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LadyPact -> RE: Serious question (10/27/2015 8:05:58 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Greta75
I dress completely incognito, infact, unless I am with a date, I dress to be invisible, blend in, and not be noticed. So I will probably never have a chance to experience someone asking me if I was into bdsm.
But..., I'm really puzzled as to why would it be an asshole thing to do? I mean, we are all into bdsm. It's like, if someone ask me if I was into inline skating, I am not gonna get offended, because I am into inline skating. Why the offense especially when it's true? Especially if someone like Joker is probably not asking in a derogatory manner because his into bdsm himself.
I mean, surely the tone and intention plays a bigger part?
I'm just puzzled as to, why is it offensive for someone to judge you by what you wear that you are into bdsm when it turn out to be true. Perhaps if he ask a vanilla girl who doesn't understand bdsm, and she might think it's disgusting and she would be offended, I could understand that. But all of us love bdsm! It's one of our loves.
Yeah, it may be one of our loves, but let's keep something in mind. Not everybody who is into kink is out. It's really no different than walking up to somebody in a convenience store and asking them if they are gay due to some trivial thing like a certain kind of haircut. It's honestly not the stranger's business if someone is kinky, gay, Catholic, a Republican, or anything else. It's a personal question coming from somebody who shouldn't be overstepping those boundaries.
Continuing with the theme that not everybody is out, how does some random stranger know that I don't happen to be in vanilla land with my boss, a co-worker, my landlord, an extended family member, or anybody else that it's not a good idea to have them overhear that I'm kinky? No stranger is getting close enough to me in a public place to whisper in my ear, so I'm put in the position of a) outing myself inappropriately or b) lying unless c) do what I'd do in the situation anyway and tell them it's none of their damn business.
Believe it or not, I'm not pumping gas or grabbing something from a convenience store in kink-type attire. When I'm in vanilla land, I'm dressed pretty much like any vanilla woman someone would happen to see. Like I said above, fall boots are very popular here. Leather jackets and skirts are also fashionable. I shop primarily at the same stores that vanilla women do, so 98% of anything I own is the same exact stuff that are bought by non kinky customers. The only time I wear kink attire is when I'm at or going to a kink event (excluding munches) and more often than not, I'll change when I get in the door. (Not to mention riding across town in an over the bust leather corset is rather uncomfortable.) Fantasies aside, most Dominant women aren't running to the convenience store in full leather, latex, or fishnet catsuits.
Like any other presenter, I do have occasions where someone has seen me do a class, recognize me at a later time, but I didn't meet them. (If you teach a ninety minute class and fifty or more people are in the seats, they will remember your name without you knowing theirs.) Most people call me LP. Calling me Lady Pact in the middle of a grocery store is probably a bad idea.
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