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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/21/2015 7:34:07 PM   
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I know. I was bored last night and needed some entertainment. But I really thought he would last longer before he ran out of delusional "facts" and resorted to just insults. Being off the board these last few days must have really thrown him off his game.


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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/23/2015 4:17:38 PM   
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And, then, when I kind of sort of figured out what it meant to the person making that idiotic comment,

Actually you didn't kinda sorta figure out what it meant to me, judging from the rest of your comment

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I simply concluded that the whole "JC on a cracker" point wasted our time,

'JC on a cracker" is not a point. It is simply an exclamation, along the lines of 'holy crap'. The meaning of the point that I was referring to, that of the level of arrogance apparent in your posts, would not change one iota were I to replace 'JC on a cracker' and stated "Holy hooters Batman! The arrogance is strong with this one."

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Now, if you truly think that the "JC on a cracker" point had deep intellectual meaning,

I don't. Never did. Where did you get that idea?

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please edify me,

I think many of us have figured out that that is not possible, nor am I particularly interested in doing so.

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as my googling didn't suffice to bring up anything related to the idiotic comment that was worth anyone the effort of googling for it.

I googled it and immediately came up with dozens of links to sites that explained exactly what it was.

And frankly, its not exactly a complex statement. I would think that a halfway intelligent person would be able to determine its meaning through context. Its called critical thinking. You should try it sometime.

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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/23/2015 9:38:28 PM   
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Its called critical thinking. You should try it sometime.


Thanks for the advice.

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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/24/2015 9:05:01 AM   
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Intellect simply means that you can UNDERSTAND the other person.

It doesn't even mean that you agree; but it means you can understand - and - that you can handle the necessary detail to understand.


Actually, that's factually incorrect. IQ has nothing to do with understanding. IQ relates to the speed at which a person can assimilate data, and reorganize their brain to accommodate new data if need be.

This impacts the total sum of knowledge a person has, especially as they get older, precisely because time is a limiting factor, but it doesn't reflect on understanding per se. An intelligent person will still need sufficient cogent data in order to reach understanding. No amount of IQ can make up for a plain lack in sufficient data, but because they're faster at forming new neuron pathways, they'll need less data than a person of lesser IQ to reach a similar level of understanding.

However, that doesn't mean that the person of lesser IQ cannot reach understanding. They can. It just will take more time and data to reach that point, but eventually they will. As such, you cannot look at the end result of what a person understands and predict how smart they are, because you do not know how much time they spent accumulating that understanding. The only reasonable accurate prediction in how intelligent other people are is by watching how fast they think.

PS: BTW, English is my third language and I've got zero education in it, either reading/writing or speaking. The English I know is from watching TV and reading. My writing is littered with mistakes and while I know the difference between their/there, etc, those type of mistakes are included as well. I know they are, and I don't care. Bettering my spelling will give me not a single advantage in life that my current level of English does not achieve, and therefore it would be a waste of my time to focus on perfecting it, because to do so would take time away from other pursuits which do very much enhance my life.

Your "grammar and spelling as a litmus test for IQ" only works on those people who see "writing English well" as a trade they find important and wish to hone because it advances their lives. Despite your little cocoon from which you view the human race and assume that everybody is like you, not even you can be delusional enough to assume that every person with a higher IQ necessarily has the same motives and goals you have. As soon as motives and goals are different, grammar ceases to be any indication at all of a person's intelligence, and instead reflects on the difference in priority they ascribe to language skills from you.

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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/24/2015 9:37:10 AM   
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I believe the ability to assimilate complexity is the fundamental measure of intelligence.



Assimilating complexity is a byproduct of intelligence, not its fundamental measure.
The fundamental measure is speed of assimilation. Higher speeds lead to the ability to handle more complexity, akin to how a top chef can handle a more complex recipe in the same time than the average home cook could.

