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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

All the Findommes + all their profiles + all their post + all the nonsense the combination thereof causes can't compete with the chaos 50 Shades of Grey fans did to this place.

As I mentioned in my -=Money Pigs/FinDomery - real fetish or fake? (soapbox)=- thread, I can't find verification that exchanging cash is a real fetish. It's an adult entertainment business, not BDSM and I am annoyed that its' purveyors pretend it's BDSM.

However, if there was a magic button and I could only remove Findomery or 50 Shades of Grey... I would erase the book. Our community and our culture would better off. It took many years for FD to annoy me enough to make a post about it. It only took a couple months to be annoyed by the impact of 50 Shades of Grey.

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

Oh? So you are saying that Collarspace.com is permitting this soliciting of sex industry workers? Because if that's the case then I think the users should be made aware of the intentions of this site. I personally dont want to be a member of a website that pretends to be a place for people with shared interests can connect and is really just a vehicle for gathering leads on potential customers for sex industry workers. You know, those are two very different things and collarspace.com should not tricking people into being bombarded by solicitors.


So the problem still lies... Indeed you are correct and that is precisely what I wanted to get at. Why is collarspace.com permitting it? Why then is the sites intention so misleading? Who likes being tricked like that?

Because it couldn't possibly serve both functions? Let people connect with and without money?

Face it, princess, the site does not exist for your sole pleasure. Ignore the profiles that don't suit your needs, or quit.

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

you are perfectly free to leave...but before you do, please show me one free website out there that does not have ....."sex workers" amongst the members, especially an adult only site.
The site is full of scammers of all kinds..predators, wankers, hookers, crazies and abusers. you want to legislate morality on a BDSM site?
Plus what Maria said.

Until recently there was a fora section for professional services.

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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

you are perfectly free to leave...but before you do, please show me one free website out there that does not have ....."sex workers" amongst the members, especially an adult only site.
The site is full of scammers of all kinds..predators, wankers, hookers, crazies and abusers. you want to legislate morality on a BDSM site?
Plus what Maria said.

Until recently there was a fora section for professional services.

Am I also imperfectly free to stay? Not that this is relevant to the original question. I'll play along just in case there some connection I don't see.

You are trying to make the connection when its a simple as the nose on your face...


What's with the quotes around the term SEX WORKERS? And your punctuation? Incomplete sentences? What do ".." and "...." mean to you? In English they mean nothing and are just incorrect use of the period or ellipses. And why are you uses the ellipses to omit something you are saying as if it isn't relevant. Are you letting us know that while typing you had a thought but it wasn't related, so you decided to leave it out? Either way, I'm sure it's better off left out, so thanks for sparing us. Is it the number of periods represents the length of the omitted thought? Or did you confuse two periods, ".." with the colon ":" perhaps? Because you don't form a sentence with a list separated by comas, so the colon would have made sense. You just have it turned on it's side, which is not a punctuation mark.

PS I have a few paralysed fingers, but please take the piss out of my punctuation and grammar, it makes what you spout so much more...Important. NOT.

Okay back to trying to understand what it is your attempting to call me out on. SEX WORKERS! Does this term bother you? I don't understand the quotes at all. What do they mean? You can't be quoting me directly because I used the term SEX INDUSTRY WORKER. Hmmmmmm. I am guessing that you have some sort of negative connotation you associate with the term, as the common theme here with people is negativity! Well, shake it out! Shake that negativity right out your skull. The term SEX WORKER was coined by Carol Leigh. She was an activist for the rights of "sex workers." The term "sex worker" is the term that has been adopted and accepted by "sex workers" and the whole industry. So the term "sex worker" is the political correct term for a "sex worker" and therefore does not inherently have any negative connotation with it. So any that you think is there, is your own ignorance.

You are so very wrong, I started out in this lifestyle learning from prodommes, Ive been on the fringe of sex industry worker on and off since i was 19. I know many still in the area, as well as pro subs dancers, hookers, cam girls and findommes. I have nothing against women doing what they choose to do with their lives. Its called CHOICE and I am VERY pro choice.


Lol! " scammers of all kinds..predators, wankers, hookers, crazies and abusers. you want to legislate morality on a BDSM site?" The fact that you think those types of people and BDSM are one thing is perfect! Lol.
I never said they were one thing, that would be idiotic. For you to assume that I meant that, means you jump to some really dumb assumptions.

And then you seem to feel that morality is the opposite of BDSM. I would say, and most would agree that morality usually come down to respecting other people. Do onto other as you want done to you, right? So let's say morality = respect. Morality doesnt = respect.

So you are asking me if I want respect among people that particapatePARTICIPATE in an online BDSM community? What does it matter what I want? And are you seriously asking this question? BDSM is all about respect! Respecting kinks, fetishes, limits, boundaries, similarities, differences, threshold, likes, dislikes, interests, turn-ons, turn-offs, etc.
You havent been around long have you. There is just as much "false" morality in the BDSM community(hah) as there is in politics.
You earn respect, it isn't given ....courteousness? maybe, civility? yes, to begin with. Stop trying to teach your granny to suck eggs.

Until recently I gave people too much credit! Silly me.
yeah silly you

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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

Oh? So you are saying that Collarspace.com is permitting this soliciting of sex industry workers? Because if that's the case then I think the users should be made aware of the intentions of this site. I personally dont want to be a member of a website that pretends to be a place for people with shared interests can connect and is really just a vehicle for gathering leads on potential customers for sex industry workers. You know, those are two very different things and collarspace.com should not tricking people into being bombarded by solicitors.


