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TimYearneau -> Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/10/2015 6:56:26 PM)
I'm new to this place so I'm not sure where to post this. If this is a repeated question, or if the community feels it's a stupid question, I'll delete it, if that's possible. In real life if someone automatically brings up money they are usually poor people who are needy. I understand that a pro-dominant woman is using this site to get more clients and make money. So when I read her profile I make sure she isn't a pro. Every dominant woman I've encountered on this site, as well as another site, always bring up the issue they want to be paid, even though she isn't a pro. No where do I ever mention I'm willing to pay. I went to a BDSM event and there was only one Dominant woman. I approached her and she immediately gave me her card and said she requires tribute if I want to talk to her. I've never come across people who want to get paid like this. But I do come across poor people who ask for money. Are dominant women tend to be financially strapped?

Zonie63 -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/10/2015 7:23:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TimYearneau I'm new to this place so I'm not sure where to post this. If this is a repeated question, or if the community feels it's a stupid question, I'll delete it, if that's possible. I think there's a time limit of an hour that you can edit or delete the post. It might not be a bad idea, since this is an oft-repeated question.

peppermint -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/10/2015 8:10:11 PM)
Go to other BDSM events. Go to any munches you can get to. Attend events. There are Dominant Women who are looking for a relationship. There are Dominant Women who are looking for that one special person they can fall in love with, start a family with, and dominate in a way that is pleasurable to both of you. Going to one event and meeting one lady does not mean every event and every lady is the same. As in any relationship finding that special person may take months or even years. A lot depends on how much time you are willing to give to seek that one special someone.

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/10/2015 8:13:29 PM)
I'm a Fin Domme. And I have a successful career, completely unrelated to BDSM. I live in an upscale neighborhood in a great apartment. I'm not rich but I lead a very comfortable lifestyle and would continue to without findom. So no, all dominant women are not poor. In fact, most lifestyle Dommes that I have encountered are generally pretty successful in terms of their careers. I don't want to make a sweeping generalization but the ones I have met have been very "take charge" women. Girls asking you sign up for cam sites or offering web shows for money, while they might not be poor, are probably not doing it for their enjoyment. But not all Dommes are Pros or Fin Dommes.

Wayward5oul -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/10/2015 8:31:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TimYearneau Every dominant woman I've encountered on this site, as well as another site, always bring up the issue they want to be paid, even though she isn't a pro. I don't go looking at female profiles on this site, but I do on another site where I have friends, and none of them ask for money or tribute. But I know on here it is rampant. quote: I went to a BDSM event and there was only one Dominant woman. I approached her and she immediately gave me her card and said she requires tribute if I want to talk to her. I've never gone to a BDSM event and encountered a Domme doing this. I know pros, and have sent clients their way. I have socialized online and off with pros. And have never seen this type of behavior.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/10/2015 9:20:51 PM)
No.

TimYearneau -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/10/2015 11:58:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul I don't go looking at female profiles on this site, but I do on another site where I have friends, and none of them ask for money or tribute. But I know on here it is rampant. What site do you go to?

MiaCastle -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/11/2015 12:29:16 AM)
It's more common in your age group for the girls to be findoms. Your profile doesn't say much other than you're looking for a mistress. You might try improving your profile so that you stand out and appear to be someone that the few that are lifestyle, might see something they could relate to. Especially with that last picture you have. That brings to mind a couple of things that might prevent a dominant from making contact with you no matter what your profile reads like. This isn't a drive up window where you put your order in and you get a bag of bad for you food. You have to sell yourself in a sense. You aren't doing that. What you are doing is showing that you want a woman, a dominant woman, but may not know what a dominant woman is if you don't show anything more than a desire for a female. A dominant woman isn't going to waste her time with someone that doesn't make an effort. She is looking for a man that she could be proud to have beside her or kneeling in front of her. Many men show their body parts faster than they will show who they are. If you learned medical terminology, you can learn this too. I forgot something. Poor people don't always ask for money. Poor people become so in many ways and it could happen to anyone with the right circumstances. If they have a computer or a phone and online service, have pretty pictures and seem greedy, you are not talking to a real poor person most of the time. Like I said, it can happen to anyone and they had those things and money but don't now or are losing it somehow. The one factor that is still there is greed or the lack of it. We are all a little greedy, but there is a difference between that and the kind of greed that doesn't see anyone other than themselves.

