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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/16/2006 2:46:12 AM   
bbwsubinma


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Status: offline 		I have real world experience. 

Congradulations!  I am please to hear that you are not living in some fantasy world concocted in your own head.  However I do believe that the only ones without real world experience are fetuses.  What is the point of that statement anyway?  No really, I am curious.


Isn't this just taking a statement out of context just for the sake of a flame... It was readily apparent to me that he meant that he has experience as a dom in real life. 

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/16/2006 3:40:13 AM   
LaMalinche


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Status: offline 		No.  The original sentance was:

Ok...I may not have a degree...but I have been around a lot longer that some people.  I have things that can not be tough in colleges.  I have real world experience. 

The qualifer before was about education and learning, as there was no additional referent, in English, the real world experience refers to education.  The next sentence was a topic change.  The "I have real world experience" is another way of saying, "I have been through the school of hard knocks," or "I have street smarts." 

It was not a flame, it was a humorous way of pointing out the insupportability of his arguements.  Some call that wit.  Some call it being a smart-ass.  A flame from me would have said something along the lines of: 

As for the O.P., there are some wisdoms that spring to mind.  I rely here on the immortal words spoken by the game show host on Billy Madison:

"That is the most insanely stupid thing I have ever heard.  At no point in your endless rambling did you make anything that even resembled a coherent thought.  Everyone in this room is now dumber for having heard what you said.  I award you no points, and may god have mercy on your soul."

And the words of Cleveland from "Family Guy":

"...could you say that again?  I musta had something crazy in my ear."

And finally,the words of Monty from "Waiting...":

"[you] should be sterilized, and I'm not even joking." 

I'm  sure that if the O.P. scored a zero on his IQ test it was because he was cheating off the others in the classroom.  Goddamn that's a lot of stupid.  See it?  He got it all over the walls!


Did you bother to read the whole post?  Because if you did, you would note that I also gave a lot of advice, and invited the OP to take a look at my profile, and to come experience a board where he could meet many wonderful people that would likely be able to help him in his quandry. 

I hope that that clears things up for you.

And yes, that quote was actually in a post once. 


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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/17/2006 8:52:35 AM   
shivvy


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ORIGINAL: LaMalinche

LOL. . .

I likely would not have answered you emails either after reading your profile.

Saying that you have a need for a sub just turns me off.  I do not really enjoy being around people that are not self-sufficient and happy just being with themselves.  Also you give very little information about yourself, merely just come off sounding desperate. 

Also, saying that you can teach anything is arrogant and unlikely true.  I would like to learn to tango. . . can you teach that?  How about cannon specifications from the 17th century?  Military fortifications during the 30 years war?  Or perhaps how to keep women from returning to their abusers?  And these are just a couple of areas that I am working in learning things. 

Then again, if I received an email from you and it provide thought and interest for me, I might answer it. 




as a professor in europeon history and warfair, and a part time councillor, perhaps i could help?
 
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shiv
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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/17/2006 8:59:29 AM   
sapphirepleasure


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Status: offline 		hmmm.... you spelled European and warfare incorrectly so that's hard to believe.

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/17/2006 9:13:54 AM   
shivvy


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ORIGINAL: sapphirepleasure

hmmm.... you spelled European and warfare incorrectly so that's hard to believe.


sorry, i know LaMalinche. i woz trying to be funny and make light of the thread.
 
i'm a sub, and how i woulda responded to this has already been said several times. In my humble opinion, Doms should treat us as if we woz in the vanilla world, till we feel comfortable enuff to offa Them our submission. Until then, i think we're all pretty much equal.
 
i also admit to being not the brightest bulb in the box, but i shine in different areas
 
Howeva, i'm sorry if my remarks caused offence.
 
With respect,
 
shiv

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/17/2006 11:09:38 AM   
qwert


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Status: offline 		I think everyone on this site, as soon as they get rejected, go "wannabe!"

As many have stated in this thread, you may not be getting responses because of what you have written, they may not be attracted to you, you might be too far away, etc.

And saying that it's unnacceptable for a sub not to respond to a dom's e-mail?  Again, as stated, THAT is unnacceptable.  They are not YOUR sub therefore they have no obligation to you whatsoever.