However, just looking at how complex one's understanding is in a single area (or even a few areas) doesn't give you an accurate measure at what it took them to get there. Some people are so single mindedly stubborn that they throw themselves completely into the total understanding of one or a few topics. When they do so, they can achieve extremely high level of details in these topics despite relatively average IQs. At the same time, the level of mastery they achieve over said topics might have taken them trice the time it would have taken a person of extremely high intelligence to do so, even though their end result in understanding is the same.

If you would assess them based on nothing but the level of detail in their chosen topics while interacting with them, it would give you a highly inaccurate view, because you're failing to account what it took for them to achieve that level of detail.

Look for how fast people assimilate new data instead. It will give you a much better indicator as to their total capacity, because it will give you an indication -with the limited amount of time we all have available- of what their total capacity for detail spread across the board is.


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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/24/2015 3:09:56 PM   
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The fundamental measure is speed of assimilation.


I have never studied intellect as a philosophical entity; however, if I had to SIMPLIFY what intellect is, and then DEFEND it, philosophically, I'd soon get off the kick of the ability for handling grammatical detail and move on to measureing more specific PROBLEM-SOLVING skills.

Given the assignment to defend my idea of what intellect means, I'd probably argue it's more the ability to SOLVE an (often complex) problem more so than the mere SPEED at which one solves that problem or assimilates the detail inherent in understanding the problem.

Of course, the speed that they figure out the solution may play a key role, since complex problems aren't usually solved in the first pass, so, the more passes you can attempt in a given time, and the more the complexity of the data you can handle simultaneously, the more chances you'll have of solving the complex problem in a reasonable time frame.

However, to your point of speed of assimilation, I have taken many tests in my life, and ALL were timed (so speed of assimilation may play a role).

However, back to the point of grammatical intelligence, given the 50 to 70+ years of an average person's life, isn't THAT enough time to assimilate the myriad details inherent in the use of proper grammar?
Said a different way, if a person, after about 50 years of writing on Collarspace for example, can't figure out how to spell "sense" or how to correctly punctuate "they're", wouldn't you say their "speed" of assimilation is glacially slow?


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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/24/2015 4:17:26 PM   
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However, back to the point of grammatical intelligence, given the 50 to 70+ years of an average person's life, isn't THAT enough time to assimilate the myriad details inherent in the use of proper grammar?


It sure seems like it would be enough time. But, considering the fact that after twelve years of education high school seniors still have trouble identifying the eight major parts of speech, reality would prove otherwise.

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Said a different way, if a person, after about 50 years of writing on Collarspace for example, can't figure out how to spell "sense" or how to correctly punctuate "they're", wouldn't you say their "speed" of assimilation is glacially slow?

Language study is my thing. I myself have on occasion pointed out the random grammatical errors in someone's posts. Usually only after the grammar errors are part of a larger pile of bullshit that I am having to comment on as well. Otherwise, I leave them alone, even if they are a tad annoying. Why?

a) People are frequently multi-tasking, and easily overlook minor errors. Or they are typing from a device that has a small keyboard and they didn't enter the letter that they were trying to. Or the device auto-corrects words to something else (my phone has the terrible habit of changing 'you' to 'toy' and 'know' to 'kink'...I have started referring to it as a kink phone).

b) the whole purpose of language is communication, grammar is secondary. If people are still communicating well, if they are able to express their thoughts in a manner that conveys the intended meaning to their intended audience, then they have succeeded in realizing the number one goal of language. I can easily overlook a few minor errors, as long as the person is still communicating the ideas that they are trying to get across. I would take that any day over a grammar nazi that sounds smart and uses a lot of big words but makes things so complicated that they can't make people understand what it is they are trying to say.

c) Language is a living thing. Modern languages are constantly evolving. The languages that are spoken today are the result of the evolution of other languages, of changes that occur over time as people and society change, of habits that get picked up from repeated use. What some people feel the need to correct today may be the standard usage tomorrow. Whether it be meaning or structure. Just this year, the word 'literal' was defined as having another accepted definition-one that conflicts entirely with the original meaning but reflects a manner in which it is commonly used. Does everyone agree with that? No. But is it the reality of language development? Yes.