ShadowStirling -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/12/2015 8:52:23 AM)
Perhaps try to think of it this way. Most men who call themselves submissive have particular fantasies they wanted acted out in a particular way by a woman who looks/dresses exactly right. So without a previous relationship with said man (aka, a desire to make the man happy) why should a woman do what this man wants? I mean, as a dominant woman isn't she in essence looking to do what she wants? So unless you're giving her a very good reason to drop her fantasies, and run with yours instead then why oh why should she participate?

TimYearneau -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/12/2015 11:04:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShadowStirling Perhaps try to think of it this way. Most men who call themselves submissive have particular fantasies they wanted acted out in a particular way by a woman who looks/dresses exactly right. So without a previous relationship with said man (aka, a desire to make the man happy) why should a woman do what this man wants? I mean, as a dominant woman isn't she in essence looking to do what she wants? So unless you're giving her a very good reason to drop her fantasies, and run with yours instead then why oh why should she participate? I never tell the women "I'm looking for you to make me happy." I'm not telling them, "Do what I want." I agree with you, that the dominant woman in essence is looking to do what she wants. I don't state anywhere to the contrary. I've never met anyone in my life who asks for money, except poor and/or needy people. As a matter of fact, if I offered money to a woman to make "me happy" she would slap me in the face and say she isn't a whore.

RockaRolla -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/12/2015 4:37:12 PM)
Well what is your approach? Because often it happens that the male s-types who complain about Dommes asking for money are the ones treating Dommes as if they are on-demand fetish dispensers.

ShadowStirling -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/12/2015 9:14:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TimYearneau I never tell the women "I'm looking for you to make me happy." I'm not telling them, "Do what I want." I agree with you, that the dominant woman in essence is looking to do what she wants. I don't state anywhere to the contrary. I've never met anyone in my life who asks for money, except poor and/or needy people. As a matter of fact, if I offered money to a woman to make "me happy" she would slap me in the face and say she isn't a whore. You're completely missing the point. I'm not saying that submissive men overtly go up to women and say "I want you to be my service top and do X,Y and Z sexual things to me on these particular days." They do however, on average, completely ignore the fact that dominant women are people, with their own desires and wants. This has led to women realizing that such men are not fit for relationships and therefor the only way these men can get their desire for domination met is to pay for it in cash. Many dominant women ask for money, not because they are poor, but because it's the only thing that makes interacting with fetishistic, selfish men even a little bit worthwhile. And if the vast majority of Dommes are jaded and lump all submissive men into the "fetishistic and selfish" group, then you should be taking a long hard look at the behaviour of your fellow man which prompted such an attitude.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/14/2015 7:37:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TimYearneau I'm new to this place so I'm not sure where to post this. If this is a repeated question, or if the community feels it's a stupid question, I'll delete it, if that's possible. In real life if someone automatically brings up money they are usually poor people who are needy. I understand that a pro-dominant woman is using this site to get more clients and make money. So when I read her profile I make sure she isn't a pro. Every dominant woman I've encountered on this site, as well as another site, always bring up the issue they want to be paid, even though she isn't a pro. No where do I ever mention I'm willing to pay. I went to a BDSM event and there was only one Dominant woman. I approached her and she immediately gave me her card and said she requires tribute if I want to talk to her. I've never come across people who want to get paid like this. But I do come across poor people who ask for money. Are dominant women tend to be financially strapped? Yes. The average net worth of a 35 year old Dominant woman is currently $11,473.17. (Of course, that's based on 2010 Census data...the numbers could be different today).

RemoteUser -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/14/2015 7:38:58 PM)
I'm poor, but happy (by and large).