As for profiles dissapearing... there's many reasons.  Again, as stated, they could have found a relationship, decided that this site wasn't for them, etc.

Also, for not meeting up when you say you will... again, things come up.  Sometimes red flags appear.  If you're ever nervous about meeting someone from the internet, don't.  Better to be too cautious than not careful enough.

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/17/2006 3:30:36 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		One in 6!!! Man, should I be taking LESSONS from you?
I get maybe 1 in 20 replies to e-mails.
But that's ok, I figure that if a sub see's my profile and likes it then she'll e-mail.
All I'm looking for is the one e-mail.
And out of courtessy I do answer all of my e-mails.

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/17/2006 5:04:57 PM   
pattiann


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ORIGINAL: JessieMe

Right on, Jessie.

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/17/2006 6:24:47 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Unfortunately it is true many subs do not answer email.  They possibly have family to take care of and in my own case a demanding career as well oh and of course all the family errands and travel for work and and and.  Sometimes there is just not enough time and it also seems that i get flooded with emails and then they slow down for a bit and then again flooded.  Just be patient.

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/17/2006 6:37:13 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I gotta agree qwert.  Damn, apparently no one gets rejected in any other area in their lives except here.  Oh, they do?  Well, then I guess getting rejected here shouldn't be such a big surprise then, should it?

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/18/2006 2:50:41 AM   
SoulfulSadism


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Status: offline 		Courtesy can be expected, Submission can't be demanded. Walk the line - don't uncork the whine

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/18/2006 3:47:00 AM   
wandering4u


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Status: offline 		Nicely put Soulful!  As in all phases of life, sometimes it works sometimes it don't.  In real -life I didn't always get a response - so this place should be different?  

Just be patient and courteous - the rest will come.

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/18/2006 5:51:48 AM   
LaMalinche


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Status: offline 		I just love whiney Doms!

Now if a sub whined to you, as a Dom, you would set something up some sort of plan or lifestyle change, with a punishment set in place for not meeting goals.  But a Dom, gets to whine at will. 

Sheesh. . . get over it. . . they just do not want to talk to you.

However, I have noticed that the OP has not responded again. . . he just wanted to put in his whine. . . something that he would not tolorate from a potential sub or a sub that he has in his collar.

Lack of consistancy people.

So you may as well stop giving advice. . . he knows it all, and just wants to bitch that he has not found his one and only in 7 weeks. 



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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/18/2006 7:55:18 AM   
M58DomFl


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Status: offline 		LaMalinche...I have been working long hours with little sleep since I last wrote.  You do have a caustic wit.  All I have been talking about is called common courtesy...it has nothing to do with being a sub or a Dom.  I've had my profile reviewed by a few sub friends and they don't find it 'out of the ordinary' or coming on too strong.  I've talked on the phone to bbwinma.  We've been more than friends for over 4 yrs.  She is one of those that has a lot of problems with her computer so she has not been able to get back to you.  I still think that there are a lot of 'wanna-bes' and players here.  J

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/18/2006 11:28:17 AM   
Owned1


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Status: offline 		I just need to say something here, but i am not sure how to say it without it coming off as a bash to the poster.  I know i dont have a pic on my profile, however if i was to have a pic i would put one that would show me in a positive light.  In all honesty to view your profile and pic M58DomFl does not instill in my someone i would want to give myself to.  (that could just be me i dont know).  When one looks at your pic it appears if you are in a seniors home or something of that sort (the background scene) As well i would suggest a clean shaven, polished look.  I know we all talk about not worrying about the superficial and the package, and I am one who agrees with that, however if you are going fishing you need fresh bait.

Everyone is attractive in their own way, the mind is the most attractive and erotic organ we have however we all need to look our best inorder to garner attraction.  Shoot even in the animal world the better looking animals get the better looking mates.

I do not mean to offend simply to offer a suggestion.

owned

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/18/2006 3:04:26 PM   
Lidh2l


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Status: offline 		On the one hand, this is a dating site, so what we are about to say is a little short-sighted in light of this fact.  Mea culpa pluralis, but deal with it.