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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/24/2015 5:16:10 PM   
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Given the assignment to defend my idea of what intellect means, I'd probably argue it's more the ability to SOLVE an (often complex) problem more so than the mere SPEED at which one solves that problem or assimilates the detail inherent in understanding the problem.



Ability to solve problems shows very little, precisely because all problem solving skills in any area of life or field rely on prior acquired knowledge in order to even make an attempt. An African bushman with exceptional intelligence won't be able to solve the simplest of math problems if you hand it to him written down in algebraic form. Depending on his culture, and his culture's knowledge of numbers, he might not even be able to solve it if you present it to him in the form of four sticks in the dirt, because some cultures don't have knowledge of numbers over 3.

His inability to solve the problem won't tell you anything about his intelligence though, because his lack at ability to solve the problem is due to him not having the required preexisting knowledge necessary to solve it.

Now if you would sit down with him, and attempt to teach him the prerequisite knowledge he needs in order to solve simple math problems, the speed at which he is able to assimilate this entirely new information and way of thinking WILL, on the other hand, tell you a lot about his intelligence.

Any time you see any person solve any problem, the only indication of intelligence you get is how much preexisting knowledge they may have, which gives you only a tiny clue on their over all level of intelligence, because people who assimilate new data faster have the potential for having acquired more preexisting knowledge than those who think slower, in the same span of time. Thus, it's a fairly safe assumption that somebody who has vast amounts of preexisting knowledge in a vast area of subjects is probably rather smart, because they would have to be rather fast at accumulating such knowledge in order to have such a large collection of it (time being limited and all). The same assumption doesn't work the other way around though. Just because somebody lacks preexisting knowledge doesn't mean they're not able to acquire it. It might just mean that their focus has been somewhere entirely different, on different subjects, in different areas, that are totally not applicable to the specific problem you're putting in front of them.

Ability to solve a specific problem tells you nothing about intelligence levels, speed of accusation on prerequisites needed to solve problems does.

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However, back to the point of grammatical intelligence, given the 50 to 70+ years of an average person's life, isn't THAT enough time to assimilate the myriad details inherent in the use of proper grammar?
Said a different way, if a person, after about 50 years of writing on Collarspace for example, can't figure out how to spell "sense" or how to correctly punctuate "they're", wouldn't you say their "speed" of assimilation is glacially slow?



No, because your argument affirms the consequent. You assume that somebody who, on this message board, spells "sense" or "they're" incorrectly is unable to figure out how to spell it correctly.

My own posts are riddled with mistakes. I'm sure you can find instances of me misusing both of those examples (hell you might have pulled them from posts I've made on this thread, I don't know). That's not because I don't know how to use either correctly, it's because this boards is a recreational board on which I attach very little importance to spelling and grammar, beyond what is needed to get my point across.

I -like most touch typists- type much much slower than I think. Because of this I'm often 2-3 sentences ahead in constructing my posts while still typing out a previous sentence. Sometimes when I do this my brain puts in the spelling of the word I'm actively thinking of instead of the one I'm typing, especially in cases of your/you're and so on.

I also almost always multitask while writing on this board. Currently I've got a the tv on while writing, and for part of this post I was talking to my husband, while watching tv, while writing. As like above, sometimes when I do this my fingers end up typing out what I'm saying, or hearing, instead of the logical conclusion to the sentence I'm on. One of the funnier ways this phenomenon shows itself is when I'm writing in Flemish (my native tongue) to family. In Flemish the English word "the" is "de" and the pronunciation is almost exactly the same. Because of this I will frequently write "the" in otherwise entirely Flemish sentences while I'm multitasking in English (tv, music, conversation) when writing. According to your argument, that should be because I lack the ability to differentiate the English word "the" from the Flemish word "de". I would beg to differ.

