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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I'm fascinated by Maria's description of the British usage of kinkster vs fetishist. Because here it's almost the opposite. Kinkster is used widely but fetishist refers to a specific kind of person.

Once again, Churchill's quote about America and England being divided by a common language comes to mind.

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ORIGINAL: smileforme50

I was thinking recently about some of my previous play partners and boyfriends (vanilla but especially kink), and it occurred to me that they all seemed to have very strong preference for A very limited number of play and intimate activities. Four instance one guy I know all we ever did was spank me with wooden paddles, and then ass fuck.


This guy was totally into ass play and little else. A couple of other guys the only thing we ever did was me giving them oral (those relationships didn't last long). Another guy I knew, the only thing we ever did was me giving him a massage and a hand job.... Very rarely did we do anything else


Now as frustrating as it may have been to be giving him something all the time and never getting anything in return, what bothered me the most was the fact that these guys only ever wanted to do one or two things... while I was looking to try a variety of new things.


So I wanted to ask.... Have any of you ever had this experience where your partner has such a limited range of preferences and interestsń ( concerning sex and play) so that they just wanted to do the same few things all the time..... But you were looking for a bit more.........variety?

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ORIGINAL: smileforme50
I was thinking recently about some of my previous play partners and boyfriends (vanilla but especially kink), and it occurred to me that they all seemed to have very strong preference for A very limited number of play and intimate activities.