On the other hand, why is everyone so hurried to get into a relationship?  Patience is one of those really attractive virtues, and when someone sits here and whines about "nobody's responding to me", it isn't very attractive.  It comes off as saturating the site to get more noticed.  Attention getting is SO not attractive, especially in Doms and Dommes.  To be fair, we still have yet to see a Domme whine in this manner, but we guess anything could happen.  Be patient, have fun on the boards, and don't sweat it when a message you send out is unanswered.  People "unjoin", delete their profiles, set their profiles to invisible mode, or plain just don't answer mesages.  Life happens, too, so don't be so judgemental.  It isn't all about you.  Sometimes a response is impossible because of other responsibilities.

Of course, judging by your picture, time may very well be an important factor.

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/18/2006 3:48:04 PM   
afeathr


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ORIGINAL: lilninotchka

There was this meeting set up once in real life - i called the gentleman just hours before we were supposed to meet, telling him that i had just totalled my car and was headed to the hospital with my kids, who were in the car and wouldn't be able to make it...i got called all kind of 'wanna-be' and other assorted names i won't bore you with here, i offered him proof in the form of a police report and pics of my poor t-bird all to no avail - sometimes things are just not what you choose to see them as...and then sometimes they are. Nobody can actually say for sure what happened except the ones involved - just let it go and move on. Why bother stressing over it?


The fact that he didn't believe you when you said you were in an accident and then still didn't believe you with PROOF??  You are right... no sense stressing over it.  I will only go so far to prove my innocence, per se, because there is only so much that I should be 'required' to do that early in the relationship.  And, anyone that is *that* rude when there are injuries involved (whether it's true or not) doesn't deserve the time of day anyway.  I can't imagine what life would be like with someone so uncaring and idiotic.

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/18/2006 3:56:44 PM   
afeathr


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Status: offline 		I am not a wanna-be or a fake.  I don't get a million emails (and not because I am not pretty), and I answer every email I do get.  I am always polite.  I see no reason to be otherwise.  If the person did not read my profile, that is their problem (and yes I point it out to them in a *polite* way).  I rarely get anyone trying to *Dom* me via email, though I have had a few get miffed when I reject them - even politely.  It's a personal slam to some when they get rejected... *that* I cannot help nor change.  *Shrug*

Why *other* subs/slaves do not respond may have to do with what another poster said about not knowing how to politely say no.  I would imagine that would more than likely be the case... or not.  Who really knows why people do what they do...?  In any case, the fact that you are getting 1 out of 6 to respond and maybe create a connection should be something to celebrate.  Even as a sub I don't get that sort of response even when I *am* looking.

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/18/2006 4:02:26 PM   
afeathr


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ORIGINAL: Owned1

I just need to say something here, but i am not sure how to say it without it coming off as a bash to the poster.  I know i dont have a pic on my profile, however if i was to have a pic i would put one that would show me in a positive light.  In all honesty to view your profile and pic M58DomFl does not instill in my someone i would want to give myself to.  (that could just be me i dont know).  When one looks at your pic it appears if you are in a seniors home or something of that sort (the background scene) As well i would suggest a clean shaven, polished look.  I know we all talk about not worrying about the superficial and the package, and I am one who agrees with that, however if you are going fishing you need fresh bait.

Everyone is attractive in their own way, the mind is the most attractive and erotic organ we have however we all need to look our best inorder to garner attraction.  Shoot even in the animal world the better looking animals get the better looking mates.

I do not mean to offend simply to offer a suggestion.

owned


I could not agree more, Owned.  This is a wonderful piece of advice.  Sir has a *very* interesting pic on his profile, and why the women don't flock to him is beyond me, but... I can't say that I am not glad! <huge smile>

No matter *what* you look like, an interesting or appealing profile pic is very important... not a fake or one that misrepresents you, but one that is going to encourage the person looking at it to go on and look harder.

But... this is really another post, isn't it??

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RE: Disappearing subs...want-to-be's? - 7/19/2006 7:16:58 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		I used to politely say "No, thank you" to the emails I received. I quickly learned that the person on the end saw that as an opening to argue with me about that "No". You very quickly learn not to respond back to the people you're not interested in.

So much for "no means no".

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