I don't proof read on this forum, at all. Sometimes after posting I reread my post and catch errors in spelling or grammar, and when I do, I rarely bother to edit to correct them. I tend to only edit to make additions or fundamental changes to my posts. Why? Because I really don't give a hoot about spelling on this board. I don't attach important on correct language use here unless the use of incorrect language makes my posts more confusing to the reader.

Incidentally, when writing to family in casual conversation, I care about as little about spelling and grammar as I do on this board, so like here, when I catch a sentence where I replaced "de" with "the" I rarely bother editing to correct the error. My family is all fluent in English, so there is no need to edit. They will understand my meaning well enough. To go back and edit such trivialness adheres an importance of 'correct spelling' over 'not wasting time on unnecessary tasks' which I don't possess. In the hierarchy of 'things I spend my limited amount of time on', making sure that my grammar and spelling are correct on recreational writing is pretty damn low on the ladder.

I could do better. I could stop multi tasking, slow my thinking speed down, and focus on what I write. I could proofread my posts. Doing so would all but entirely eliminate mistakes in my posts. But why would I? I have better things to do with my time than focus my attention entirely on correcting my grammar and spelling on this board.

When you assume that mistakes in writing indicate a lack of ability, you assume that the person writing gives a fuck about minimizing mistakes. In any case where that's not true (and you can bet your ass that it's frequently not true on a board such as this) the mistakes give you no indication whatsoever of that person's ability to write flawlessly.

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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/24/2015 5:53:04 PM   
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Given the assignment to defend my idea of what intellect means, I'd probably argue it's more the ability to SOLVE an (often complex) problem more so than the mere SPEED at which one solves that problem or assimilates the detail inherent in understanding the problem.



Ability to solve problems shows very little, precisely because all problem solving skills in any area of life or field rely on prior acquired knowledge in order to even make an attempt. An African bushman with exceptional intelligence won't be able to solve the simplest of math problems if you hand it to him written down in algebraic form. Depending on his culture, and his culture's knowledge of numbers, he might not even be able to solve it if you present it to him in the form of four sticks in the dirt, because some cultures don't have knowledge of numbers over 3.

His inability to solve the problem won't tell you anything about his intelligence though, because his lack at ability to solve the problem is due to him not having the required preexisting knowledge necessary to solve it.

Now if you would sit down with him, and attempt to teach him the prerequisite knowledge he needs in order to solve simple math problems, the speed at which he is able to assimilate this entirely new information and way of thinking WILL, on the other hand, tell you a lot about his intelligence.

Any time you see any person solve any problem, the only indication of intelligence you get is how much preexisting knowledge they may have, which gives you only a tiny clue on their over all level of intelligence, because people who assimilate new data faster have the potential for having acquired more preexisting knowledge than those who think slower, in the same span of time. Thus, it's a fairly safe assumption that somebody who has vast amounts of preexisting knowledge in a vast area of subjects is probably rather smart, because they would have to be rather fast at accumulating such knowledge in order to have such a large collection of it (time being limited and all). The same assumption doesn't work the other way around though. Just because somebody lacks preexisting knowledge doesn't mean they're not able to acquire it. It might just mean that their focus has been somewhere entirely different, on different subjects, in different areas, that are totally not applicable to the specific problem you're putting in front of them.

Ability to solve a specific problem tells you nothing about intelligence levels, speed of accusation on prerequisites needed to solve problems does.

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However, back to the point of grammatical intelligence, given the 50 to 70+ years of an average person's life, isn't THAT enough time to assimilate the myriad details inherent in the use of proper grammar?
Said a different way, if a person, after about 50 years of writing on Collarspace for example, can't figure out how to spell "sense" or how to correctly punctuate "they're", wouldn't you say their "speed" of assimilation is glacially slow?



No, because your argument affirms the consequent. You assume that somebody who, on this message board, spells "sense" or "they're" incorrectly is unable to figure out how to spell it correctly.

