a lovely little /spice trader ship, so we have a lot of communication going back and forth. After reading her profile, on the surface, we seem reasonably compatible, and me to her. However, as we move along through the Pirate Code Parley, there are steps I have to put in place to ensure that her visit is comfortable and safe. So I've been making a shopping list to meet her needs. She has some allergies I have to consider, pets being one and I just brought two kittens home. The pets aren't a real issue, I believe pets should be seen and never smelled... or any other evidence of their existence should be visible. The only difficulty is training them to bathe without homicidal freak outs. As for the rest of their presence, no big deal. I am meticulously clean, and tend to steam clean my furniture weekly.
I've looked at all the things that need to be adjusted/modified in my daily life and scrutinized them carefully. Some are new to me, but not deal breakers. She has an allergy that is pretty serious and I have two three options to deal with it:
1: give her her own bathroom.
2: do not use any product that contains the allergen.
3: Tell her this isn't going to work because this "inconvenience" is just to much for my self centered asshole disposition.
1 & 2 are the only viable options for me, I'm leaning more towards 2.
Now that all that blabbering is done... our profiles initiate compatibility, but time and communication does the rest. Allergies could be just as much of a deal breaker as an STD. People, all people, know what they will cope with and what they won't. If she had an STD I wouldn't call it a deal breaker before I educated myself. I abhor stupidity, and failing to educate myself would be stupid. If I were inclined to monogamy, an STD could be problematic, I want more children, but poly facilitates that if she were incapable. Being poly would require a great deal more caution when contending with an STD, but again, still not a deal breaker.
Thus far, we are an excellent match, but we're only in to our elbows and need to get up to the nose. A manageable STD still wouldn't be a deal breaker for me as long as it could be managed within our dynamic, didn't deprive me of needs, and I can accept it impairing wants. I could trade a pretty serious issue for great compatibility, but refuse to trade my happiness for anything.
Jus sayin
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RE: Should a person disclose... - 
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You also used a little sarcasm when you said, "You are braver than myself, I hate taking unnecessary risks." Which clearly interprets as, I do take unnecessary risks. 
. I like taking a risk, especially when the odds are in my favor
. Will that count for kinky Jeopardy? 
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