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ORIGINAL: SockySockSock

Update on the situation:

After almost 2 weeks of no contact, I sent her a mail explaining that I had reasons to go to the event that have nothing to do with her, but if she really wanted me to, I would not cancel attending to give her space. I wanted to see what her reaction would be, and whether she would have calmed down.

During this time, I had contacted one of the other event performers (we'll call her A) to cancel a (very small part) that I was due to play in her act, and that I might not go to the event because my ex was insisting that I don't go. Apart from this I didn't go into any details about our split.

She replied with a huge message saying things like "Why do I have to always think about your schedule and feelings? It is me that is angry, so until I contact you I want you to f!@k off. You got A involved in our private matter that has nothing to do with her. I'm angry that you told her we had an argument. Don't come! I was going to contact you the day before the event. I'm sad that you couldn't wait."

Each of the above things are repeated many times. I was going to paste it in here (edited for privacy) but it is just too long. Pasting it into Word, the entire message takes up a page (in 12 point font, no spacing between lines).

So far I haven't had the energy to reply. Until she says sorry, I don't want anything to do with her. I won't go to the event, because I worry that she start fighting with me in front of everyone.

So far I have not told anyone except A, and only because I had arranged something with her and didn't want to stand her up. But now I am considering telling everyone that she doesn't want me to come.

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I have not "run my mouth" to anyone about our personal business. Whenever anyone in the scene asks me, I have merely said that we have split up and she doesn't want me to come to her events or the big event (as these affect other people). I have not said anything else.