My own posts are riddled with mistakes. I'm sure you can find instances of me misusing both of those examples (hell you might have pulled them from posts I've made on this thread, I don't know). That's not because I don't know how to use either correctly, it's because this boards is a recreational board on which I attach very little importance to spelling and grammar, beyond what is needed to get my point across.

I -like most touch typists- type much much slower than I think. Because of this I'm often 2-3 sentences ahead in constructing my posts while still typing out a previous sentence. Sometimes when I do this my brain puts in the spelling of the word I'm actively thinking of instead of the one I'm typing, especially in cases of your/you're and so on.

I also almost always multitask while writing on this board. Currently I've got a the tv on while writing, and for part of this post I was talking to my husband, while watching tv, while writing. As like above, sometimes when I do this my fingers end up typing out what I'm saying, or hearing, instead of the logical conclusion to the sentence I'm on. One of the funnier ways this phenomenon shows itself is when I'm writing in Flemish (my native tongue) to family. In Flemish the English word "the" is "de" and the pronunciation is almost exactly the same. Because of this I will frequently write "the" in otherwise entirely Flemish sentences while I'm multitasking in English (tv, music, conversation) when writing. According to your argument, that should be because I lack the ability to differentiate the English word "the" from the Flemish word "de". I would beg to differ.

I don't proof read on this forum, at all. Sometimes after posting I reread my post and catch errors in spelling or grammar, and when I do, I rarely bother to edit to correct them. I tend to only edit to make additions or fundamental changes to my posts. Why? Because I really don't give a hoot about spelling on this board. I don't attach important on correct language use here unless the use of incorrect language makes my posts more confusing to the reader.

Incidentally, when writing to family in casual conversation, I care about as little about spelling and grammar as I do on this board, so like here, when I catch a sentence where I replaced "de" with "the" I rarely bother editing to correct the error. My family is all fluent in English, so there is no need to edit. They will understand my meaning well enough. To go back and edit such trivialness adheres an importance of 'correct spelling' over 'not wasting time on unnecessary tasks' which I don't possess. In the hierarchy of 'things I spend my limited amount of time on', making sure that my grammar and spelling are correct on recreational writing is pretty damn low on the ladder.

I could do better. I could stop multi tasking, slow my thinking speed down, and focus on what I write. I could proofread my posts. Doing so would all but entirely eliminate mistakes in my posts. But why would I? I have better things to do with my time than focus my attention entirely on correcting my grammar and spelling on this board.

When you assume that mistakes in writing indicate a lack of ability, you assume that the person writing gives a fuck about minimizing mistakes. In any case where that's not true (and you can bet your ass that it's frequently not true on a board such as this) the mistakes give you no indication whatsoever of that person's ability to write flawlessly.

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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/24/2015 6:54:33 PM   
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it's more the ability to SOLVE an (often complex) problem more so than the mere SPEED at which one solves that problem or assimilates the detail inherent in understanding the problem.



As an addition after my edit button went away:

Speed at problem solving is far less relevant in judging intelligence than speed of new data assimilation.

Speed at solving a specific problem is attained by a number of things: having a lot of the prerequisite knowledge needed to solve that specific problem, experience solving that specific type of problem in the past, practice solving problems like it before with a focus on enhancing ones speed at it, fatigue levels, stress levels, etc...

The way somebody's speed will give you an indication of their intelligence is when they're assimilating new data to form a mental map (neuron pathways) that order the new information is such a way that it becomes useful for the purpose of implementing it for further problem solving. Smart people -all other things being equal- think and learn faster. Their brains are more plastic and they are more able at reordering neuron structures to form new pathways that incorporates new data in their previous mental maps. The way they handle information is more fluid, and they're more able to recognize patterns. Due to their enhanced pattern recognition, they are faster storing the new data in such a way that it becomes easily accessible for future use in relevant areas. This all translates in speed of acquisition when it comes to previously unmapped data.