So the problem still lies... Indeed you are correct and that is precisely what I wanted to get at. Why is collarspace.com permitting it? Why then is the sites intention so misleading? Who likes being tricked like that?

Because it couldn't possibly serve both functions? Let people connect with and without money?

Face it, princess, the site does not exist for your sole pleasure. Ignore the profiles that don't suit your needs, or quit.

Look Boss,

This is not about self preservation here. I'm fighting the good fight for the good of all good people! Lol.

I don't know if it can function serving both functions! I'm not even trying to have that conversation! You quoted me on a response to someone that presented some of their thoughts in which I responded to because that's how communication works. Let's also not forget my response was hypothetical.

Might be good to remember that I only pose a question. I don't know why you assume my position on the topic. I did not share my opinion and I did not ask for anyone else's! I took documented information and posted it here asking why it seemed to conflict with the current status of many user profiles.

Where the fuck do I mention my needs? What are you talking about? Why do so many of you add to the conversation by projecting your own bullshit onto what other people say. Or does it make you feel good to attack people with attempts to pick apart everything they write as if that makes you look intelligent. You know how easy it is to be critical of other people? It's so easy, that people who are critical of others, often projecting their own flaws, are considered to be of poor character.

And why are you telling me to leave the site? Why do people keep bringing that up? I wasn't asking whether or not you people think I should stay or leave the site based on your preconceived notion of what my issues are.

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ORIGINAL: WickedestDesires


I have clicked on one profile today, ops aside. And the scamming master is looking to sell his whore or something for 12 000 Euros, but it requires half the cash up front. I feel sorry for the person whose pictures it has stolen. But their exits the possibility someone may have part with that cash on here or that other site.
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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

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ORIGINAL: CreamSoda52

I think there should be a list of terms and conditions relating to the use of the site, the "Terms of Service" if you will, detailing its intended use. I think there should also be an area dedicated to free expression and discussion, a "Forum" perhaps, where users can gather to share their thoughts on issues such as whether or not the ToS are being observed. Crazy idea, right?

Yeah... I think so too! I mean, what's the harm in that? Lol.


Thank you!

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ORIGINAL: Michael34786aa

I couldn't care less, as long as there upfront with it, and there not just stringing you along.
If you want to CRY, join ALT, and pay for a gold membership.

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

Oh? So you are saying that Collarspace.com is permitting this soliciting of sex industry workers? Because if that's the case then I think the users should be made aware of the intentions of this site. I personally dont want to be a member of a website that pretends to be a place for people with shared interests can connect and is really just a vehicle for gathering leads on potential customers for sex industry workers. You know, those are two very different things and collarspace.com should not tricking people into being bombarded by solicitors.


So the problem still lies... Indeed you are correct and that is precisely what I wanted to get at. Why is collarspace.com permitting it? Why then is the sites intention so misleading? Who likes being tricked like that?

Because it couldn't possibly serve both functions? Let people connect with and without money?

Face it, princess, the site does not exist for your sole pleasure. Ignore the profiles that don't suit your needs, or quit.

Look Boss,

This is not about self preservation here. I'm fighting the good fight for the good of all good people! Lol.

I don't know if it can function serving both functions! I'm not even trying to have that conversation! You quoted me on a response to someone that presented some of their thoughts in which I responded to because that's how communication works. Let's also not forget my response was hypothetical.

Might be good to remember that I only pose a question. I don't know why you assume my position on the topic. I did not share my opinion and I did not ask for anyone else's! I took documented information and posted it here asking why it seemed to conflict with the current status of many user profiles.

Where the fuck do I mention my needs? What are you talking about? Why do so many of you add to the conversation by projecting your own bullshit onto what other people say. Or does it make you feel good to attack people with attempts to pick apart everything they write as if that makes you look intelligent. You know how easy it is to be critical of other people? It's so easy, that people who are critical of others, often projecting their own flaws, are considered to be of poor character.

And why are you telling me to leave the site? Why do people keep bringing that up? I wasn't asking whether or not you people think I should stay or leave the site based on your preconceived notion of what my issues are.

"Hey, I'm just asking questions, how dare you assume I have an opinion?"

Considering you took the time to find reasons in the TOU why certain groups shouldn't exist, and took the time to write this angry mess of a thread, I'd say you do have an opinion but can't stand by it. You insist that the site is "tricking" people when that's obviously not the case. And now you're getting all defensive because people don't agree with you.

But yeah, go on trying to convince us you don't have an opinion on this topic. This wasn't a neutral discussion from the start, you're not fooling anyone.

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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

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ORIGINAL: Michael34786aa
No one asked if you cared.

But the whole universe including several billion people just couldn't live without your opinion. That's how forums like this work, the world as we know it would come to an end if you didn't post in them.

(in reply to kinkyAbstract)

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Oh, you mean there should be a forum for discussions?

You mean LIKE THE ONE YOU ARE BOTH ON?

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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

You're right. I'm not fooling anyone and I'm not trying to fool people. The are too many fools here already!

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: kinkyAbstract

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ORIGINAL: CreamSoda52

I think there should be a list of terms and conditions relating to the use of the site, the "Terms of Service" if you will, detailing its intended use. I think there should also be an area dedicated to free expression and discussion, a "Forum" perhaps, where users can gather to share their thoughts on issues such as whether or not the ToS are being observed. Crazy idea, right?

Yeah... I think so too! I mean, what's the harm in that? Lol.


Thank you!

Oh, you mean there should be a forum for discussions?

You mean LIKE THE ONE YOU ARE BOTH ON?