VeryMercurial -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/14/2015 8:48:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShadowStirling Perhaps try to think of it this way. Most men who call themselves submissive have particular fantasies they wanted acted out in a particular way by a woman who looks/dresses exactly right. So without a previous relationship with said man (aka, a desire to make the man happy) why should a woman do what this man wants? I mean, as a dominant woman isn't she in essence looking to do what she wants? So unless you're giving her a very good reason to drop her fantasies, and run with yours instead then why oh why should she participate? Many of the "submissive" men on here, are looking for a fetish/fantasy providers. There is a large supply of them, and also a large supply of women willing to provide them with "services" for a fee. Economics--- supply and demand. How many women are going to dress up, buy a bunch of gear/and toys, and "service" men/cater to fantasies for FREE? If you want to "play" go to a play party or a munch. If you want a girlfriend/a loving or serious relationship, you find someone looking for the same thing.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/15/2015 5:08:46 AM)
My answer to this was short and simple but seeing as you seem to not understand I will go ahead and explain a few things (IMNSHO) You don't have to tell any of us ladies what you want. We already know. We know within two minutes of reading whatever message you send us. You know damn good and well that you do want a woman to make you happy. If you didn't you wouldn't be trying to find one so just stop it with that nonsense. Get over the money thing. Some women want it some women don't. This is fact. You can't go telling anyone, male or female, that you will give them everything and leave out money. Your repeated comments about money here just make you look like you don't have any on the same level you are implying about others. This is the internet. For every three strangers you meet at least two of them are lying to you. Get used to that. And about your offering money comment. HA, offer me money to make you happy. I am not a whore but for the right amount I would promise to make you happy. Of course I wouldn't really care if you were. I would more than likely just end up roping you to a tree, beating you, and explaining to you why you are foolish. I would enjoy it and wouldn't really care how you feel. Women come in all shades and all stripes. You should be very careful what you assume about any of us. *oh and because this might be the only part you really understand" Stop trying to "talk" to girls that are 22, five foot two, and weigh 112 lbs. If you reach for something online that you couldn't get in the real world you really shouldn't be shocked when you feel like you are talking to a con artist. p.s. Your profile screams "I want free kink" Fill it out (and no I don't care that you don't want to have to define yourself in a little box)

LovelyLavender15 -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/17/2015 7:49:54 PM)
When I read your whole message, I don't like the overall tone of it. It's sounds like a a left- handed way of being disrespectful to these dommes. I think it's time for you to go back in your cage.

DaddySatyr -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/17/2015 10:02:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TimYearneau In real life if someone automatically brings up money they are usually poor people who are needy. I understand that a pro-dominant woman is using this site to get more clients and make money. So when I read her profile I make sure she isn't a pro. Every dominant woman I've encountered on this site, as well as another site, always bring up the issue they want to be paid, even though she isn't a pro. No where do I ever mention I'm willing to pay. Many people use the internet to advance many of their wants and desires. You're using it to "put yourself out there" to find a mistress. That a ton of people have found sites like this to be a cash cow is not surprising. quote: ORIGINAL: TimYearneau I went to a BDSM event and there was only one Dominant woman. I approached her and she immediately gave me her card and said she requires tribute if I want to talk to her. I've never come across people who want to get paid like this. But I do come across poor people who ask for money. Are dominant women tend to be financially strapped? Whether or not they're strapped for cash, you're not running into "poor" women; just whores. Michael

FriendlyMuppet -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/17/2015 10:54:04 PM)
I've been to numerous social events where there are dominant women, and to be honest, I can count on one hand how many times I've come across a woman who is cruising for money. For the most part, what I have found are women who are looking for potential partners, men and/or women, and it's little different from a venue in the vanilla world (the kink is just understood to be a part of the community). It really sounds like the OP just happened to be at the one event where there was a professional (or a not so professional professional) who was seeking clients rather than being there for the enjoyment of the event alone. And if that was a norm for that particular event, then I have nothing negative to say about it (some venues do cater to that...not enough information was really given from the original post).

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (7/18/2015 5:48:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr quote: ORIGINAL: TimYearneau In real life if someone automatically brings up money they are usually poor people who are needy. I understand that a pro-dominant woman is using this site to get more clients and make money. So when I read her profile I make sure she isn't a pro. Every dominant woman I've encountered on this site, as well as another site, always bring up the issue they want to be paid, even though she isn't a pro. No where do I ever mention I'm willing to pay. Many people use the internet to advance many of their wants and desires. You're using it to "put yourself out there" to find a mistress. That a ton of people have found sites like this to be a cash cow is not surprising. quote: ORIGINAL: TimYearneau I went to a BDSM event and there was only one Dominant woman. I approached her and she immediately gave me her card and said she requires tribute if I want to talk to her. I've never come across people who want to get paid like this. But I do come across poor people who ask for money. Are dominant women tend to be financially strapped? Whether or not they're strapped for cash, you're not running into "poor" women; just whores. Michael That's pretty harsh.

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