It doesn't necessarily translate into speed solving any given specific problem though, because speed when solving problems is influenced by a lot of factors that aren't linked to intelligence. Although, all other things being equal, a smart person will solve a the same problem faster than an average person, a failure to solve a problem faster than an average person when all other factors are not equal is not an indication of lessor intelligence.

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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 1:43:27 AM   
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What was this thread about again?

Oh yes, I forgot, it was about how stoopid people who don't always type immaculately aren't clever enough to get the point, so should be ignored and shunned like the sub human specimens they clearly are.

Basic grammar has nothing to do with intelligence as has been pointed out eloquently by more than one poster, but it can be used as a flag for someone on the lookout to find a way to judge people as less worthy.

I may be a hopeless optimist but I am interested in everyone's views no matter how "intelligent" they are, no matter how intelligence is measured. Saying someone is less intelligent is no reason for disregarding their view. Another person may not get you, but they may see the world from a different and valuable perspective.

(Note the common usage of a singular subject mis-associated with a plural to avoid having to say he or she. Self-conscious but effective breaking of the high grammatical law. Warning - I will also use a text-speak abbreviation later just to really piss people off, if my inappropriate use of dashes has not already served that purpose.)

Why potentially discourage people from posting by questioning their intelligence? It's a select enough bunch on here as it is. Why not demean everyone until only the one true (grammatically correct) being remains in splendid isolation?

Only then that godlike creature would leave too because you can only feel superior when you have an audience to be superior to.

Btw the messages people get to their profiles are almost unbelievable, except, sadly, they're not.

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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 2:17:58 AM   
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I may be a hopeless optimist but I am interested in everyone's views no matter how "intelligent" they are, no matter how intelligence is measured. Saying someone is less intelligent is no reason for disregarding their view. Another person may not get you, but they may see the world from a different and valuable perspective.


Reminded me of this piece, that I memorized when I was 14 (bold mine):

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

© Max Ehrmann 1927

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Btw the messages people get to their profiles are almost unbelievable, except, sadly, they're not.


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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 9:08:56 AM   
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Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

© Max Ehrmann 1927



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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 9:15:30 AM   
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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 10:44:47 AM   
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When you assume that mistakes in writing indicate a lack of ability, you assume that the person writing gives a fuck about minimizing mistakes. In any case where that's not true (and you can bet your ass that it's frequently not true on a board such as this) the mistakes give you no indication whatsoever of that person's ability to write flawlessly.



I agree. Bad grammar is, to me (assuming you are writing in your native language), more an indication of laziness and disrespect...for yourself as much as others.

Which I personally consider as unappealing as low intelligence, so it's all the same to me.

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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 11:10:58 AM   
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I agree. Bad grammar is, to me (assuming you are writing in your native language), more an indication of laziness and disrespect...for yourself as much as others.



Please explain how not wasting my time on editing constitutes a form of disrespect. How exactly am I lacking in respect for others by not spending my time hunting down typos that do not impede reading comprehension at all (as I've already indicated that when I see typos that do impede reading comprehension, I do indeed edit)? I'm not insulting or belittling you, nor treating you with contempt or am being dismissive. I'm not hurting your feelings, nor going out of my way to make your life more difficult or inconvenience you in any way. I don't even require you (or encourage you for that matter) to read my posts.

In fact, I'm not really impacting your life in any meaningful way whatsoever. I'm not even slowing you down when you do choose to read my posts, because I'm not deliberately writing in txt speak that requires deciphering. All I'm doing is not wasting unnecessary time, on trivial stuff, that impacts neither of us.
How in the world that can be considered "disrespectful" is beyond me.

You on the other hand, apparently do expect me to negatively impact my own life for your sole benefit, regardless of the cost to me. You then issue a scornful insulting judgement when I politely refuse to adhere to your arbitrary (language being fluid and evolving over time and all) standards.
Talk about disrespect.

As far as laziness goes... actually, my choice not to edit on this board is the antithesis of laziness. My time on this board is recreational. It doesn't contribute to the overall productivity of my day. It's a leisure pursuit I use during breaks from my actual productivity.
As such posting on this board is in and off itself a form of laziness, because it prevents me from doing something actually useful with my time. More time spend editing takes more time away from productive pursuits and increases the laziness I exhibit when posting here, not decreases it. The more attention I pay to these posts, the more I edit, the more I proofread, the lazier I am being... usually because I'm actively trying to avoid going back to what I actually ought to be doing, but don't really have an other thread I have a reply for, and so I resort to 'perfecting' the posts I've actually made in order to prolong my pursuit for laziness instead of productivity.

I dare you to show me an example of how anybody spending more time posting on this board is being "more productive" and "less lazy" than somebody who spends less time posting on this board.




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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 12:02:25 PM   
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Not quite the sentiment you're going for, but it always makes me smile:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1NAwlepnSs



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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 2:55:27 PM   
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quote:

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I agree. Bad grammar is, to me (assuming you are writing in your native language), more an indication of laziness and disrespect...for yourself as much as others.



You on the other hand, apparently do expect me to negatively impact my own life for your sole benefit, regardless of the cost to me. You then issue a scornful insulting judgement when I politely refuse to adhere to your arbitrary (language being fluid and evolving over time and all) standards.
Talk about disrespect.



I did not mean you specifically... I meant it generally, as in "one".

It is my opinion, and you are welcome to ignore it. I very much doubt you care about my opinion in any case.

I do not expect you to do anything. When people's writing is torture to read, I do not - as you suggested - bother to read it. It does cause me to wonder why they bothered to write it though. Seems a futile exercise if the point is to be publicly heard.

All of this stuff...

quote:


I'm not insulting or belittling you, nor treating you with contempt or am being dismissive. I'm not hurting your feelings, nor going out of my way to make your life more difficult or inconvenience you in any way.


was not mentioned by me, nor implicit in my comment, so I don't know what you are on about there.

When people post to a public forum, it is implicit that they expect to be read. That said, writing in a clear and correct manner that is not torture to read does imply some level of respect for the reader... and not doing so, implies the opposite.

So when people write atrociously, I don't feel any of the things you detailed... I just don't feel any obligation of mutual respect to read what they have written.


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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 3:02:17 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

quote:

ORIGINAL: Bhruic

I agree. Bad grammar is, to me (assuming you are writing in your native language), more an indication of laziness and disrespect...for yourself as much as others.



You on the other hand, apparently do expect me to negatively impact my own life for your sole benefit, regardless of the cost to me. You then issue a scornful insulting judgement when I politely refuse to adhere to your arbitrary (language being fluid and evolving over time and all) standards.
Talk about disrespect.



I did not mean you specifically... I meant it generally, as in "one".

It is my opinion, and you are welcome to ignore it. I very much doubt you care about my opinion in any case.

I do not expect you to do anything. When people's writing is torture to read, I do not - as you suggested - bother to read it. It does cause me to wonder why they bothered to write it though. Seems a futile exercise if the point is to be publicly heard.



I was taking it as a general "you". I'm just an example of the "you" you're referring to, which is why I responded from my personal reaction to your position. You were after all talking about me, among others.

And if the writing of people who torture spelling and grammar is something you don't bother reading, then how on Earth exactly are they being disrespectful to you? They don't even impact you enough to notice the majority of the mistakes. How is an action that has no impact on you whatsoever disrespecting you?

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RE: Are The Messages Really True? - 9/25/2015 3:08:51 PM   
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I very much doubt you care about my opinion in any case.



And you'd be wrong about that.

Being exposed to other's opinions is exactly the reason I spend my leisure time on this board.

Exposure to viewpoints far removed from the ones you currently hold is one of the easiest ways to keep neuron pathways plastic and pliable.

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